Friday, December 31, 2010

Happy New Year

Hi Everyone, Happy New Year! I have been having fun with these elf yourselves today. If you have the time check out the disco one of me Pete and Scotty on my other blog, I think you'll get a laugh out of it. I thought I would let my grandchildren wish you a Happy New Year too. We are just planning on getting Chinese food and staying at home. Then I'll probably just watch the ball drop by myself, or with Scotty. Pete never lasts until midnight, he is in to much of a routine from getting up early to work, and I understand, he works hard. It's just on nights like this is when I really do feel we are the elders in the family, the old fart's disease kicking in! I can't even remember what it was like to party late into the night, so do me a favor and party for me, and thanks ahead of time LOL!
Have a great night and stay safe,
Thanks for visiting my blog,
Love ya,
Janet :)

Wednesday, December 29, 2010

Show Us To Ourselves

Hello Everyone, I hope your doing well today, I found this inspirational saying on Photobucket and I love it, it is so true! I hope you all have a great day,
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Love ya,
Janet :)


Monday, December 27, 2010

New Horizons

Hello Everyone, I hope you all had a great holiday! On this Music Monday I was looking for a song that expresses how I feel about this year coming to an end and the New Year upon us. I was so happy to find this one by the Moody Blues, they were my Mother's favorite. How she would have loved this song and video. This year was a year of painful growth for me. I made many mistakes. I realize now that my false ego and other falsehoods, led me down some roads I wish I had never traveled. So I am saying goodbye to parts of me that I am glad to leave behind in 2010. As 2011 begins, I will carry forward all the lessons learned that have made me a better person today, and will continue to better me in the new year. Most of all I will carry the gifts that I needed so in order to grow, the gifts love and forgiveness.
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Janet :)

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Saturday, December 25, 2010

Merry Christmas

Hi Everyone, Merry Christmas. My favorite Christmas song is the Little Drummer Boy and I was happy to find the Celtic Woman singing it, I love them. I hope you enjoy the song and the fun light show. May your day be filled with love.
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Janet :)

Wednesday, December 22, 2010


Hi Everyone, I hope your doing well. I love these video poems by Deepak Chopra and various artists. They are very moving, and passionate. You can't help but feel that way when you listen to them. I suggest you check out the Bittersweet one too in my song of the day. Enjoy!
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Janet :)

Saturday, December 18, 2010

Postpartum Depression 2

Hi Everyone, How are you, I am doing great. I was so happy to see this important update in the treatment for Postpartum Depression in my NIMH updates toolbar just 6 days after I decided to post about this issue! I also realized I forgot to further explain on my last post that the reason I truly do believe this illness is what began my mother's mental health issues of 29 years is because her breakdown did occur right after the birth of her 4th child. She withdrew and lost too much weight and then psychosis set in, and from there, how she suffered, but endured. Being able to fulfill my purpose on this blog by sharing the progress that is being made in this area and all the other areas of mental health means more to me than I could ever put into words. Each time I do share important information I'd like to think my mom is smiling down on me and I am serving her memory well. If this helps even one women out there, then I have accomplished one of my most important goals in life.
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Janet :)

December 17, 2010

Postpartum depression may be one of the most under-recognized and under-treated disorders. Yet, it impacts the lives of hundreds of thousands of new mothers. This video looks at those who are at greatest risk of postpartum depression as well as ground breaking research into treatment for PPD.


Announcer: The biological changes in mothers –all mothers- after childbirth are very significant and important. But for some parents, this postpartum period can lead to a type of depression thought to be associated with drastic changes in hormone levels. Post partum depression is estimated to affect, perhaps, as many as 13-percent of all new mothers.

Dr. Peter Schmidt: So each year in the United States there are approximately half a million women who are at risk of developing postpartum depression. So, clearly this is an important condition to the public health of this country, these are prevalent conditions that are associated with considerable morbidity.

Kathleen O’Leary: Many women, probably at least fifty percent, experience what are called the baby blues for a week or two after giving birth where women may feel tearful… may feel emotionally very sensitive… may feel overwhelmed…not like themselves. And this is not unusual. If these symptoms go on for more than two weeks or become more intense or women start experiencing some of the other symptoms of depression, then they should really seek help.

Announcer: What started out as sleep deprivation issues transformed into more serious problems for one young mother who decided to participate in clinical research at the National Institute of Mental Health.

Patient: It was painful. When I think back it makes me sad because I wasn’t able to enjoy him as a newborn. Things got a little more intense with him not sleeping through the night and I just became a zombie. I kind of ignored it at first and then there was this one day I was in the kitchen I remember I was chopping onions I was making dinner and the thought came naturally and that’s what shocked me. I should just chop my fingers off or just chop my wrist off and that was just such a morbid thought. It scared me.

Kathleen O’Leary: If someone feels that they would be better off dead or that others would be better off without them, then that is the most serious sign that means that a medical professional needs to be consulted about this as soon as possible.

Announcer: Research has shown some women are at greater risk of experiencing postpartum depression including women who have had postpartum depression with a previous child. Women who have had depression, whether treated or untreated, at another time in their lives. As well as women who have bipolar disorder. Dr. Peter Schmidt and his fellow investigators at NIMH have conducted extensive research into postpartum depression its causes and possible treatments. Current research includes the indication that estradiol, a form of estrogen, has a rapid antidepressant effect on women with postpartum depression.

Dr. Peter Schmidt: Because of our earlier work it suggested that declining levels of estrogen during the postpartum around delivery might contribute to triggering the onset of depression. And there had been some preliminary open trials showing that estradiol may have an effective antidepressant action in some of these women. So, we have a study now in which we’re using estradiol, physiological levels, so comparable to what a woman would be exposed to during her normal cycle and we give that in a controlled trial to women who have current postpartum depression.

Announcer: The possibility of successful hormone treatment along with effective therapy has been very encouraging for many women.

Patient: I’m doing much better- much better. I’m more coherent in my thoughts. I can take a step back when the baby’s really upset and not get so frustrated or angry at him. He deserved a better mom and I think I’m that better mom for him now.

Wednesday, December 15, 2010

Live a Life That Matters

Hi Everyone, I hope you are all doing well. Last night I said goodbye to a dear man named Fred Hakala. He has been a part of my life since I was 11 years old and my sister married his son. I know this is said often about people who pass, but in Fred's case it is so true, to know him was to love him. I am so grateful that he was in my life and how he will be missed at all our family gatherings, especially at Christmas. He was a regular on my nephew's, (Robert Hakala) morning radio show every holiday season sharing the Finnish traditions, he was a funny guy to listen too. As Pete and I left his wake in our hometown of South Weymouth, I reflected on my life as we drove along, looking at our old stomping grounds too that now seem like a lifetime away. I couldn't help but feel a little sad that most of our families elders are gone, except my father in law. Now we are becoming the elders in the family. It's truly time for me to fulfill their roles and set a good example for the next generation. A responsibility I am ready to take on. At the same time I also thought about how blessed I have been to have had them all in my life. I thought about how grateful I am to still have the love of my life next to me that I met there almost 30 yrs ago. I realized as well that I am so fortunate to have another chance to start my life over this year. I will live a life that matters as Fred and his wife Doris and my Parents and Elsie did, all I have to do is follow their example, it's that simple. This is a tribute to their lives and inspiration for us to follow.
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Janet :)


