Sunday, October 31, 2010

I Got A Rock

Hi Everyone, How are you, I Hope your having a fun Halloween weekend. My son Scott had a Halloween Party for his club at School. I had so much fun getting everything set up for it, and they all had a blast because me and Pete stayed out in our room above the Garage! They are a great group of kids, I am so happy for him that he found a club with kids that all like the same thing as he does, Japanese Culture. I got to go with Briana and Christopher on Thursday to a music class that Christa found for them. I have to say, I am having so much fun being a Mimi, Pumpkin Picking, Music class and just being with them! I loved the idea this mom came up with for her twin boys that were at the music class, Thing One and Thing Two! I was looking for some funny Halloween clips on Youtube and came across my favorite part of the "It's The Great Pumpkin Charlie Brown". Don't we all have days where we feel like all we got is a rock LOL! And just for laughs I thought I would share this Charlie Brown Stoner one, I guess he suffered the same fate as other child actors, who knew?? I hope you enjoy the videos & pictures. Have a Great Halloween!
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A Little Blurry but they are all
I could get for pictures :)

Thursday, October 28, 2010

Men And Eating Disorders

Hello Everyone, I hope you are doing good. It is true that Eating Disorders are primarily thought of as a Women's issue, but today more and more men and boys are feeling the pressure of looking good as well. Being aware of this could help a young male in your life before it gets to far along for them. If you need to, refer back to my post on Eating Disorders for the signs. With men and boys you need to also be aware of steroid use, especially if you see major changes in their muscular structure.
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Gawd Damn!!
David Beckham Pictures, Images and Photos

How Are Men And Boys Affected?

Although eating disorders primarily affect women and girls, boys and men are also vulnerable. One in four preadolescent cases of anorexia occurs in boys, and binge-eating disorder affects females and males about equally.

Like females who have eating disorders, males with the illness have a warped sense of body image and often have muscle dysmorphia, a type of disorder that is characterized by an extreme concern with becoming more muscular. Some boys with the disorder want to lose weight, while others want to gain weight or "bulk up." Boys who think they are too small are at a greater risk for using steroids or other dangerous drugs to increase muscle mass.

Boys with eating disorders exhibit the same types of emotional, physical and behavioral signs and symptoms as girls, but for a variety of reasons, boys are less likely to be diagnosed with what is often considered a stereotypically "female" disorder.

How Are We Working To Better Understand And Treat Eating Disorders?

Researchers are unsure of the underlying causes and nature of eating disorders. Unlike a neurological disorder, which generally can be pinpointed to a specific lesion on the brain, an eating disorder likely involves abnormal activity distributed across brain systems. With increased recognition that mental disorders are brain disorders, more researchers are using tools from both modern neuroscience and modern psychology to better understand eating disorders.

One approach involves the study of the human genes. With the publication of the human genome sequence in 2003, mental health researchers are studying the various combinations of genes to determine if any DNA variations are associated with the risk of developing a mental disorder. Neuroimaging, such as the use of magnetic resonance imaging (MRI), may also lead to a better understanding of eating disorders.

Neuroimaging already is used to identify abnormal brain activity in patients with schizophrenia, obsessive-compulsive disorder and depression. It may also help researchers better understand how people with eating disorders process information, regardless of whether they have recovered or are still in the throes of their illness.

Conducting behavioral or psychological research on eating disorders is even more complex and challenging. As a result, few studies of treatments for eating disorders have been conducted in the past. New studies currently underway, however, are aiming to remedy the lack of information available about treatment.

Researchers also are working to define the basic processes of the disorders, which should help identify better treatments. For example, is anorexia the result of skewed body image, self esteem problems, obsessive thoughts, compulsive behavior, or a combination of these? Can it be predicted or identified as a risk factor before drastic weight loss occurs, and therefore avoided?

These and other questions may be answered in the future as scientists and doctors think of eating disorders as medical illnesses with certain biological causes. Researchers are studying behavioral questions, along with genetic and brain systems information, to understand risk factors, identify biological markers and develop medications that can target specific pathways that control eating behavior. Finally, neuroimaging and genetic studies may also provide clues for how each person may respond to specific treatments.

