Friday, January 28, 2011

Reach For The Stars

Hello Everyone, I couldn't let today go without paying tribute to these brave Astronauts. I have often been asked if I did name my daughter Christa after Christa McAuliffe, but no, I did not, she was a year and a half old 25 years ago today. But I am flattered that she shares the same name with such an inspirational and amazing woman. The videos are similar, one just has more info than the other. May their spirit continue to live on in the generations they have inspired. We should all carry their spirit within us in our daily lives don't you think? Knowing no fear, never stopping, and always reaching for the stars!!
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Janet :)

Wednesday, January 26, 2011

Circle Of Friends

Hello Everyone, This is for all of you my friends, I hope our circle continues to grow and knows no end! Have a great day
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Janet :)


Friday, January 21, 2011

Borderline Personality Disorder

Hello Everyone, I hope you are doing well. I came across this touching video on BPD by Amanda Wang. It inspired me to share more information on this disorder. I hope it helps any of you out there or a loved one who may be suffering from this illness, yet do not have a diagnosis. With a proper diagnosis, anyone, like Amanda, can learn to truly live.
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Janet :)


Raising questions, finding answers

Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a serious mental illness characterized by pervasive instability in moods, interpersonal relationships, self-image, and behavior. This instability often disrupts family and work life, long-term planning, and the individual's sense of self-identity. Originally thought to be at the "borderline" of psychosis, people with BPD suffer from a disorder of emotion regulation. While less well known than schizophrenia or bipolar disorder (manic-depressive illness), BPD is more common, affecting 2 percent of adults, mostly young women. There is a high rate of self-injury without suicide intent, as well as a significant rate of suicide attempts and completed suicide in severe cases. Patients often need extensive mental health services, and account for 20 percent of psychiatric hospitalizations. Yet, with help, many improve over time and are eventually able to lead productive lives.


While a person with depression or bipolar disorder typically endures the same mood for weeks, a person with BPD may experience intense bouts of anger, depression, and anxiety that may last only hours, or at most a day. These may be associated with episodes of impulsive aggression, self-injury, and drug or alcohol abuse. Distortions in cognition and sense of self can lead to frequent changes in long-term goals, career plans, jobs, friendships, gender identity, and values. Sometimes people with BPD view themselves as fundamentally bad, or unworthy. They may feel unfairly misunderstood or mistreated, bored, empty, and have little idea who they are. Such symptoms are most acute when people with BPD feel isolated and lacking in social support, and may result in frantic efforts to avoid being alone.

People with BPD often have highly unstable patterns of social relationships. While they can develop intense but stormy attachments, their attitudes towards family, friends, and loved ones may suddenly shift from idealization (great admiration and love) to devaluation (intense anger and dislike). Thus, they may form an immediate attachment and idealize the other person, but when a slight separation or conflict occurs, they switch unexpectedly to the other extreme and angrily accuse the other person of not caring for them at all. Even with family members, individuals with BPD are highly sensitive to rejection, reacting with anger and distress to such mild separations as a vacation, a business trip, or a sudden change in plans. These fears of abandonment seem to be related to difficulties feeling emotionally connected to important persons when they are physically absent, leaving the individual with BPD feeling lost and perhaps worthless. Suicide threats and attempts may occur along with anger at perceived abandonment and disappointments.

People with BPD exhibit other impulsive behaviors, such as excessive spending, binge eating and risky sex. BPD often occurs together with other psychiatric problems, particularly bipolar disorder, depression, anxiety disorders, substance abuse, and other personality disorders.

Treatments for BPD have improved in recent years. Group and individual psychotherapy are at least partially effective for many patients. Within the past 15 years, a new psychosocial treatment termed dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) was developed specifically to treat BPD, and this technique has looked promising in treatment studies. Pharmacological treatments are often prescribed based on specific target symptoms shown by the individual patient. Antidepressant drugs and mood stabilizers may be helpful for depressed and/or labile mood. Antipsychotic drugs may also be used when there are distortions in thinking.