Saturday, December 11, 2010

Postpartum Depression

Hi Everyone, Hope your doing well. I was watching Investigative TV last weekend and they were showing hour long stories on Mothers who took their own children's lives such as Andrea Yates. She had suffered from Postpartum Depression and was never treated for it. It reminded me that this is a very important issue to post about on this blog. I personally feel my mother suffered from this as well. At the young age of 25 she had already had 4 children, the first three all a year apart with very little support. The psychosis of this illness and the illness itself was unheard of in her time. So she was diagnosed Schizophrenic and endured shock therapy and the Thorazine shuffle for 29 years. I am just so grateful that she was able to get better treatment and live the rest of her life in such a healthier and happier way. I am also happy to know there is this awareness out there now for mothers. If you notice any of these symptoms in a loved one that has just had a baby, please help them. Early detection is crucial for both the mother and child.
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Janet :)


What is Postpartum Depression?

Postpartum depression is a treatable medical illness characterized by feelings of sadness, indifference, exhaustion and anxiety following the birth of your baby. It affects one in every ten women who have had a child, and can affect any woman, regardless of her age, race or economic background. It is not a character flaw or sign of personal weakness, and it does not mean that there is anything wrong with your ability to be a mother. The exact cause of postpartum depression is not known, but certain chemical changes that take place in your body during and after pregnancy may contribute to it.

It can be hard to talk about feeling depressed after having a baby, because of our society’s belief that this should be the "happiest time in your life." If you are suffering from postpartum depression, the time after you give birth feels anything but joyful. You may feel as if you aren’t a good mother, or that the baby would be better off without you. These feelings may make you feel ashamed, and you may feel that you should hide them from your family and friends. However, it is important that you tell someone, whether it is your health care provider, a family member, friend or clergy member, and that you seek help. You can feel better, and getting treatment early is the best thing you can do for yourself, your baby and the rest of your family.

What are the symptoms of postpartum depression?
* Feelings of sadness or "down"-ness that don’t go away
* Inability to sleep, even when the baby is sleeping
* Changes in appetite eating much more or much less
* Irritability, anger, worry, agitation, anxiety
* Inability to concentrate or make decisions
* Inability to enjoy things you used to; lack of interest in the baby; lack of interest in friends and family
* Exhaustion; feeling "heavy"
* Uncontrollable crying
* Feelings of guilt or worthlessness
* Feelings of hopelessness or despair
* Fear of being a "bad" mother, or that others will think you are
* Fear that harm will come to the baby

Postpartum Psychosis
With postpartum psychosis — a rare condition that typically develops within the first two weeks after delivery — the signs and symptoms are even more severe. Signs and symptoms of postpartum psychosis may include:

* Confusion and disorientation
* Hallucinations and delusions
* Paranoia
* Attempts to harm yourself or the baby

Get help right away if you have any thoughts of harming your baby or yourself. Tell a medical professional, clergy member, loved one or friend immediately.

What are some risk factors for postpartum depression?
* A history of depression during or after previous pregnancies
* A history of depression or bipolar disorder at any time
* A history of depression, bipolar disorder or postpartum depression in blood relatives
* Poor social support
* Unpleasant life events happening around the time of the pregnancy or birth
* Instability in your marriage or relationship
* Feeling unsure or ambivalent about your pregnancy

What can I do about postpartum depression?
* Talk to your doctor about all of your symptoms, your medical history and any medications or "natural" remedies you are using.
* Consider taking medication ask your doctor which medications are least likely to pass into breast milk.
* Consider psychotherapy find a therapist or counselor with whom you feel comfortable, who can help you cope with the feelings you are having.
* Do your own research to learn more about postpartum depression and its treatment at your local library or on the Internet.
* Become part of a support group, where you will be able to share your thoughts and feelings in a caring environment with people who have "been there."
* Eat balanced meals at regular times.
* Do light exercise, such as walking.
* Work with a therapist or counselor to develop stress reduction techniques.
* Give family and friends opportunities to help you, such as doing housework or watching older children.
* Use a journal to express your thoughts and feelings, and record changes in your moods.

Friday, December 3, 2010

Friday Funnies

Hi Everyone, Happy Friday! I have been waiting for the best of Ari Gold season 7. Although the Ari character was not as funny as he usually is in the other seasons, I thought I would still share it with all of you who might enjoy a laugh or two from it. I have been enjoying HBO's new show Boardwalk too, it is like the Soprano's but in the olden days, it has it's share of sex, murder, thieves, you know all that good stuff LOL! I think you will LYAO at the Tru TV's clips of these drinkers, especially the "One more for the Road" clip. Enjoy!
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Love ya,
Janet :)

Warning, Ari uses his usual offensive language and thoughts!

Tuesday, November 30, 2010

The Truth

Hi Everyone, How are ya? I am doing good. I got these Truths from my friend on facebook and Sandee at . I think you will all relate to them and have a laugh for yourself! Enjoy,
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Love ya,
Janet :)

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Truths - Part I

1. I think part of a best friend's job should be to immediately clear your computer history if you die.

2. Nothing sucks more than that moment during an argument when you realize you're wrong.

3. I totally take back all those times I didn't want to nap when I was younger.

4. There is great need for a sarcasm font.

5. How the hell are you supposed to fold a fitted sheet?

6. Was learning cursive really necessary?

7. Map Quest really needs to start their directions on # 5. I'm pretty sure I know how to get out of my neighborhood.

8. Obituaries would be a lot more interesting if they told you how the person died.

9. I can't remember the last time I wasn't at least kind of tired.

10. Bad decisions make good stories.

11. You never know when it will strike, but there comes a moment at work when you know that you just aren't going to do anything productive for the rest of the day.

12. Can we all just agree to ignore whatever comes after Blue Ray? I don't want to have to restart my collection...again.

13. I'm always slightly terrified when I exit out of Word and it asks me if I want to save any changes to my ten-page technical report that I swear I did not make any changes to.

14. "Do not machine wash or tumble dry" means I will never wash this - ever.

15. I hate when I just miss a call by the last ring (Hello? Hello? **** it!), but when I immediately call back, it rings nine times and goes to voice mail. What did you do after I didn't answer? Drop the phone and run away?

16. I hate leaving my house confident and looking good and then not seeing anyone of importance the entire day. What a waste.

Truths - Part II

1. I keep some people's phone numbers in my phone just so I know not to answer when they call.

2. I think the freezer deserves a light as well.

3. I disagree with Kay Jewelers. I would bet on any given Friday or Saturday night more kisses begin with Miller Lite than Kay.

4. I wish Google Maps had an "Avoid Ghetto" routing option.

5. Sometimes, I'll watch a movie that I watched when I was younger and suddenly realize I had no idea what the heck was going on when I first saw it.

6. I would rather try to carry 10 over-loaded plastic bags in each hand than take 2 trips to bring my groceries in.

7. The only time I look forward to a red light is when I'm trying to finish a text.

8. I have a hard time deciphering the fine line between boredom and hunger.

9. How many times is it appropriate to say "What?" before you just nod and smile because you still didn't hear or understand a word they said?

