Tuesday, May 31, 2011

Managing Stress

Hello Everyone, I hope your doing well. Stress can take a toll on our mental and physical health. Especially in these tough economic times. I personally feel the stress and depression of being unemployed each day. And now that work is getting slow for my husband, I feel it twice as much. I decided to read some articles on stress at the American Psychological Association's website. I thought I would share this article with any of you who may be going through what I am or having a tough time in this economy.
Thanks for visiting my blog,
Janet :)


Managing your stress in tough economic times

Money is on the minds of most Americans. In fact, according to the American Psychological Association’s 2010 Stress in America survey, over three-quarters of Americans (76 percent) cite money as a significant cause of stress. And while the economy appears to be becoming healthier, personal financial problems still worry many Americans. But, like most of our everyday stress, this extra tension can be managed. There are healthy strategies available for managing stress during any difficult financial time for you and your family. The American Psychological Association offers these tips to help deal with your stress about money and the economy:

Pause but don’t panic.
There are many negative stories in newspapers and on television about the state of the economy. Pay attention to what’s happening around you, but refrain from getting caught up in doom-and-gloom hype, which can lead to high levels of anxiety and bad decision making. Avoid the tendency to overreact or to become passive. Remain calm and stay focused.

Identify your financial stressors and make a plan.
Take stock of your particular financial situation and what causes you stress. Write down specific ways you and your family can reduce expenses or manage your finances more efficiently. Then commit to a specific plan and review it regularly. Although this can be anxiety-provoking in the short term, putting things down on paper and committing to a plan can reduce stress. If you are having trouble paying bills or staying on top of debt, reach out for help by calling your bank, utilities or credit card company.

Recognize how you deal with stress related to money.
In tough economic times some people are more likely to relieve stress by turning to unhealthy activities like smoking, drinking, gambling or emotional eating. The strain can also lead to more conflict and arguments between partners. Be alert to these behaviors—if they are causing you trouble, consider seeking help from a psychologist or community mental health clinic before the problem gets worse.

Turn these challenging times into opportunities for real growth and change.
Times like this, while difficult, can offer opportunities to take stock of your current situation and make needed changes. Think of ways that these economic challenges can motivate you to find healthier ways to deal with stress. Try taking a walk—it’s an inexpensive way to get good exercise. Having dinner at home with your family may not only save you money, but help bring you closer together. Consider learning a new skill. Take a course through your employer or look into low-cost resources in your community that can lead to a better job. The key is to use this time to think outside the box and try new ways of managing your life.

Ask for professional support.
Credit counseling services and financial planners are available to help you take control over your money situation. If you continue to be overwhelmed by the stress, you may want to talk with a psychologist who can help you address the emotions behind your financial worries, manage stress, and change unhealthy behaviors.

This tip sheet was made possible with help from APA member Nancy Molitor, PhD.

Saturday, May 28, 2011

We Are The Champions

Hello Everyone, I hope your having a great weekend. I'll be enjoying lots of time with my honey and my family :) I'm just lovin this weather! This video has been going around on facebook, I'm sure you will see a few familiar faces from your shopping days at Walmart LOL!
Thanks for visiting my blog,
Janet :)

For the Boston Bruins, Way to Go!

Monday, May 23, 2011

Enabling, When Helping is Actually Hurting

Hello Everyone, I hope your doing well. This is a very important issue that needs to be addressed if you are living with someone who is in the depths of an addiction. Letting go is the hardest thing to do, but it is also the best thing you can do for the addict.
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Janet :)


Enabling – When Helping is Actually Hurting

It is difficult to be in a relationship with an addict and not get sucked into enabling behavior. When somebody you love is suffering with an illness or a disease you naturally want to help. As a result, loved ones often step in to save the addict from the devastating consequences of their actions.

Family members believe that they are doing the right things when they help to save the addict’s job, help him or her to stay out of jail, help to pay their overdue bills, or save them from whatever horrific thing is getting ready to happen. Unfortunately, this is not helping. Instead, it is making it easier for the addict to continue drinking or using drugs, because the consequences aren’t bad enough to convince him or her to stop.