Recent Research Findings

Although the cause of BPD is unknown, both environmental and genetic factors are thought to play a role in predisposing patients to BPD symptoms and traits. Studies show that many, but not all individuals with BPD report a history of abuse, neglect, or separation as young children. Forty to 71 percent of BPD patients report having been sexually abused, usually by a non-caregiver. Researchers believe that BPD results from a combination of individual vulnerability to environmental stress, neglect or abuse as young children, and a series of events that trigger the onset of the disorder as young adults. Adults with BPD are also considerably more likely to be the victim of violence, including rape and other crimes. This may result from both harmful environments as well as impulsivity and poor judgement in choosing partners and lifestyles.

NIMH-funded neuroscience research is revealing brain mechanisms underlying the impulsivity, mood instability, aggression, anger, and negative emotion seen in BPD. Studies suggest that people predisposed to impulsive aggression have impaired regulation of the neural circuits that modulate emotion. The amygdala, a small almond-shaped structure deep inside the brain, is an important component of the circuit that regulates negative emotion. In response to signals from other brain centers indicating a perceived threat, it marshals fear and arousal. This might be more pronounced under the influence of drugs like alcohol, or stress. Areas in the front of the brain (pre-frontal area) act to dampen the activity of this circuit. Recent brain imaging studies show that individual differences in the ability to activate regions of the prefrontal cerebral cortex thought to be involved in inhibitory activity predict the ability to suppress negative emotion.

Serotonin, norepinephrine and acetylcholine are among the chemical messengers in these circuits that play a role in the regulation of emotions, including sadness, anger, anxiety, and irritability. Drugs that enhance brain serotonin function may improve emotional symptoms in BPD. Likewise, mood-stabilizing drugs that are known to enhance the activity of GABA, the brain's major inhibitory neurotransmitter, may help people who experience BPD-like mood swings. Such brain-based vulnerabilities can be managed with help from behavioral interventions and medications, much like people manage susceptibility to diabetes or high blood pressure.

Future Progress

Studies that translate basic findings about the neural basis of temperament, mood regulation, and cognition into clinically relevant insights which bear directly on BPD represent a growing area of NIMH-supported research. Research is also underway to test the efficacy of combining medications with behavioral treatments like DBT, and gauging the effect of childhood abuse and other stress in BPD on brain hormones. Data from the first prospective, longitudinal study of BPD, which began in the early 1990s, is expected to reveal how treatment affects the course of the illness. It will also pinpoint specific environmental factors and personality traits that predict a more favorable outcome. The Institute is also collaborating with a private foundation to help attract new researchers to develop a better understanding and better treatment for BPD.

Monday, January 17, 2011

Let's Make Love

Hello Everyone, Happy Music Monday! This is such a beautiful song by a beautiful couple. We should all have nights like this with our loved ones. Enjoy!
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Saturday, January 15, 2011

Blossomed Souls

Hi Everyone, "I don't know if we each have a destiny, or if we're all just floatin' around accidental-like on a breeze(fate), But I, I think, maybe it's both". I love this line from one of my favorite movies Forrest Gump. Don't we all wonder what really is our destiny? are we working towards it or does fate already have it all planned out and we are where we should be? I couldn't help but think of this line when I was watching the TV this week as we all remembered Britney and mourned for Christina. I have been touched by Britney's story since last year and I did not realize until this year that the anniversary of her passing is the same day as my Mothers. She has inspired me so much to step outside of myself and do something for the greater good of others. I decided back in November to contact the Be Like Brit Organization to volunteer. I thought at Christmas time it would be a good time to set up a booth to sell her items at the mall in hopes people would buy them as a different Christmas gift and help raise money for her dream. They contacted me and liked the idea, and added me to the volunteer list. Although the booth idea did not work out this year, probably because of so much going on with the breaking of ground in Haiti,but I look forward to the day I can do something with her organization. If not with them, I do plan to add to my bucket list a humanitarian mission of some kind, I would love to do that someday now I know for sure. Then this morning I heard on the news that Christina's Parents donated her organs to a little girl here in Boston. Now she has helped a life in her death as well as Britney. These tragic situations not only give us pause to stop and love, care, they also are sending us a strong message. I feel it is this one I found on my friends blog, "We did not come to this earth simply to do our job, make money, acquire things, and be like everyone else. We did not come to make ourselves so busy that we have no time to feel our soul, and to listen to its gentle guidance. We came to blossom into the fullest expression of our true nature, our authentic self-who we were destined to be before we were shaped into someone else. There is still time". I hope where ever these beautiful souls are that they know their lives designed by fate or destiny, have inspired people like me. Most of all may they somehow know that in their years, although short, they truly lived, their souls blossomed so beautifully for all us to follow by example. God bless them and their families.
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Janet :)