10. I love the sense of camaraderie when an entire line of cars team up to prevent a jerk from cutting in at the front. Stay strong, brothers and sisters!

11. Shirts get dirty. Underwear gets dirty. Pants? Pants never get dirty, and you can wear them forever.

12. Is it just me or do high school kids get dumber & dumber every year?

13. There's no worse feeling than that millisecond you're sure you are going to die after leaning your chair back a little too far.

14. As a driver I hate pedestrians, and as a pedestrian I hate drivers, but no matter what the mode of transportation, I always hate bicyclists.

15. Sometimes I'll look down at my watch 3 consecutive times and still not know what time it is.

16. Even under ideal conditions people have trouble locating their car keys in a pocket, finding their cell phone, and Pinning the Tail on the Donkey - but I'd bet my *** everyone can find and push the snooze button from 3 feet away, in about 1.7 seconds, eyes closed, first time, every time!

Friday, November 26, 2010

Progress in Schizophrenia Research

Hi Everyone, How are ya, I am so excited to share this information on the progress researchers are making in the fight against Schizophrenia. Focusing on preventative measures as we do with Heart Disease will lead to a better quality of life for everyone who is inflicted with this disease. I know the horrors of psychosis as I watched my mother suffer from hallucinations and delusions many times growing up with her, which I believe started with post partum depression, too many children to close together will do that to a women. Now they are focusing on developing biomarkers for early detection and treatments that can preempt psychosis! Schizophrenia unfortunately is still thought of by society for the most part as a personality disorder, like two people in one mind. It is so far from that, it is simply a person who was born with a brain that was not developed normally in the womb. I included an MRI photo of twins for all of you to see what I mean, one with Schizophrenia and one without. I will be following the progress of this research and share it with all of you as I am updated. What a great day it will be won't it when medicine can finally help end hell that people live in with this disease.
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Love ya,
Janet :)

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From Cognition to Genomics: Progress in Schizophrenia Research

This week’s issue of Nature has a special section dedicated to research progress on schizophrenia. There have been few such issues dedicated to any medical disorder, so this is a landmark for schizophrenia research, a follow-up perhaps to an editorial in Nature at the beginning of this year predicting a “decade for psychiatric disorders”. But beyond the mere fact that schizophrenia has been singled out for this distinction, the contents document remarkable progress on a disorder that has been such a conundrum for the past century.

For one thing, schizophrenia can now be described as a brain disorder or, more precisely, as a disorder of brain circuits. With neuroimaging, several of the major nodes in the circuit have been identified, especially within the prefrontal cortex. A major advance has been linking changes in circuit function to cognition and behavior. As a result, we are increasingly focusing on the cognitive deficits of schizophrenia as the core problem, preceding and perhaps leading to the more obvious positive symptoms of hallucinations and delusions.

Another area of unambiguous progress has been genomics. Five years ago the field was frustrated by the lack of replicated findings. With the creation of international consortia sharing data from thousands of patients, we can now see several of the major risk genes. They are not the usual suspects, such as genes involved in dopamine or serotonin neurotransmission. Common variants in genes from the MHC complex, which is important for immune self-recognition, a gene for a transcription factor called TCF4, and several genes that encode synaptic proteins have all been found to confer increased risk. The list is probably not complete as together these explain only a fraction of the genetic risk for the disorder. Many rare variants have also been described in the past year, adding to the known major structural lesions like DISC1 and the 22q11 deletion. These rare events may explain only a small fraction of cases, but as with hypertension and cancer, even rare mutations that cause disease can yield important clues to the pathophysiology underlying more common forms of disease.

From genomics have come clues to the importance of reconceptualizing schizophrenia as a neurodevelopmental disorder. Many of the genetic factors are involved with neurodevelopment; hardly surprising as thousands of genes must be expressed in a carefully choreographed sequence to develop a healthy brain. What is unexpected is that many of the genetic variations associated with schizophrenia appear to disrupt fragments of proteins expressed only in fetal development. And experimental reductions of DISC1 transiently during fetal development in mice have profound effects on physiology and behavior, emerging only in early adulthood. These kinds of observations, along with reports of prenatal and perinatal environmental factors that increase risk for schizophrenia, point to a model of schizophrenia that begins early in life, with subtle cognitive effects through much of development, and emergence of psychosis as a late stage in early adulthood.

If psychosis is a late stage of schizophrenia, analogous to myocardial infarction in coronary artery disease, then we need to develop biomarkers for early detection and treatments that can preempt psychosis. This is where the next decade of research could lead. If the core deficits are cognitive, the “biomarker” for detection might be a working memory task or some assessment of executive function. And the treatments to preempt psychosis might not resemble anti-psychotic medications. Instead of medication, imagine brain training to rewire the circuitry just as we use exercise to reduce cardiac risk. Continuing the coronary artery disease analogy, drugs such as marijuana might be, for someone at risk for psychosis, analogous to the high lipid diet for someone at risk for coronary disease: something that needs to be avoided.

Over the past half-century, we have learned to diagnose coronary artery disease well before a heart attack using tests of cardiovascular risk factors and function. We have averted millions of cardiac deaths through preventive measures such as diet, exercise, and medications for those at risk. For the past century, schizophrenia has been defined by psychosis and we have made too little progress for too many people challenged by this disorder. This issue of Nature marks new hope that we can develop a preemptive approach to schizophrenia, as done for cardiac disease.

There have been many apparent breakthroughs for schizophrenia over the past several decades, followed by non-replication or findings suggesting lack of treatment effectiveness. Finally, we are making real progress on many fronts, from cognition to genomics. As the articles in Nature note, we still have a long way to go. But this is an important moment to recognize – the “decade for psychiatric disorders” has begun.
Posted by Thomas Insel on the NAMI Blog

Thursday, November 4, 2010

In Our Own Voice

Hello Everyone, I was so excited when I found this program on the NAMI website. This is exactly what we need in our society to help end the Stigma that still surrounds Mental Illness. Education does end the fear of the unknown, and that is what I personally feel still fuels the Stigma. Just think if we reach the next generation by humanizing people with Mental Illness and showing them in person that there is hope and recovery, Stigma could some day become a thing of the past. I can't help but have that hope. I plan on contacting my local NAMI to find out if I can bring this program to my local schools. Please join me if you can by clicking the link to your state and local affiliate and help spread the hope and inspiration through education.
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Janet :)

What is IOOV?

The In Our Own Voice program and its impact on participant's lives... in their own voice.

In Our Own Voice (IOOV) is a unique public education program developed by NAMI, in which two trained consumer speakers share compelling personal stories about living with mental illness and achieving recovery.

The program was started with a grant from Eli Lily and Company.

IOOV is an opportunity for those who have struggled with mental illness to gain confidence and to share their individual experiences of recovery and transformation.

Throughout the IOOV presentation, audience members are encouraged to offer feedback and ask questions. Audience participation is an important aspect of IOOV because the more audience members become involved, the closer they come to understanding what it is like to live with a mental illness and stay in recovery.