So how do you make a change if you’ve been in the habit of enabling your loved one? It is difficult to make a complete turn around overnight. Change takes time. The first step is understanding which behaviors are actually enabling, and then work on turning those behaviors around.

Following are some examples of actions that fall under the category of enabling:

You take on the addict’s responsibilities because they can’t seem to do them on their own. For example; you pay their overdue bills, clean their house, fill their car with gas, or buy them groceries.
You tell lies for the addict, such as ‘calling in sick’ for them, when they are actually too hung over to work.
You make excuses for the addict’s behavior. Perhaps they act out in public, and you make the excuse that the addict has been working a lot of hours, so their behavior is due to stress.
You bail the addict out of jail.
You finish a project that the addict failed to complete.
You clean up after the addict. Perhaps they throw a tantrum, throwing things around and breaking them, and you clean it up.
You threaten to leave the addict, or kick the addict out if he or she uses again, but fail to follow through on your threats.

Are any of these behaviors familiar to you? Enabling behavior comes from the desire to help your loved one. Nobody wants to watch a person they love fall apart. When it comes to addiction, however, the more you protect the addict from the consequences of his or her actions, the stronger the addiction will become.

It is a difficult thing to let go and allow your loved one to face the consequences of their actions, especially since it can affect your well-being as much as theirs. You don’t want your life to become more stressful. You don’t want your spouse to lose his or her job. You don’t want to admit to family and friends how bad things have gotten. So you do everything in your power to keep the outside world from finding out.

Here is the tough reality: things need to start crumbling around your loved one in order for him or her to realize their need for help. As long as they are not forced to face the consequences or their actions, they will never see the need for help.

Stopping enabling behavior does not mean you stop caring. You can show compassion for the addict without their problems becoming yours. You can listen with a loving ear without taking on their responsibilities. You can offer guidance without belittling.

It is important to have a strong support system as you make these changes. One of the best forms of support available, for those involved with an addict, is Al-Anon. Through family support groups such as Al-Anon, you will find the guidance needed to make healthy changes in your family dynamic.

While common themes play out in most addictive households, every situation is unique. It is important to consult a qualified health-care professional for evaluation and advice. Addiction is a complicated disease, but when family members learn to take on new healthy behaviors, they really can make a difference in the recovery of their loved ones.

by Lisa Espich

Wednesday, May 18, 2011

Myths & Facts About Mental Health

Hello Everyone, I hope your doing well today. I am happy to be participating in this years Mental Health Blog Party! Please join in if you can to help raise awareness. We need to end the Stigma that so many people today still suffer from. There is no need for anyone with a Mental Illness in this day and age to feel ashamed. With new treatments and science, Mental Illness is a treatable disease like most physical diseases. I have personally witnessed a remarkable recovery with my own Mother, through the care of good Doctors and a supportive family. I hope this article helps anyone one out there that still has questions or concerns about the most common Myths that still exist today.
Thank you for visiting my blog,
Janet :)

Often people are afraid to talk about mental health because there are many misconceptions about mental illnesses. It's important to learn the facts to stop discrimination and to begin treating people with mental illnesses with respect and dignity.

Here are some common myths and facts about mental health.

Myth: There's no hope for people with mental illnesses.
Fact: There are more treatments, strategies, and community supports than ever before, and even more are on the horizon. People with mental illnesses lead active, productive lives.

Myth: I can't do anything for someone with mental health needs.
Fact: You can do a lot, starting with the way you act and how you speak. You can nurture an environment that builds on people's strengths and promotes good mental health. For example:

Avoid labeling people with words like "crazy," "wacko," "loony," or by their diagnosis. Instead of saying someone is a "schizophrenic" say "a person with schizophrenia." Learn the facts about mental health and share them with others, especially if you hear something that is untrue. Treat people with mental illnesses with respect and dignity, as you would anybody else. Respect the rights of people with mental illnesses and don't discriminate against them when it comes to housing, employment, or education. Like other people with disabilities, people with mental health needs are protected under Federal and State laws.

