Friday, December 31, 2010

Happy New Year

Hi Everyone, Happy New Year! I have been having fun with these elf yourselves today. If you have the time check out the disco one of me Pete and Scotty on my other blog, I think you'll get a laugh out of it. I thought I would let my grandchildren wish you a Happy New Year too. We are just planning on getting Chinese food and staying at home. Then I'll probably just watch the ball drop by myself, or with Scotty. Pete never lasts until midnight, he is in to much of a routine from getting up early to work, and I understand, he works hard. It's just on nights like this is when I really do feel we are the elders in the family, the old fart's disease kicking in! I can't even remember what it was like to party late into the night, so do me a favor and party for me, and thanks ahead of time LOL!
Have a great night and stay safe,
Thanks for visiting my blog,
Love ya,
Janet :)

Wednesday, December 29, 2010

Show Us To Ourselves

Hello Everyone, I hope your doing well today, I found this inspirational saying on Photobucket and I love it, it is so true! I hope you all have a great day,
Thanks for visiting my blog,
Love ya,
Janet :)


Monday, December 27, 2010

New Horizons

Hello Everyone, I hope you all had a great holiday! On this Music Monday I was looking for a song that expresses how I feel about this year coming to an end and the New Year upon us. I was so happy to find this one by the Moody Blues, they were my Mother's favorite. How she would have loved this song and video. This year was a year of painful growth for me. I made many mistakes. I realize now that my false ego and other falsehoods, led me down some roads I wish I had never traveled. So I am saying goodbye to parts of me that I am glad to leave behind in 2010. As 2011 begins, I will carry forward all the lessons learned that have made me a better person today, and will continue to better me in the new year. Most of all I will carry the gifts that I needed so in order to grow, the gifts love and forgiveness.
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Love ya,
Janet :)

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Saturday, December 25, 2010

Merry Christmas

Hi Everyone, Merry Christmas. My favorite Christmas song is the Little Drummer Boy and I was happy to find the Celtic Woman singing it, I love them. I hope you enjoy the song and the fun light show. May your day be filled with love.
Thanks for visiting my blog,
Love ya,
Janet :)

Wednesday, December 22, 2010


Hi Everyone, I hope your doing well. I love these video poems by Deepak Chopra and various artists. They are very moving, and passionate. You can't help but feel that way when you listen to them. I suggest you check out the Bittersweet one too in my song of the day. Enjoy!
Thanks for visiting my blog,
Love ya,
Janet :)

Saturday, December 18, 2010

Postpartum Depression 2

Hi Everyone, How are you, I am doing great. I was so happy to see this important update in the treatment for Postpartum Depression in my NIMH updates toolbar just 6 days after I decided to post about this issue! I also realized I forgot to further explain on my last post that the reason I truly do believe this illness is what began my mother's mental health issues of 29 years is because her breakdown did occur right after the birth of her 4th child. She withdrew and lost too much weight and then psychosis set in, and from there, how she suffered, but endured. Being able to fulfill my purpose on this blog by sharing the progress that is being made in this area and all the other areas of mental health means more to me than I could ever put into words. Each time I do share important information I'd like to think my mom is smiling down on me and I am serving her memory well. If this helps even one women out there, then I have accomplished one of my most important goals in life.
Thank you for visiting my blog,
Love ya,
Janet :)

December 17, 2010

Postpartum depression may be one of the most under-recognized and under-treated disorders. Yet, it impacts the lives of hundreds of thousands of new mothers. This video looks at those who are at greatest risk of postpartum depression as well as ground breaking research into treatment for PPD.


Announcer: The biological changes in mothers –all mothers- after childbirth are very significant and important. But for some parents, this postpartum period can lead to a type of depression thought to be associated with drastic changes in hormone levels. Post partum depression is estimated to affect, perhaps, as many as 13-percent of all new mothers.

Dr. Peter Schmidt: So each year in the United States there are approximately half a million women who are at risk of developing postpartum depression. So, clearly this is an important condition to the public health of this country, these are prevalent conditions that are associated with considerable morbidity.