Monday, October 25, 2010

Music Monday

Hello Everyone, Hope your doing well this Music Monday. I came across this music/poem video spoken by Madonna & Francis Ford Coppola and had to share it with all of you. It was written by Rumi. I was so moved by these words, along with the sounds & beauty of it, for I have lived these words. I know this will move some of you out there that, like me, have woken up one day and found we were having an hallucination about love, woken up to find our friends had become strangers, and even worse, friends that have become enemies. But most of all I know you, like me, know how bittersweet it is to finally be under the moonlight, in that garden, with that intoxicating love we all yearn for. (Yes,it did move me that deep!!) Enjoy!
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Sunday, October 24, 2010

Love Is The Essential Reality

Hello Everyone, I felt like sharing a little inspiration with all of you today. I personally feel the same as this inspirational saying, to truly experience unconditional love within ourselves and towards others is to be living the true meaning of life.
Have a Great Day,
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Friday, October 22, 2010

Friday Funnies

Hi Everyone, Happy Friday! These are short but funny! I have posted a couple of these in the past on my other blog, but they are worth a second laugh. Don't you have those days where you would like to fly away with a Unicorn to a magical palace, I know I do LOL! Hope you enjoy them :)
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Right on the Money!

Not Funny, But Funny!

My Kinda Girl! Her expressions are priceless :)

Get me this Dentist's Phone Number Please LOL!!

Tuesday, October 19, 2010

Eating Disorders

Hello Everyone, Hope your doing well today. Today I wanted to share this information with all of you. I am sure most of you are familiar with these disorders. I still feel though it is not talked about enough and that many more of us are suffering out there then is being reported. I personally could develop one of these disorders easily out of the fear of aging and getting fat, but instead I continue to walk and that keeps me happy with myself. Now not only do we live in a world were we are bombarded by the media at a young age as to what "real beauty" is, we now live in a world that Women are looking younger and younger because of Botox and many other surgical enhancements. So I have no doubt these disorders are affecting many women my age as well. Staying thin is on the top of the list in Women's minds to maintain that younger look I'm sure. So bottom line is these Disorders do not discriminate, they are across the board with age I feel. Most important of all is to remember is that these disorders are not just about weight and looking good on the outside. It is about how you feel about yourself inside as demonstrated in the picture below. Being aware of the signs within yourself or your family will be key to preventing these disorders and maintaining a healthy lifestyle.
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An eating disorder is marked by extremes. It is present when a person experiences severe disturbances in eating behavior, such as extreme reduction of food intake or extreme overeating, or feelings of extreme distress or concern about body weight or shape.

A person with an eating disorder may have started out just eating smaller or larger amounts of food than usual, but at some point, the urge to eat less or more spirals out of control. Eating disorders are very complex, and despite scientific research to understand them, the biological, behavioral and social underpinnings of these illnesses remain elusive.

The two main types of eating disorders are anorexia nervosa and bulimia nervosa. A third category is "eating disorders not otherwise specified (EDNOS)," which includes several variations of eating disorders. Most of these disorders are similar to anorexia or bulimia but with slightly different characteristics. Binge-eating disorder, which has received increasing research and media attention in recent years, is one type of EDNOS.

Eating disorders frequently appear during adolescence or young adulthood, but some reports indicate that they can develop during childhood or later in adulthood. Women and girls are much more likely than males to develop an eating disorder. Men and boys account for an estimated 5 to 15 percent of patients with anorexia or bulimia and an estimated 35 percent of those with binge-eating disorder. Eating disorders are real, treatable medical illnesses with complex underlying psychological and biological causes. They frequently co-exist with other psychiatric disorders such as depression, substance abuse, or anxiety disorders. People with eating disorders also can suffer from numerous other physical health complications, such as heart conditions or kidney failure, which can lead to death.

Anorexia Nervosa
Anorexia nervosa is characterized by emaciation, a relentless pursuit of thinness and unwillingness to maintain a normal or healthy weight, a distortion of body image and intense fear of gaining weight, a lack of menstruation among girls and women, and extremely disturbed eating behavior. Some people with anorexia lose weight by dieting and exercising excessively; others lose weight by self-induced vomiting, or misusing laxatives, diuretics or enemas.

Many people with anorexia see themselves as overweight, even when they are starved or are clearly malnourished. Eating, food and weight control become obsessions. A person with anorexia typically weighs herself or himself repeatedly, portions food carefully, and eats only very small quantities of only certain foods. Some who have anorexia recover with treatment after only one episode. Others get well but have relapses. Still others have a more chronic form of anorexia, in which their health deteriorates over many years as they battle the illness.

According to some studies, people with anorexia are up to ten times more likely to die as a result of their illness compared to those without the disorder. The most common complications that lead to death are cardiac arrest, and electrolyte and fluid imbalances. Suicide also can result.

Many people with anorexia also have coexisting psychiatric and physical illnesses, including depression, anxiety, obsessive behavior, substance abuse, cardiovascular and neurological complications, and impaired physical development.