IOOV presentations are given to consumer groups, students, law enforcement officials, educators, providers, faith community members, politicians, professionals, inmates, and interested civic groups.

All presentations are offered free of charge.

Groups or organizations interested in seeing a presentation may request that one be given in their area through their state or local affiliate.

The goals of IOOV are to meet the need for consumer- run initiatives, to set a standard for quality education about mental illness from those who have been there, to offer genuine work opportunities, to encourage self-confidence and self-esteem in presenters, and to focus on recovery and the message of hope.

Anyone familiar with mental illness knows that recovery is not a singular event, but a multi-dimensional, multi-linear journey characterized more by the mindset of the one taking it than by his or her condition at any given moment along the way.

Understanding recovery as having several dimensions makes its uneven course easier to accept. Much as we don't blame the cancer patient for dying of invasive tumors, we can't condemn a consumer whose symptoms overtake his or her best efforts to manage illness.

Recovery is the point in someone's illness in which the illness is no longer the first and foremost part of his or her life, no longer the essence of all his or her existence. Ultimately, recovery is about attitude and making the effort.

Key Presentation Topics

In Our Own Voice is a unique recovery education presentation that offers hope and provides insight into the recovery now possible for people with mental illness. IOOV is often a transformative experience for presenters, who are empowered by giving voice to their struggles and successes. Presenters cover issues they frequently face while living with mental illness as they delve into the following topics:

Dark Days – Recovery from a serious mental illness can be a long, difficult journey. During the Dark Days portion of the presentation, the speakers explore feelings and experiences that occurred during the darkest moments of living with a mental illness.

Acceptance – Learning to accept the reality of having a serious mental illness is quite a challenge. It can be hard for anyone to come to terms with having a serious illness, no matter what it is. Acceptance is essential to beginning recovery. While sharing the period of acceptance, each presenter explains how acceptance is achieved.

Treatment – There are many methods for treating mental illness. Every person is different, and this is the reason that there are many ways to walk down the path to recovery. Presenters explain what treatment plan worked for them during this segment.

Coping Strategies – Wellness can be achieved by following a treatment plan and incorporating personal coping skills as an integral part of that plan. Some common coping skills include: making time for leisure activities and rest, excercising, engaging in spiritual activities, developing healthy friendships, getting involved with community charities, and finding ways to keep a sense of self awareness and acceptance. During this section, presenters share their own coping skills with the audience.

Successes, Hopes and Dreams - IOOV Presenters have a variety of skills and ambitions. A key component of recovery is setting goals while pursuing personal dreams. Many consumers incorporate what they’ve learned from their illness into activities and plans for their future. During this section presenters share their own successes, hopes, and dreams.

Sunday, October 31, 2010

I Got A Rock

Hi Everyone, How are you, I Hope your having a fun Halloween weekend. My son Scott had a Halloween Party for his club at School. I had so much fun getting everything set up for it, and they all had a blast because me and Pete stayed out in our room above the Garage! They are a great group of kids, I am so happy for him that he found a club with kids that all like the same thing as he does, Japanese Culture. I got to go with Briana and Christopher on Thursday to a music class that Christa found for them. I have to say, I am having so much fun being a Mimi, Pumpkin Picking, Music class and just being with them! I loved the idea this mom came up with for her twin boys that were at the music class, Thing One and Thing Two! I was looking for some funny Halloween clips on Youtube and came across my favorite part of the "It's The Great Pumpkin Charlie Brown". Don't we all have days where we feel like all we got is a rock LOL! And just for laughs I thought I would share this Charlie Brown Stoner one, I guess he suffered the same fate as other child actors, who knew?? I hope you enjoy the videos & pictures. Have a Great Halloween!
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Love ya,
Janet :)

A Little Blurry but they are all
I could get for pictures :)

Thursday, October 28, 2010

Men And Eating Disorders

Hello Everyone, I hope you are doing good. It is true that Eating Disorders are primarily thought of as a Women's issue, but today more and more men and boys are feeling the pressure of looking good as well. Being aware of this could help a young male in your life before it gets to far along for them. If you need to, refer back to my post on Eating Disorders for the signs. With men and boys you need to also be aware of steroid use, especially if you see major changes in their muscular structure.
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Janet :)

Gawd Damn!!
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How Are Men And Boys Affected?

Although eating disorders primarily affect women and girls, boys and men are also vulnerable. One in four preadolescent cases of anorexia occurs in boys, and binge-eating disorder affects females and males about equally.

Like females who have eating disorders, males with the illness have a warped sense of body image and often have muscle dysmorphia, a type of disorder that is characterized by an extreme concern with becoming more muscular. Some boys with the disorder want to lose weight, while others want to gain weight or "bulk up." Boys who think they are too small are at a greater risk for using steroids or other dangerous drugs to increase muscle mass.

Boys with eating disorders exhibit the same types of emotional, physical and behavioral signs and symptoms as girls, but for a variety of reasons, boys are less likely to be diagnosed with what is often considered a stereotypically "female" disorder.

How Are We Working To Better Understand And Treat Eating Disorders?

Researchers are unsure of the underlying causes and nature of eating disorders. Unlike a neurological disorder, which generally can be pinpointed to a specific lesion on the brain, an eating disorder likely involves abnormal activity distributed across brain systems. With increased recognition that mental disorders are brain disorders, more researchers are using tools from both modern neuroscience and modern psychology to better understand eating disorders.

One approach involves the study of the human genes. With the publication of the human genome sequence in 2003, mental health researchers are studying the various combinations of genes to determine if any DNA variations are associated with the risk of developing a mental disorder. Neuroimaging, such as the use of magnetic resonance imaging (MRI), may also lead to a better understanding of eating disorders.

Neuroimaging already is used to identify abnormal brain activity in patients with schizophrenia, obsessive-compulsive disorder and depression. It may also help researchers better understand how people with eating disorders process information, regardless of whether they have recovered or are still in the throes of their illness.

Conducting behavioral or psychological research on eating disorders is even more complex and challenging. As a result, few studies of treatments for eating disorders have been conducted in the past. New studies currently underway, however, are aiming to remedy the lack of information available about treatment.

Researchers also are working to define the basic processes of the disorders, which should help identify better treatments. For example, is anorexia the result of skewed body image, self esteem problems, obsessive thoughts, compulsive behavior, or a combination of these? Can it be predicted or identified as a risk factor before drastic weight loss occurs, and therefore avoided?

These and other questions may be answered in the future as scientists and doctors think of eating disorders as medical illnesses with certain biological causes. Researchers are studying behavioral questions, along with genetic and brain systems information, to understand risk factors, identify biological markers and develop medications that can target specific pathways that control eating behavior. Finally, neuroimaging and genetic studies may also provide clues for how each person may respond to specific treatments.