Christina Taylor Green

Wednesday, January 12, 2011

When I Miss You

Hi Everyone, Today is the 3rd anniversary of my mother's passing. She was my inspiration for this blog and so much more in my life. Most of all she taught me, by example, not to let a disease define who or what you are. How that lesson is still helping me today. Simply amazing is the power of how a mother's love, for it transcends death and lives within us for life.
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Janet :)


When I miss you

When I miss you mom
I turn towards the sun
With the rays on my face
I feel your love and grace

When I miss your hold
I stand still in the wind
and feel the strength of
your soul

When I miss your eyes
I see them in the mirror
through me they are
still alive

When I miss your smile
I look to the night
Each star wishes
they could be so bright

When I miss everything
about you
I stand in the rain
until it washes away
the pain

When I look at what you
left behind I am so
blessed and believe
When our family is gathered
your spirit is with us and
will never leave
Today and forever I will
miss you until together
again we will be

Friday, January 7, 2011

What Love Means

Hi Everyone, I hope your doing well. I came across this post on blog. She was kind enough to let me share this with you on here. I just love the answers the children give. In the smallest of moments they see love that we sometimes fail to do, or just take for granted. What touched me the most is that we should all learn to love better like Nikka suggests. I hope you enjoy them too.
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Love ya,
Janet :)

Slow down for three minutes to read this. It is so worth it. Touching words from the mouth of babies. A group of professional people posed this question to a group of 4 to 8 year-old, 'What does love mean?' The answers they got were broader and deeper than anyone could have imagined. See what you think:

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'When my grandmother got arthritis, she couldn't bend over and paint her toenails anymore. So my grandfather does it for her all the time, even when his hands got arthritis too. That's love.' Rebecca- age 8

'When someone loves you, the way they say your name is different. You just know that your name is safe in their mouth.' Billy - age 4

'Love is when a girl puts on perfume and a boy puts on shaving cologne and they go out and smell each other.'
Karl - age 5

'Love is when you go out to eat and give somebody most of your French fries without making them give you any of theirs.' Chrissy - age 6

'Love is what makes you smile when you're tired.' Terri - age 4

'Love is when my mommy makes coffee for my daddy and she takes a sip or 2 before giving it to him, to make sure the taste is OK.' Danny - age 7

'Love is when you kiss all the time. Then when you get tired of kissing, you still want to be together and you talk more. My Mommy and Daddy are like that. They look gross when they kiss' Emily - age 8

'Love is what's in the room with you at Christmas if you stop opening presents and listen.' Bobby - age 7 (Wow!)

'If you want to learn to love better, you should start with a friend who you hate,' Nikka - age 6 (we need a few million more Nikka's on this planet)

'Love is when you tell a guy you like his shirt, then he wears it everyday.' Noelle - age 7

'Love is like a little old woman and a little old man who are still friends even after they know each other so well.' Tommy - age 6

'During my piano recital, I was on a stage and I was scared. I looked at all the people watching me and saw my daddy waving and smiling. He was the only one doing that. I wasn't scared anymore.' Cindy - age 8

'My mommy loves me more than anybody. You don't see anyone else kissing me to sleep at night.' Clare - age 6

'Love is when Mommy gives Daddy the best piece of chicken.' Elaine-age 5

'Love is when Mommy sees Daddy smelly and sweaty and still says he is handsomer than Robert Redford.' Chris - age 7

'Love is when your puppy licks your face even after you left him alone all day.' Mary Ann - age 4

'I know my older sister loves me because she gives me all her old clothes and has to go out and buy new ones.' Lauren - age 4

'When you love somebody, your eyelashes go up and down and little stars come out of you.' (what an image) Karen - age 7

'Love is when Mommy sees Daddy on the toilet and she doesn't think it's gross.' Mark - age 6