Other symptoms may develop over time, including:
* thinning of the bones (osteopenia or osteoporosis)
* brittle hair and nails
* dry and yellowish skin
* growth of fine hair over body (e.g., lanugo)
* mild anemia, and muscle weakness and loss
* severe constipation
* low blood pressure, slowed breathing and pulse
* drop in internal body temperature, causing a person to feel cold all the time
* lethargy

Bulimia Nervosa
Bulimia nervosa is characterized by recurrent and frequent episodes of eating unusually large amounts of food (e.g., binge-eating), and feeling a lack of control over the eating. This binge-eating is followed by a type of behavior that compensates for the binge, such as purging (e.g., vomiting, excessive use of laxatives or diuretics), fasting and/or excessive exercise.

Unlike anorexia, people with bulimia can fall within the normal range for their age and weight. But like people with anorexia, they often fear gaining weight, want desperately to lose weight, and are intensely unhappy with their body size and shape. Usually, bulimic behavior is done secretly, because it is often accompanied by feelings of disgust or shame. The binging and purging cycle usually repeats several times a week. Similar to anorexia, people with bulimia often have coexisting psychological illnesses, such as depression, anxiety and/or substance abuse problems. Many physical conditions result from the purging aspect of the illness, including electrolyte imbalances, gastrointestinal problems, and oral and tooth-related problems.

Other symptoms include:
* chronically inflamed and sore throat
* swollen glands in the neck and below the jaw
* worn tooth enamel and increasingly sensitive and decaying teeth as a result of exposure to stomach acids
* gastroesophageal reflux disorder
* intestinal distress and irritation from laxative abuse
* kidney problems from diuretic abuse

Eating disorders are treatable diseases
Psychological and medicinal treatments are effective for many eating disorders. However, in more chronic cases, specific treatments have not yet been identified.

In these cases, treatment plans often are tailored to the patient's individual needs that may include medical care and monitoring; medications; nutritional counseling; and individual, group and/or family psychotherapy. Some patients may also need to be hospitalized to treat malnutrition or to gain weight, or for other reasons.

Saturday, October 16, 2010

T.I. My Hero

Hi Everyone, How are ya, Happy Saturday! I just realized I haven't posted here in a few days, shame, shame, I guess I was enjoying being a slacker this week! I was so happy to see that Rapper T.I took the time to stop and help this man down from the edge. Now some are calling it a publicity stunt, but I don't think so. Society is so full of haters and doubters, sad really. I think he truly cared, if it turns out otherwise than so be it. I get the impression he is a caring human being like most of us. Most of all that day, society didn't want to deal with the fact a man was on the ledge, Hello people, can we talk about that??? Not one person talked about the suicide attempt that day on the all the videos I watched. Not one person cared to say how is that man doing, it was all T.I this and T.I that! Yes my friends, hurts me to say this, but Stigma is still going strong. Although you probably already know that. It just infuriates me, I can't help it!! Anyway,(took a deep breath, letting it go)LOL! You would not believe all the hits I get on this blog for people searching google or any search engine for help with "depressed teens", and depression, suicide. It is going on in so many lives, yet we just can't as a society rap our brains around it and people know that, so they seek help in private until they cannot do it anymore. I'm posting this video and song again too, that I just love. Most of all I love what he says in the beginning, Life is an interesting journey, you never know where it'll take you. We all have our Peaks and Valleys for sure. He is trying to get his life on track right now, I wish him the best, I have nothing but empathy for him. The past few days I have been feeling more upbeat, I think I'm finally at the point I am truly ready to forgive myself. I gotta let it go, just let it go. I screwed up for a little while, so what, I'm human and it's only a small fraction of my life, my journey. My mistakes are pale in comparison to the bigger picture around me. I have to appreciate every thing I have today, right here and now. God wanted me here to enjoy today, otherwise I would not have survived until today, there were many times in my youth as well I can't believe I survived. So much lies ahead for me. So for now on every day, as Rihanna says, but in my own way, I'm going to keep on climbing, and when I fall into one of those days that I just don't want to climb anymore, I am going to force myself to work even harder to look in the mirror and keep on shining! It is a battle everyday for me, but I think I'm going to win it! Today we should all take the time to pray, in whatever way you do,(I just talk to my higher power) for everyone who is suffering like that man was that day. It can't hurt and it takes you out of your own stuff!
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Janet :)