Kathleen O’Leary: Many women, probably at least fifty percent, experience what are called the baby blues for a week or two after giving birth where women may feel tearful… may feel emotionally very sensitive… may feel overwhelmed…not like themselves. And this is not unusual. If these symptoms go on for more than two weeks or become more intense or women start experiencing some of the other symptoms of depression, then they should really seek help.

Announcer: What started out as sleep deprivation issues transformed into more serious problems for one young mother who decided to participate in clinical research at the National Institute of Mental Health.

Patient: It was painful. When I think back it makes me sad because I wasn’t able to enjoy him as a newborn. Things got a little more intense with him not sleeping through the night and I just became a zombie. I kind of ignored it at first and then there was this one day I was in the kitchen I remember I was chopping onions I was making dinner and the thought came naturally and that’s what shocked me. I should just chop my fingers off or just chop my wrist off and that was just such a morbid thought. It scared me.

Kathleen O’Leary: If someone feels that they would be better off dead or that others would be better off without them, then that is the most serious sign that means that a medical professional needs to be consulted about this as soon as possible.

Announcer: Research has shown some women are at greater risk of experiencing postpartum depression including women who have had postpartum depression with a previous child. Women who have had depression, whether treated or untreated, at another time in their lives. As well as women who have bipolar disorder. Dr. Peter Schmidt and his fellow investigators at NIMH have conducted extensive research into postpartum depression its causes and possible treatments. Current research includes the indication that estradiol, a form of estrogen, has a rapid antidepressant effect on women with postpartum depression.

Dr. Peter Schmidt: Because of our earlier work it suggested that declining levels of estrogen during the postpartum around delivery might contribute to triggering the onset of depression. And there had been some preliminary open trials showing that estradiol may have an effective antidepressant action in some of these women. So, we have a study now in which we’re using estradiol, physiological levels, so comparable to what a woman would be exposed to during her normal cycle and we give that in a controlled trial to women who have current postpartum depression.

Announcer: The possibility of successful hormone treatment along with effective therapy has been very encouraging for many women.

Patient: I’m doing much better- much better. I’m more coherent in my thoughts. I can take a step back when the baby’s really upset and not get so frustrated or angry at him. He deserved a better mom and I think I’m that better mom for him now.

Wednesday, December 15, 2010

Live a Life That Matters

Hi Everyone, I hope you are all doing well. Last night I said goodbye to a dear man named Fred Hakala. He has been a part of my life since I was 11 years old and my sister married his son. I know this is said often about people who pass, but in Fred's case it is so true, to know him was to love him. I am so grateful that he was in my life and how he will be missed at all our family gatherings, especially at Christmas. He was a regular on my nephew's, (Robert Hakala) morning radio show every holiday season sharing the Finnish traditions, he was a funny guy to listen too. As Pete and I left his wake in our hometown of South Weymouth, I reflected on my life as we drove along, looking at our old stomping grounds too that now seem like a lifetime away. I couldn't help but feel a little sad that most of our families elders are gone, except my father in law. Now we are becoming the elders in the family. It's truly time for me to fulfill their roles and set a good example for the next generation. A responsibility I am ready to take on. At the same time I also thought about how blessed I have been to have had them all in my life. I thought about how grateful I am to still have the love of my life next to me that I met there almost 30 yrs ago. I realized as well that I am so fortunate to have another chance to start my life over this year. I will live a life that matters as Fred and his wife Doris and my Parents and Elsie did, all I have to do is follow their example, it's that simple. This is a tribute to their lives and inspiration for us to follow.
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Love ya,
Janet :)


Saturday, December 11, 2010

Postpartum Depression

Hi Everyone, Hope your doing well. I was watching Investigative TV last weekend and they were showing hour long stories on Mothers who took their own children's lives such as Andrea Yates. She had suffered from Postpartum Depression and was never treated for it. It reminded me that this is a very important issue to post about on this blog. I personally feel my mother suffered from this as well. At the young age of 25 she had already had 4 children, the first three all a year apart with very little support. The psychosis of this illness and the illness itself was unheard of in her time. So she was diagnosed Schizophrenic and endured shock therapy and the Thorazine shuffle for 29 years. I am just so grateful that she was able to get better treatment and live the rest of her life in such a healthier and happier way. I am also happy to know there is this awareness out there now for mothers. If you notice any of these symptoms in a loved one that has just had a baby, please help them. Early detection is crucial for both the mother and child.
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Love ya,
Janet :)


What is Postpartum Depression?