Monday, October 25, 2010

Music Monday

Hello Everyone, Hope your doing well this Music Monday. I came across this music/poem video spoken by Madonna & Francis Ford Coppola and had to share it with all of you. It was written by Rumi. I was so moved by these words, along with the sounds & beauty of it, for I have lived these words. I know this will move some of you out there that, like me, have woken up one day and found we were having an hallucination about love, woken up to find our friends had become strangers, and even worse, friends that have become enemies. But most of all I know you, like me, know how bittersweet it is to finally be under the moonlight, in that garden, with that intoxicating love we all yearn for. (Yes,it did move me that deep!!) Enjoy!
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Sunday, October 24, 2010

Love Is The Essential Reality

Hello Everyone, I felt like sharing a little inspiration with all of you today. I personally feel the same as this inspirational saying, to truly experience unconditional love within ourselves and towards others is to be living the true meaning of life.
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Friday, October 22, 2010

Friday Funnies

Hi Everyone, Happy Friday! These are short but funny! I have posted a couple of these in the past on my other blog, but they are worth a second laugh. Don't you have those days where you would like to fly away with a Unicorn to a magical palace, I know I do LOL! Hope you enjoy them :)
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Right on the Money!

Not Funny, But Funny!

My Kinda Girl! Her expressions are priceless :)

Get me this Dentist's Phone Number Please LOL!!

Tuesday, October 19, 2010

Eating Disorders

Hello Everyone, Hope your doing well today. Today I wanted to share this information with all of you. I am sure most of you are familiar with these disorders. I still feel though it is not talked about enough and that many more of us are suffering out there then is being reported. I personally could develop one of these disorders easily out of the fear of aging and getting fat, but instead I continue to walk and that keeps me happy with myself. Now not only do we live in a world were we are bombarded by the media at a young age as to what "real beauty" is, we now live in a world that Women are looking younger and younger because of Botox and many other surgical enhancements. So I have no doubt these disorders are affecting many women my age as well. Staying thin is on the top of the list in Women's minds to maintain that younger look I'm sure. So bottom line is these Disorders do not discriminate, they are across the board with age I feel. Most important of all is to remember is that these disorders are not just about weight and looking good on the outside. It is about how you feel about yourself inside as demonstrated in the picture below. Being aware of the signs within yourself or your family will be key to preventing these disorders and maintaining a healthy lifestyle.
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An eating disorder is marked by extremes. It is present when a person experiences severe disturbances in eating behavior, such as extreme reduction of food intake or extreme overeating, or feelings of extreme distress or concern about body weight or shape.

A person with an eating disorder may have started out just eating smaller or larger amounts of food than usual, but at some point, the urge to eat less or more spirals out of control. Eating disorders are very complex, and despite scientific research to understand them, the biological, behavioral and social underpinnings of these illnesses remain elusive.

The two main types of eating disorders are anorexia nervosa and bulimia nervosa. A third category is "eating disorders not otherwise specified (EDNOS)," which includes several variations of eating disorders. Most of these disorders are similar to anorexia or bulimia but with slightly different characteristics. Binge-eating disorder, which has received increasing research and media attention in recent years, is one type of EDNOS.

Eating disorders frequently appear during adolescence or young adulthood, but some reports indicate that they can develop during childhood or later in adulthood. Women and girls are much more likely than males to develop an eating disorder. Men and boys account for an estimated 5 to 15 percent of patients with anorexia or bulimia and an estimated 35 percent of those with binge-eating disorder. Eating disorders are real, treatable medical illnesses with complex underlying psychological and biological causes. They frequently co-exist with other psychiatric disorders such as depression, substance abuse, or anxiety disorders. People with eating disorders also can suffer from numerous other physical health complications, such as heart conditions or kidney failure, which can lead to death.

Anorexia Nervosa
Anorexia nervosa is characterized by emaciation, a relentless pursuit of thinness and unwillingness to maintain a normal or healthy weight, a distortion of body image and intense fear of gaining weight, a lack of menstruation among girls and women, and extremely disturbed eating behavior. Some people with anorexia lose weight by dieting and exercising excessively; others lose weight by self-induced vomiting, or misusing laxatives, diuretics or enemas.

Many people with anorexia see themselves as overweight, even when they are starved or are clearly malnourished. Eating, food and weight control become obsessions. A person with anorexia typically weighs herself or himself repeatedly, portions food carefully, and eats only very small quantities of only certain foods. Some who have anorexia recover with treatment after only one episode. Others get well but have relapses. Still others have a more chronic form of anorexia, in which their health deteriorates over many years as they battle the illness.

According to some studies, people with anorexia are up to ten times more likely to die as a result of their illness compared to those without the disorder. The most common complications that lead to death are cardiac arrest, and electrolyte and fluid imbalances. Suicide also can result.

Many people with anorexia also have coexisting psychiatric and physical illnesses, including depression, anxiety, obsessive behavior, substance abuse, cardiovascular and neurological complications, and impaired physical development.

Other symptoms may develop over time, including:
* thinning of the bones (osteopenia or osteoporosis)
* brittle hair and nails
* dry and yellowish skin
* growth of fine hair over body (e.g., lanugo)
* mild anemia, and muscle weakness and loss
* severe constipation
* low blood pressure, slowed breathing and pulse
* drop in internal body temperature, causing a person to feel cold all the time
* lethargy

Bulimia Nervosa
Bulimia nervosa is characterized by recurrent and frequent episodes of eating unusually large amounts of food (e.g., binge-eating), and feeling a lack of control over the eating. This binge-eating is followed by a type of behavior that compensates for the binge, such as purging (e.g., vomiting, excessive use of laxatives or diuretics), fasting and/or excessive exercise.

Unlike anorexia, people with bulimia can fall within the normal range for their age and weight. But like people with anorexia, they often fear gaining weight, want desperately to lose weight, and are intensely unhappy with their body size and shape. Usually, bulimic behavior is done secretly, because it is often accompanied by feelings of disgust or shame. The binging and purging cycle usually repeats several times a week. Similar to anorexia, people with bulimia often have coexisting psychological illnesses, such as depression, anxiety and/or substance abuse problems. Many physical conditions result from the purging aspect of the illness, including electrolyte imbalances, gastrointestinal problems, and oral and tooth-related problems.

Other symptoms include:
* chronically inflamed and sore throat
* swollen glands in the neck and below the jaw
* worn tooth enamel and increasingly sensitive and decaying teeth as a result of exposure to stomach acids
* gastroesophageal reflux disorder
* intestinal distress and irritation from laxative abuse
* kidney problems from diuretic abuse

Eating disorders are treatable diseases
Psychological and medicinal treatments are effective for many eating disorders. However, in more chronic cases, specific treatments have not yet been identified.

In these cases, treatment plans often are tailored to the patient's individual needs that may include medical care and monitoring; medications; nutritional counseling; and individual, group and/or family psychotherapy. Some patients may also need to be hospitalized to treat malnutrition or to gain weight, or for other reasons.