Tuesday, October 12, 2010

Friendship Wish

Hi Everyone, I hope your doing well. Well I did it, I applied to UMass Boston, I unfroze!! I talked over some things with my counselor about getting my Master's Degree and she suggested the fastest way to get me back out in the workforce. They offer a certificate in Gernotology which is just a few classes short of a Master's Degree in the field. I can work sooner and finish my Master's while getting experience. I am going to look into volunteering at the local Hospital too in their new Gernotology Department, that way I get my foot in the door and then hopefully I can stay their when I finish the certificate! So as soon as I got home that day I applied, for some reason it gave me the confidence to try. I am going to call my counselor EM for now on when I write about her. She has become my only women friend right now and it is nice to have someone besides your family that truly cares for you. She told me last week that she makes me visit her weekly to make sure I don't fall into a deep depression, because she said she might herself being in my shoes and she feels bad that I have to go through what I do, even though it was my fault. She just shakes her head at all I have to do to pay for my mistake. She keeps reminding me that what I did was just a poor choice, learn from it and still love yourself. Finally someone that has a little compassion! Tonight as I finished my walk on my treadmill, for a moment I cried because I began to think about that, that I have no girlfriends around to talk to, to go out with and that hurt. What ever happened to a tried and true friend? Someone who stood by you when you needed them and accepted you, faults and all. I know how our lives get busy and we can just always facebook, but I miss the real thing. If not for Em and my family watching out for me I realize I would have probably slipped into a deep depression by now. I have been there some days and that is not where I want to stay. This poem really is what I am feeling tonight and I wanted to share it with those of you who can relate. I'm just someone who needs a kind word, forgiveness. I was walking to this song tonight because can relate to this song from Michael as well, not to the degree he did, but I know what it is like to feel judged. And I know I will not lose faith that in the future as I travel down these new paths I will find that special friend and truly feel free of my past and judgements.
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Janet :)

poem Pictures, Images and Photos

Don't You Wrong or Right Me!

Friday, October 8, 2010

Friday Funnies

Hello Everyone, Happy Friday! Here are some funny clips I found searching around the internet, hope you have a laugh for yourself.
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Janet :)


An App for that too?

Tuesday, October 5, 2010

National Depression Screening Day

Hello Everyone, I hope your doing well. Thursday is National Depression Screening Day. I personally feel this is a very important day to help you or a loved one you know that may be suffering from depression. It is the most treatable mental illness there is. Often people find themselves just stuck and don't know how to get help. So please if you think you or a loved one is in need of help, take the time to do a screening. You may take a screening at home or find a local clinic with the links I provided below. Life is waiting, time to go live it :)
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Got the Blues? You Are Not Alone
One in 10 Americans is clinically depressed, but less than half are getting treated for it, according to a new survey.

National Depression Screening Day is October 7th

Ever feel like you are the only one who is sad in a world of happy people? Everyone experiences stress, sadness and anxiety from time to time – it's part of life. These feelings often happen when you a lose a job, children move away from home, during divorce, with a death in the family, or during retirement. But when changes in mood and behavior interfere with one’s ability to work, sleep, eat, and enjoy once pleasurable activities, it could be a sign of depression. National Depression Screening Day (NDSD) gives people the opportunity to take a free, anonymous questionnaire assessing their risk for mood and anxiety disorders and provides referral information for treatment.