Postpartum depression is a treatable medical illness characterized by feelings of sadness, indifference, exhaustion and anxiety following the birth of your baby. It affects one in every ten women who have had a child, and can affect any woman, regardless of her age, race or economic background. It is not a character flaw or sign of personal weakness, and it does not mean that there is anything wrong with your ability to be a mother. The exact cause of postpartum depression is not known, but certain chemical changes that take place in your body during and after pregnancy may contribute to it.

It can be hard to talk about feeling depressed after having a baby, because of our society’s belief that this should be the "happiest time in your life." If you are suffering from postpartum depression, the time after you give birth feels anything but joyful. You may feel as if you aren’t a good mother, or that the baby would be better off without you. These feelings may make you feel ashamed, and you may feel that you should hide them from your family and friends. However, it is important that you tell someone, whether it is your health care provider, a family member, friend or clergy member, and that you seek help. You can feel better, and getting treatment early is the best thing you can do for yourself, your baby and the rest of your family.

What are the symptoms of postpartum depression?
* Feelings of sadness or "down"-ness that don’t go away
* Inability to sleep, even when the baby is sleeping
* Changes in appetite eating much more or much less
* Irritability, anger, worry, agitation, anxiety
* Inability to concentrate or make decisions
* Inability to enjoy things you used to; lack of interest in the baby; lack of interest in friends and family
* Exhaustion; feeling "heavy"
* Uncontrollable crying
* Feelings of guilt or worthlessness
* Feelings of hopelessness or despair
* Fear of being a "bad" mother, or that others will think you are
* Fear that harm will come to the baby

Postpartum Psychosis
With postpartum psychosis — a rare condition that typically develops within the first two weeks after delivery — the signs and symptoms are even more severe. Signs and symptoms of postpartum psychosis may include:

* Confusion and disorientation
* Hallucinations and delusions
* Paranoia
* Attempts to harm yourself or the baby

Get help right away if you have any thoughts of harming your baby or yourself. Tell a medical professional, clergy member, loved one or friend immediately.

What are some risk factors for postpartum depression?
* A history of depression during or after previous pregnancies
* A history of depression or bipolar disorder at any time
* A history of depression, bipolar disorder or postpartum depression in blood relatives
* Poor social support
* Unpleasant life events happening around the time of the pregnancy or birth
* Instability in your marriage or relationship
* Feeling unsure or ambivalent about your pregnancy

What can I do about postpartum depression?
* Talk to your doctor about all of your symptoms, your medical history and any medications or "natural" remedies you are using.
* Consider taking medication ask your doctor which medications are least likely to pass into breast milk.
* Consider psychotherapy find a therapist or counselor with whom you feel comfortable, who can help you cope with the feelings you are having.
* Do your own research to learn more about postpartum depression and its treatment at your local library or on the Internet.
* Become part of a support group, where you will be able to share your thoughts and feelings in a caring environment with people who have "been there."
* Eat balanced meals at regular times.
* Do light exercise, such as walking.
* Work with a therapist or counselor to develop stress reduction techniques.
* Give family and friends opportunities to help you, such as doing housework or watching older children.
* Use a journal to express your thoughts and feelings, and record changes in your moods.

Friday, December 3, 2010

Friday Funnies

Hi Everyone, Happy Friday! I have been waiting for the best of Ari Gold season 7. Although the Ari character was not as funny as he usually is in the other seasons, I thought I would still share it with all of you who might enjoy a laugh or two from it. I have been enjoying HBO's new show Boardwalk too, it is like the Soprano's but in the olden days, it has it's share of sex, murder, thieves, you know all that good stuff LOL! I think you will LYAO at the Tru TV's clips of these drinkers, especially the "One more for the Road" clip. Enjoy!
Thanks for visiting my blog,
Love ya,
Janet :)

Warning, Ari uses his usual offensive language and thoughts!