Myth: People with mental illnesses are violent and unpredictable.
Fact: In reality, the vast majority of people who have mental health needs are no more violent than anyone else. You probably know someone with a mental illness and don't even realize it.

Myth: Mental illnesses cannot affect me.
Fact: Mental illnesses are surprisingly common; they affect almost every family in America. Mental illnesses do not discriminate-they can affect anyone.

Myth: Mental illness is the same as mental retardation.
Fact: The two are distinct disorders. A mental retardation diagnosis is characterized by limitations in intellectual functioning and difficulties with certain daily living skills. In contrast, people with mental illnesses-health conditions that cause changes in a person's thinking, mood, and behavior-have varied intellectual functioning, just like the general population.

Myth: Mental illnesses are brought on by a weakness of character.
Fact: Mental illnesses are a product of the interaction of biological, psychological, and social factors. Research has shown genetic and biological factors are associated with schizophrenia, depression, and alcoholism. Social influences, such as loss of a loved one or a job, can also contribute to the development of various disorders.

Myth: People with mental health needs, even those who have received effective treatment and have recovered, tend to be second-rate workers on the job.
Fact: Employers who have hired people with mental illnesses report good attendance and punctuality, as well as motivation, quality of work, and job tenure on par with or greater than other employees. Studies by the National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH) and the National Alliance for the Mentally Ill (NAMI) show that there are no differences in productivity when people with mental illnesses are compared to other employees.

Myth: Once people develop mental illnesses, they will never recover.
Fact: Studies show that most people with mental illnesses get better, and many recover completely. Recovery refers to the process in which people are able to live, work, learn, and participate fully in their communities. For some individuals, recovery is the ability to live a fulfilling and productive life. For others, recovery implies the reduction or complete remission of symptoms. Science has shown that having hope plays an integral role in an individual's recovery.

Myth: Therapy and self-help are wastes of time. Why bother when you can just take one of those pills you hear about on TV?
Fact: Treatment varies depending on the individual. A lot of people work with therapists, counselors, their peers, psychologists, psychiatrists, nurses, and social workers in their recovery process. They also use self-help strategies and community supports. Often these methods are combined with some of the most advanced medications available.

Myth: Children do not experience mental illnesses. Their actions are just products of bad parenting.
Fact: A report from the President's New Freedom Commission on Mental Health showed that in any given year 5-9 percent of children experience serious emotional disturbances. Just like adult mental illnesses, these are clinically diagnosable health conditions that are a product of the interaction of biological, psychological, social, and sometimes even genetic factors.

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Monday, May 16, 2011

Thinking About You

Hello Everyone, Happy Music Monday! This classic song from the 80's popped in my head the other day :) I love when that happens :) Enjoy,
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Love ya,
Janet :)

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Thursday, May 12, 2011

Coming Around Again

Hello Everyone, Today I'll be listening to this inspirational song as go about my day and smiling all the while. I thought I would spread the inspiration on to you as well :) Remember whatever you may be going through, or have gone through, everyday we have another chance to be coming around again! Have a great day,
Thanks for visiting my blog,
Love ya,
Janet :)


I been sitting in the darkness
But the sunlight’s creeping in
Now the ice is slowly melting
In my soul and in my skin
All the good times my friend
Are coming around again
Oh yeah

I been thinking reminiscing
Of better nights and better days
Hiding in a refuge
Of memories I've made
I got a feeling within
It’s coming around again

It's coming around again
We been so long waiting
For the all time high
We got a damn good reason
To put your troubles aside
And all your winter sorrows
hang ‘em out to dry
Throw it away
Gotta throw it away
All the colorful days my friend
Are coming around again

That’s right
Yeah yeah Mmm

I got someone waiting for me
It's been so long since we met
And I may not be your salvation
but I’ll offer nonetheless
And if like me u wanna take
that chance, It's coming around
again, Ooh yeah!