Take an Anonymous Screening

Saturday, October 2, 2010

Self Sabotage

Hi Everyone, Happy Saturday. I was thinking about this today as I sit and keep looking at my application for a Master's Degree program. I have to submit it by November, yet for the past two weeks every time I go to fill it out I feel like I freeze in fear. Why, I think I am afraid of succeeding, I thought I had already succeeded when I got my bachelors degree, but that has been a disappointment as far as finding a career or any job that pays enough to pay back my student loans, never mind being self supportive. So I think I have become too comfortable with failure, because I have been there, done that, so many times. Right now it would just be so much easier for me to stay on failures path. "Why try" is how I feel some days to be honest. Because of my last self sabotage act, I can't even drive until next summer. It's only October and some days I feel I could just go insane, feeling so trapped. I still have to go away for two weeks in November to some DUI program after already doing 27 days away, and to boot it's not local like I thought, no, I have to go all the way to the next state practically, which is about a two hour drive from where I live. The best part is they let you pay for it, ya, no insurance coverage, it's more a program than a rehab. Sure, I think, that payment of $1000.00 should be no problem, that along with the probation fees of about $2000.00 dollars should be a piece of cake for me to pay with no job and no more unemployment. And there are some other things I have to do, but my mind is being kind right now, can't remember what they are LOL! I refuse to pay for any of this with my husbands money, it was my mistake, no one to blame but me, so I will pay for it one way or another. I just hope the orange vest you wear to do community service looks good on me LOL! (Guess I'm not to far gone, I can still joke) So as you can read this is a BIG part of my ongoing recovery, which is now up to 3 months and two weeks, Thank you very much :) I have to get to the root of why I have done some of the things I have to myself in the past time and time again. And I will with the help of my counselor. Otherwise as they say, your doomed to repeat the past. Sad but true. For the first time the other day she told me she was worried about me with all I was going through with my mother, my mother in law and the other losses in my life. She knew it was to much for anyone to handle. She was waiting in a way for me to just break I guess. I thought by telling her I could handle everything and I was ok, I was really trying to convince myself along with her. Becoming aware that self sabotage is a pattern in your life is the major break through you need to begin down a new path. Now that I am aware of it in my life I think I'm done with this behavior, "I'm All Good" as they say. And on the days I hear and feel that "Why Try" and I will hear and feel this often I'm sure, I will keep trying. I'll fill out the application and get it in on time. I have to stay strong for my family. No room for self pity, I've worked hard on not having pity parties since my twenties, it never changes anything anyway, and you will get stuck in the victim role. It was hard for me to share this but I just want to share my life experiences and what I am learning, in hopes that I give someone out there some insight to why things in their life just keep not working out for them, and not to feel alone like I do some days.
Have a great day,
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Love ya,
Janet :)


Over the years I've worked with many clients who have reached a point where they feel they can go no further in their careers or in life in general. They feel completely stuck. It's only when they look more closely that they come to realise that what stands in their way is their own inclination to sabotage success.

Most of the ways that we self sabotage are unconscious. The characteristics that come into play are those that Carl Jung referred to when he spoke of our 'shadow'. All of us have degrees of every personality trait possible - some we are comfortable to own, others we're not. Our shadow includes both the parts of ourselves that we disown (and generally dislike in others) as well as those that we admire in others (but are too modest to claim for ourselves). Simply put, Jung's philosophy is that in order to grow we must confront our shadow and begin to embrace and make peace with all of our character traits.

This process requires courage and commitment and is often best accompanied by working with a professional but you can begin on your own. Start by paying attention to the styles of self sabotage you favour. Once you become aware of these otherwise unconscious thoughts, you have the opportunity to challenge them with your inner dialogue.

This method of self sabotage is pretty self explanatory. You believe that your circumstances are not your fault. Whilst it's possible that there is some degree of truth in this, blaming leaves you feeling powerless. Blaming often goes hand in hand with a 'victim' mentality which is equally disempowering. Ultimately, you are the only person who has the ability to change your situation. When you begin to take responsibility, you feel better about yourself and more in control of your life.
Likely self talk: 'I can't help it'; 'It's their fault'; 'Things are just really hard for me'.

How many times do you repeatedly put off an unpleasant task? The most common are doing your tax, tidying your desk/wardrobe/garage, getting your finances in order, starting an exercise program or a healthy eating regime. Procrastination is a very popular method of self sabotage.
Likely self talk: 'I don't have the time'; 'I'm too tired'; 'The time isn't right'.

Over Committing/Overwhelm
Many people over commit themselves. They say yes to everything and then find themselves feeling completely overwhelmed (and quite often resentful). This method of self sabotage often helps you to avoid your 'real' goals (the ones that would bring you the most fulfilment if you were brave enough to pursue them) by distracting you with a range of incidental activities.
Likely self talk: 'They need me - I can't say no'; 'I'm the only one who will do the job well'; 'I just like to stay busy'.

Lack of Self Belief
This is quite possibly the most popular method of all. Like all others, it is also a self fulfilling prophecy. The less you believe in yourself, the less likely you are to take on new challenges and the more likely you are to believe you are unworthy of great things.
Likely self talk: 'I'm not good enough'; 'No one will want me'; 'I'm too tall; too short; too heavy; too unattractive; not interesting or not smart enough'.

Unclear Goals/Lack of Direction
This is a difficult area to tackle as it generally presents as an overall sense of confusion. Not being clear about what you want in life is often connected to not wanting to make the wrong choices.
Likely self talk: 'I don't know what I want'; 'Nothing interests me'; 'What if I get it wrong?'.

With all of the above methods of self sabotage, the first step is to notice your dominant style. Most of us use more than one so begin by just becoming aware of your self talk. If you feel ready to challenge that thinking, find a way to reframe your original thought, for example 'I'm not good enough' could become 'I'm as good as I need to be to give this a go'
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