Saturday, October 16, 2010

T.I. My Hero

Hi Everyone, How are ya, Happy Saturday! I just realized I haven't posted here in a few days, shame, shame, I guess I was enjoying being a slacker this week! I was so happy to see that Rapper T.I took the time to stop and help this man down from the edge. Now some are calling it a publicity stunt, but I don't think so. Society is so full of haters and doubters, sad really. I think he truly cared, if it turns out otherwise than so be it. I get the impression he is a caring human being like most of us. Most of all that day, society didn't want to deal with the fact a man was on the ledge, Hello people, can we talk about that??? Not one person talked about the suicide attempt that day on the all the videos I watched. Not one person cared to say how is that man doing, it was all T.I this and T.I that! Yes my friends, hurts me to say this, but Stigma is still going strong. Although you probably already know that. It just infuriates me, I can't help it!! Anyway,(took a deep breath, letting it go)LOL! You would not believe all the hits I get on this blog for people searching google or any search engine for help with "depressed teens", and depression, suicide. It is going on in so many lives, yet we just can't as a society rap our brains around it and people know that, so they seek help in private until they cannot do it anymore. I'm posting this video and song again too, that I just love. Most of all I love what he says in the beginning, Life is an interesting journey, you never know where it'll take you. We all have our Peaks and Valleys for sure. He is trying to get his life on track right now, I wish him the best, I have nothing but empathy for him. The past few days I have been feeling more upbeat, I think I'm finally at the point I am truly ready to forgive myself. I gotta let it go, just let it go. I screwed up for a little while, so what, I'm human and it's only a small fraction of my life, my journey. My mistakes are pale in comparison to the bigger picture around me. I have to appreciate every thing I have today, right here and now. God wanted me here to enjoy today, otherwise I would not have survived until today, there were many times in my youth as well I can't believe I survived. So much lies ahead for me. So for now on every day, as Rihanna says, but in my own way, I'm going to keep on climbing, and when I fall into one of those days that I just don't want to climb anymore, I am going to force myself to work even harder to look in the mirror and keep on shining! It is a battle everyday for me, but I think I'm going to win it! Today we should all take the time to pray, in whatever way you do,(I just talk to my higher power) for everyone who is suffering like that man was that day. It can't hurt and it takes you out of your own stuff!
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Janet :)

Tuesday, October 12, 2010

Friendship Wish

Hi Everyone, I hope your doing well. Well I did it, I applied to UMass Boston, I unfroze!! I talked over some things with my counselor about getting my Master's Degree and she suggested the fastest way to get me back out in the workforce. They offer a certificate in Gernotology which is just a few classes short of a Master's Degree in the field. I can work sooner and finish my Master's while getting experience. I am going to look into volunteering at the local Hospital too in their new Gernotology Department, that way I get my foot in the door and then hopefully I can stay their when I finish the certificate! So as soon as I got home that day I applied, for some reason it gave me the confidence to try. I am going to call my counselor EM for now on when I write about her. She has become my only women friend right now and it is nice to have someone besides your family that truly cares for you. She told me last week that she makes me visit her weekly to make sure I don't fall into a deep depression, because she said she might herself being in my shoes and she feels bad that I have to go through what I do, even though it was my fault. She just shakes her head at all I have to do to pay for my mistake. She keeps reminding me that what I did was just a poor choice, learn from it and still love yourself. Finally someone that has a little compassion! Tonight as I finished my walk on my treadmill, for a moment I cried because I began to think about that, that I have no girlfriends around to talk to, to go out with and that hurt. What ever happened to a tried and true friend? Someone who stood by you when you needed them and accepted you, faults and all. I know how our lives get busy and we can just always facebook, but I miss the real thing. If not for Em and my family watching out for me I realize I would have probably slipped into a deep depression by now. I have been there some days and that is not where I want to stay. This poem really is what I am feeling tonight and I wanted to share it with those of you who can relate. I'm just someone who needs a kind word, forgiveness. I was walking to this song tonight because can relate to this song from Michael as well, not to the degree he did, but I know what it is like to feel judged. And I know I will not lose faith that in the future as I travel down these new paths I will find that special friend and truly feel free of my past and judgements.
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Love ya,
Janet :)

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Don't You Wrong or Right Me!

Friday, October 8, 2010

Friday Funnies

Hello Everyone, Happy Friday! Here are some funny clips I found searching around the internet, hope you have a laugh for yourself.
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Janet :)


An App for that too?

Tuesday, October 5, 2010

National Depression Screening Day

Hello Everyone, I hope your doing well. Thursday is National Depression Screening Day. I personally feel this is a very important day to help you or a loved one you know that may be suffering from depression. It is the most treatable mental illness there is. Often people find themselves just stuck and don't know how to get help. So please if you think you or a loved one is in need of help, take the time to do a screening. You may take a screening at home or find a local clinic with the links I provided below. Life is waiting, time to go live it :)
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Janet :)


Got the Blues? You Are Not Alone
One in 10 Americans is clinically depressed, but less than half are getting treated for it, according to a new survey.

National Depression Screening Day is October 7th

Ever feel like you are the only one who is sad in a world of happy people? Everyone experiences stress, sadness and anxiety from time to time – it's part of life. These feelings often happen when you a lose a job, children move away from home, during divorce, with a death in the family, or during retirement. But when changes in mood and behavior interfere with one’s ability to work, sleep, eat, and enjoy once pleasurable activities, it could be a sign of depression. National Depression Screening Day (NDSD) gives people the opportunity to take a free, anonymous questionnaire assessing their risk for mood and anxiety disorders and provides referral information for treatment.

Take an Anonymous Screening

Saturday, October 2, 2010

Self Sabotage

Hi Everyone, Happy Saturday. I was thinking about this today as I sit and keep looking at my application for a Master's Degree program. I have to submit it by November, yet for the past two weeks every time I go to fill it out I feel like I freeze in fear. Why, I think I am afraid of succeeding, I thought I had already succeeded when I got my bachelors degree, but that has been a disappointment as far as finding a career or any job that pays enough to pay back my student loans, never mind being self supportive. So I think I have become too comfortable with failure, because I have been there, done that, so many times. Right now it would just be so much easier for me to stay on failures path. "Why try" is how I feel some days to be honest. Because of my last self sabotage act, I can't even drive until next summer. It's only October and some days I feel I could just go insane, feeling so trapped. I still have to go away for two weeks in November to some DUI program after already doing 27 days away, and to boot it's not local like I thought, no, I have to go all the way to the next state practically, which is about a two hour drive from where I live. The best part is they let you pay for it, ya, no insurance coverage, it's more a program than a rehab. Sure, I think, that payment of $1000.00 should be no problem, that along with the probation fees of about $2000.00 dollars should be a piece of cake for me to pay with no job and no more unemployment. And there are some other things I have to do, but my mind is being kind right now, can't remember what they are LOL! I refuse to pay for any of this with my husbands money, it was my mistake, no one to blame but me, so I will pay for it one way or another. I just hope the orange vest you wear to do community service looks good on me LOL! (Guess I'm not to far gone, I can still joke) So as you can read this is a BIG part of my ongoing recovery, which is now up to 3 months and two weeks, Thank you very much :) I have to get to the root of why I have done some of the things I have to myself in the past time and time again. And I will with the help of my counselor. Otherwise as they say, your doomed to repeat the past. Sad but true. For the first time the other day she told me she was worried about me with all I was going through with my mother, my mother in law and the other losses in my life. She knew it was to much for anyone to handle. She was waiting in a way for me to just break I guess. I thought by telling her I could handle everything and I was ok, I was really trying to convince myself along with her. Becoming aware that self sabotage is a pattern in your life is the major break through you need to begin down a new path. Now that I am aware of it in my life I think I'm done with this behavior, "I'm All Good" as they say. And on the days I hear and feel that "Why Try" and I will hear and feel this often I'm sure, I will keep trying. I'll fill out the application and get it in on time. I have to stay strong for my family. No room for self pity, I've worked hard on not having pity parties since my twenties, it never changes anything anyway, and you will get stuck in the victim role. It was hard for me to share this but I just want to share my life experiences and what I am learning, in hopes that I give someone out there some insight to why things in their life just keep not working out for them, and not to feel alone like I do some days.
Have a great day,
Thanks for visiting my blog,
Love ya,
Janet :)


Over the years I've worked with many clients who have reached a point where they feel they can go no further in their careers or in life in general. They feel completely stuck. It's only when they look more closely that they come to realise that what stands in their way is their own inclination to sabotage success.