'You really shouldn't say 'I love you' unless you mean it. But if you mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget.' Jessica - age 8

And the final one The winner was a four year old child whose next door neighbor was an elderly gentleman who had recently lost his wife. Upon seeing the man cry, the little boy went into the old gentleman's yard, climbed onto his lap, and just sat there. When his Mother asked what he had said to the neighbor, the little boy said, 'Nothing, I just helped him cry’

Tuesday, January 4, 2011

Youth and Bipolar Disorder

Hello Everyone, I hope your doing well. Children can suffer from Bi Polar Disorder as well as adults. It is crucial to know the signs if there is a family history. At the same time it is a fine line between normal childhood behavior and what is not. So it can be difficult to diagnose. I feel the most important sign to watch for is that the symptoms last for long periods of time, then you would need to consult a Doctor for an evaluation, especially where they are at risk for suicidal behavior.
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Janet :)


Youth with bipolar disorder experience unusually intense emotional states that occur in distinct periods called "mood episodes." An overly joyful or overexcited state is called a manic episode, and an extremely sad or hopeless state is called a depressive episode. Sometimes, a mood episode includes symptoms of both mania and depression. This is called a mixed state. People with bipolar disorder also may be explosive and irritable during a mood episode.

Extreme changes in energy, activity, sleep, and behavior go along with these changes in mood. Symptoms of bipolar disorder are described below.

Symptoms of mania include:
* Mood Changes
* Being in an overly silly or joyful mood that's unusual for your child.
It is different from times when he or she might usually get silly and have fun.
* Having an extremely short temper. This is an irritable mood that is unusual.

Behavioral Changes
* Sleeping little but not feeling tired
* Talking a lot and having racing thoughts
* Having trouble concentrating, attention jumping from one thing to the next in an unusual way
* Talking and thinking about sex more often
* Behaving in risky ways more often, seeking pleasure a lot, and doing more activities than usual.

Symptoms of depression include:
* Mood Changes
* Being in a sad mood that lasts a long time
* Losing interest in activities they once enjoyed
* Feeling worthless or guilty.

Behavioral Changes
* Complaining about pain more often, such as headaches, stomach aches, and muscle pains
* Eating a lot more or less and gaining or losing a lot of weight
* Sleeping or oversleeping when these were not problems before
* Losing energy
* Recurring thoughts of death or suicide.

It's normal for almost every child or teen to have some of these symptoms sometimes. These passing changes should not be confused with bipolar disorder.

Symptoms of bipolar disorder are not like the normal changes in mood and energy that everyone has now and then. Bipolar symptoms are more extreme and tend to last for most of the day, nearly every day, for at least one week. Also, depressive or manic episodes include moods very different from a child's normal mood, and the behaviors described in the chart above may start at the same time. Sometimes the symptoms of bipolar disorder are so severe that the child needs to be treated in a hospital.

In addition to mania and depression, bipolar disorder can cause a range of moods, as shown on the scale below. One side of the scale includes severe depression, moderate depression, and mild low mood. Moderate depression may cause less extreme symptoms, and mild low mood is called dysthymia when it is chronic or long-term. In the middle of the scale is normal or balanced mood.

Sometimes, a child may have more energy and be more active than normal, but not show the severe signs of a full-blown manic episode. When this happens, it is called hypomania, and it generally lasts for at least four days in a row. Hypomania causes noticeable changes in behavior, but does not harm a child's ability to function in the way mania does.

How does bipolar disorder affect children and teens differently than adults?

Bipolar disorder that starts during childhood or during the teen years is called early-onset bipolar disorder. Early-onset bipolar disorder seems to be more severe than the forms that first appear in older teens and adults. Youth with bipolar disorder are different from adults with bipolar disorder. Young people with the illness appear to have more frequent mood switches, are sick more often, and have more mixed episodes.

Watch out for any sign of suicidal thinking or behaviors. Take these signs seriously. On average, people with early-onset bipolar disorder have greater risk for attempting suicide than those whose symptoms start in adulthood. One large study on bipolar disorder in children and teens found that more than one-third of study participants made at least one serious suicide attempt. Some suicide attempts are carefully planned and others are not. Either way, it is important to understand that suicidal feelings and actions are symptoms of an illness that must be treated.