Most of the ways that we self sabotage are unconscious. The characteristics that come into play are those that Carl Jung referred to when he spoke of our 'shadow'. All of us have degrees of every personality trait possible - some we are comfortable to own, others we're not. Our shadow includes both the parts of ourselves that we disown (and generally dislike in others) as well as those that we admire in others (but are too modest to claim for ourselves). Simply put, Jung's philosophy is that in order to grow we must confront our shadow and begin to embrace and make peace with all of our character traits.

This process requires courage and commitment and is often best accompanied by working with a professional but you can begin on your own. Start by paying attention to the styles of self sabotage you favour. Once you become aware of these otherwise unconscious thoughts, you have the opportunity to challenge them with your inner dialogue.

This method of self sabotage is pretty self explanatory. You believe that your circumstances are not your fault. Whilst it's possible that there is some degree of truth in this, blaming leaves you feeling powerless. Blaming often goes hand in hand with a 'victim' mentality which is equally disempowering. Ultimately, you are the only person who has the ability to change your situation. When you begin to take responsibility, you feel better about yourself and more in control of your life.
Likely self talk: 'I can't help it'; 'It's their fault'; 'Things are just really hard for me'.

How many times do you repeatedly put off an unpleasant task? The most common are doing your tax, tidying your desk/wardrobe/garage, getting your finances in order, starting an exercise program or a healthy eating regime. Procrastination is a very popular method of self sabotage.
Likely self talk: 'I don't have the time'; 'I'm too tired'; 'The time isn't right'.

Over Committing/Overwhelm
Many people over commit themselves. They say yes to everything and then find themselves feeling completely overwhelmed (and quite often resentful). This method of self sabotage often helps you to avoid your 'real' goals (the ones that would bring you the most fulfilment if you were brave enough to pursue them) by distracting you with a range of incidental activities.
Likely self talk: 'They need me - I can't say no'; 'I'm the only one who will do the job well'; 'I just like to stay busy'.

Lack of Self Belief
This is quite possibly the most popular method of all. Like all others, it is also a self fulfilling prophecy. The less you believe in yourself, the less likely you are to take on new challenges and the more likely you are to believe you are unworthy of great things.
Likely self talk: 'I'm not good enough'; 'No one will want me'; 'I'm too tall; too short; too heavy; too unattractive; not interesting or not smart enough'.

Unclear Goals/Lack of Direction
This is a difficult area to tackle as it generally presents as an overall sense of confusion. Not being clear about what you want in life is often connected to not wanting to make the wrong choices.
Likely self talk: 'I don't know what I want'; 'Nothing interests me'; 'What if I get it wrong?'.

With all of the above methods of self sabotage, the first step is to notice your dominant style. Most of us use more than one so begin by just becoming aware of your self talk. If you feel ready to challenge that thinking, find a way to reframe your original thought, for example 'I'm not good enough' could become 'I'm as good as I need to be to give this a go'
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Thursday, September 30, 2010

Social Phobia (Social Anxiety Disorder)

Hi Everyone, How are ya, I wanted to share this form of Anxiety Disorder with all of you. This was part of my Anxiety Disorder too. I can remember when it first came on how difficult it could be just to sit through a dinner with friends or family. Silly as it may sound to some people who have never experienced any form of Anxiety, it is real and it can be difficult to live with. Maybe once in a very blue moon I may feel this again in a social situation, but thanks to my medicine I pretty much never feel this way and it is such a welcomed relief. If you or someone you notice may be experiencing this as well, know it is very treatable and you can get back into the social part of your life without the suffering. I personally recommend some form of meditation too be it a full meditation or just taking a little time each day or before a social situation to just find a quiet place, listen to music or do what works for you to calm your mind. I also find that since I have been walking just about everyday the thought of even becoming anxious in a social situation is non existent!!, simply put, walking does the mind and body good in so many ways :)
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Janet :)


Anonymous Person On NAMI says,
“In any social situation, I felt fear. I would be anxious before I even left the house, and it would escalate as I got closer to a college class, a party, or whatever. I would feel sick in my stomach-it almost felt like I had the flu. My heart would pound, my palms would get sweaty, and I would get this feeling of being removed from myself and from everybody else.”

“When I would walk into a room full of people, I’d turn red and it would feel like everybody’s eyes were on me. I was embarrassed to stand off in a corner by myself, but I couldn’t think of anything to say to anybody. It was humiliating. I felt so clumsy, I couldn’t wait to get out.”

Social phobia, also called social anxiety disorder, is diagnosed when people become overwhelmingly anxious and excessively self-conscious in everyday social situations. People with social phobia have an intense, persistent, and chronic fear of being watched and judged by others and of doing things that will embarrass them. They can worry for days or weeks before a dreaded situation. This fear may become so severe that it interferes with work, school, and other ordinary activities, and can make it hard to make and keep friends.

While many people with social phobia realize that their fears about being with people are excessive or unreasonable, they are unable to overcome them. Even if they manage to confront their fears and be around others, they are usually very anxious beforehand, are intensely uncomfortable throughout the encounter, and worry about how they were judged for hours afterward.

Social phobia can be limited to one situation (such as talking to people, eating or drinking, or writing on a blackboard in front of others) or may be so broad (such as in generalized social phobia) that the person experiences anxiety around almost anyone other than the family.

Physical symptoms that often accompany social phobia include blushing, profuse sweating, trembling, nausea, and difficulty talking. When these symptoms occur, people with social phobia feel as though all eyes are focused on them.

Social phobia affects about 15 million American adults. Women and men are equally likely to develop the disorder, which usually begins in childhood or early adolescence. There is some evidence that genetic factors are involved. Social phobia is often accompanied by other anxiety disorders or depression,and substance abuse may develop if people try to self-medicate their anxiety.

How to Get Help for Anxiety Disorders

If you think you have an anxiety disorder, the first person you should see is your family doctor. A physician can determine whether the symptoms that alarm you are due to an anxiety disorder, another medical condition, or both.

If an anxiety disorder is diagnosed, the next step is usually seeing a mental health professional. The practitioners who are most helpful with anxiety disorders are those who have training in cognitive-behavioral therapy and/or behavioral therapy, and who are open to using medication if it is needed.

You should feel comfortable talking with the mental health professional you choose. If you do not, you should seek help elsewhere. Once you find a mental health professional with whom you are comfortable, the two of you should work as a team and make a plan to treat your anxiety disorder together.

Remember that once you start on medication, it is important not to stop taking it abruptly. Certain drugs must be tapered off under the supervision of a doctor or bad reactions can occur. Make sure you talk to the doctor who prescribed your medication before you stop taking it. If you are having trouble with side effects, it’s possible that they can be eliminated by adjusting how much medication you take and when you take it.

Most insurance plans, including health maintenance organizations (HMOs), will cover treatment for anxiety disorders. Check with your insurance company and find out. If you don’t have insurance, the Health and Human Services division of your county government may offer mental health care at a public mental health center that charges people according to how much they are able to pay. If you are on public assistance, you may be able to get care through your state Medicaid plan.

Ways to Make Treatment More Effective

Many people with anxiety disorders benefit from joining a self-help or support group and sharing their problems and achievements with others. Internet chat rooms can also be useful in this regard, but any advice received over the Internet should be used with caution, as Internet acquaintances have usually never seen each other and false identities are common. Talking with a trusted friend or member of the clergy can also provide support, but it is not a substitute for care from a mental health professional.

Stress management techniques and meditation can help people with anxiety disorders calm themselves and may enhance the effects of therapy. There is preliminary evidence that aerobic exercise may have a calming effect. Since caffeine, certain illicit drugs, and even some over-the-counter cold medications can aggravate the symptoms of anxiety disorders, they should be avoided. Check with your physician or pharmacist before taking any additional medications.

The family is very important in the recovery of a person with an anxiety disorder. Ideally, the family should be supportive but not help perpetuate their loved one’s symptoms. Family members should not trivialize the disorder or demand improvement without treatment. If your family is doing either of these things, you may want to show them this booklet so they can become educated allies and help you succeed in therapy.

Monday, September 27, 2010

Music Monday Edited

Hi Everyone, How are you this Monday morning? I am doing great. These kids are not the typical groups I listen to, so don't mind the tattoos and piercings. Piercing on the face and especially on the tongue, GAWD! how it gives me the willies LOL!, I don't think you should mess with your face that way, no offense to anyone, just my own personal opinion. I like the words and sound to this song, and that is what is most important to me. This is how I'm feeling this Monday morning after celebrating my Wedding Anniversary with my hubby this weekend, although I don't need an Anniversary to feel this way about him, now that the kids are grown, it's been fun getting back to us, it's like we just started dating again. The fact that after 27yrs we still have such chemistry together, and he has been my one and only all these years, makes me even hotter for him now!! Uh wait a minute, what's that I hear? Come my lady, come come my lady, well guess I gotta go, LMAO!! Just teasing of course:)
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Janet :)

So sexy..almost evil Talkin' bout butterflies in my head
I used to think happy endings were only in the books I
read but you made me feel alive when I was almost dead

Lyrics | Butterfly lyrics

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Saturday, September 25, 2010

Be Like Brit

Hello Everyone, Happy Saturday! I was so deeply touched by Britney's and her college friends tragedy. I am inspired by her and her group although I never knew them. How brave and selfless of them to step outside their comfort zone and venture off to help others in need. I think in honor of all of them we should help to continue the compassion and dream that Britney had. They are making great progress in fulfilling the dream, but more is always needed. In memory of all of them who lost their lives that day I am going to make a donation. I hope you can take the time to do the same. How little that takes out of us, yet means the world to these children. Their deaths will not have been in vain. Think of how beautiful that day will be when they cut the ribbon to open this Orphanage, and how Britney and her friends will be smiling down on everyone who took the time to help, no matter how big or small. I included the link to Donate, and to the Be Like Brit store. You will also find all the information on this site . Thank you if you do help in continuing the compassion.
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Positioning Statement
For the poorest of the poor, Be Like Brit is a nonprofit organization dedicated to serving the children of Haiti. Be Like Brit will continue the compassionate life and legacy of Britney Gengel by establishing a safe, nurturing and sustainable orphanage in an environment where children can grow, learn and thrive.

Britney sent this to her mom, three hours before the earthquake hit
"They love us so much and everyone is so happy, they love what they have and they work so hard to get no where and they are all so appreciative... I want to move here and start an orphange."

Tuesday, September 21, 2010

Tough Shit

Hi Everyone, How are ya? I came across this on the internet. I thought it might give you a laugh as it did for me. I couldn't agree more with what the little mouse says!
Have a great day,
Janet :)


Saturday, September 18, 2010

Walking On Sunshine

Hello, Happy Saturday!! Let me tell ya about my grandkids!! C'mon now and be a good sport and don't leave the page LOL!! Briana has just learned this song, I'm not sure how she did, but anyway it is perfect because that is how her and Christopher make me feel every time I see them. My best friend Sue use to say to me there's nothing like it Janet and of course she was right. She was a great Noni so I learned a lot from watching her, although she left too soon she left a lifetime of love inside of them. Briana is going to be 3 yrs old already in 2 weeks!! She always knows what to say to make me smile and laugh. The other day as she walked into my house, I went to greet her and she say's Mimmi, as she puts her arms up to hug me, I missed you, awww huh? She asked Christa the other day about preschool next year, "Mommy, she said will you be going with me"? Christa said no, and then she says "Good"! (maybe I should teach her Miss Independent) She is still getting use to sharing me with Christopher, when I hold him she will start to grab my attention and she actually held her hand up to me, like talk to the hand and said somewhat fresh, That's MY brother! Next time I'm gonna have to say, "And He Ain't Heavy" just to see the expression on her face :) Christopher is just the happiest little baby, same as Bri was, thanks to the great job their parents are doing. When he's not eating or sleeping he'll just sit and smile and talk to everyone. He just started laughing the other day too. He loves Briana so much that even if she just walks by him he smiles, too cute :) This is a great song still today, I think I will add it to my walking music, especially now that the sun is setting earlier and it's getting colder, this song will definitely put a bounce in your step. I've finally dusted off the treadmill. I'll miss walking the waterfronts as much as I do now, but one good thing about the treadmill is when I use to walk on it years ago, I could do up to 5 miles at a time, Seriously! I think once you don't have that big open road ahead of you, you don't think of distance. I just escape in my music and go, and when I'm done I feel so good physically and mentally. I highly recommend you give daily walking a try. Start out even just a little bit and it will become easier and easier, If I can do it you can. In fact I'm lovin walking everyday so much that I know I'm addicted. Finally an addiction I can be proud of, my legs are solid as a rock now too which will come in handy if I have to kick someone's ass that messes with any of my kids LMAO!! In the spring I'm thinking of starting to run with my brother, by then I'll have quit smoking (hopefully) one habit at a time the Doc says :) And who knows maybe someday I'll shoot for the Boston Marathon!! Now stop laughing, You gotta have goals in life right?
Thanks for visiting my blog today
and reading what is probably boring
to you,
Love ya,
Janet :)

My 2010 Version LOL!
And I just cant wait till the day when you visit my space,
my Blog, IM me, or Tweet me. Now everytime I go to my
inbox, gotta check my spam too, Cos I just can't wait
till you Email or poke me on Facebook. Texting and
Messaging,Woooah,Don't it feel good :)