Yeah yeah Mmm

I can feel a change of fortune
No more riding on my love
Feel the weight is off my shoulders
As my feet become unstuck
And all the good times on which
we do depend, Oh it’s coming around again

Tuesday, May 10, 2011

The Beaver

Hello Everyone, I hope your doing well. I was a little sad, but also not surprised to see this movie did not do well at the box office over the weekend. People just don't like different, or watching what is obvious a mentally ill man, I don't think it is just the Gibson issue. With the movie A Beautiful Mind it was not so "out there" for everyone to notice. I Still plan on seeing it sometime and I hope if some of you read this review by Rolling Stone do too. I am grateful and inspired though, that Jodie Foster was brave and courageous enough to do a movie that shows society the struggles that so many families living with someone with a Mental Illness go through, because I lived it myself growing up. This is some of what she had to say in her interview with The Hollywood Reporter. "It is a story of a families struggle with depression. “This is not a mainstream movie,” she says. “It does have mainstream actors, but that’s not this film. I don’t need to make those kinds of movies because my career as a director is a personal spiritual path. I don’t need to succeed in that way in order to have an identity. I already have one.”
Thank you for visiting my blog,
Love ya,
Janet :)

Rolling Stone
By Peter Travers
May 5, 2011

The internet darts being hurled at The Beaver are many and unvaried, all focused on the question of who in hell wants to see a Mel Gibson movie in which the star, vilified as "Hollywood's most vocal Jew-hater" and despised racist, homophobic, misogynistic, abusive, alcoholic, trigger-tempered paranoiac, pours out his heart to a beaver hand puppet?

The answer is: You do. If you can get past your feelings for the troubled Gibson, you get to watch a high-wire performance of the highest caliber. It's your call. My call is that The Beaver, directed by Jodie Foster from a script by fearless first-timer Kyle Killen, is operating on a plane far above multiplex formula. This flawed but heartfelt movie has the power to sneak up and floor you. Foster, Gibson's pal since they co-starred in 1994's Maverick, directs with blunt honesty and disarming grace. Her subject, as in the two other films she's directed — 1991's Little Man Tate and 1995's Home for the Holidays — is the pain and dark humor of family dysfunction.

Foster also brings her uncanny acting instincts to the role of Meredith, a wife and mother of two whose world is coming apart. She blames her husband, Walter Black (Gibson), the CEO of a toy company who has watched depression rot his career and his marriage. Walter can't get off the couch, except to reach for another drink. His teen son, Porter (the outstanding Anton Yelchin), loathes Walter, keeping Post-its to help him erase any resemblance to father. Younger son Henry (the gifted Riley Thomas Stewart) still adores Walter but can't sleep. No wonder Meredith throws the bum out.

In a hotel room, Walter tries to off himself by leaping from a balcony. Instead, he accidentally collapses into bed with a beaver puppet he picked up in a liquor-store dumpster. "Wake up," says the Beaver now attached to Walter's hand. Yup, the puppet talks. And in a Cockney croak that Gibson cleverly develops to sound like Michael Caine on a contact high. Walter moves his lips, but it's the Beaver giving orders to Walter on how to live his life.

This is the moment that separates the true movie lover from the popcorn eater in it for a quickie. In a style more European than American, Foster shows no fear of abstraction. The Beaver is Walter's id run amok. At first, Meredith believes Walter's lie that the Beaver is a "prescription puppet." The therapy results in a bout of wild sex that may be the kinkiest three-way ever. Yo, Beaver. Henry is just happy to have his dad back. Porter, understandably, is creeped out. Not just by Walter, but by himself. Porter's dream girl, Norah (Jennifer Lawrence, an Oscar nominee for Winter's Bone, again proves her shining skill), reminds him that his lucrative business in writing personal essays for students has removed him from his own emotional life. Foster uses her experience as a child actor to bring out the nuanced best in these young performers, who are touching without ever slipping into sappy.

Jennifer Lawrence Enters Oscar Country

Still, it's the hell Walter has made for himself that keeps pulling you in. An anniversary dinner with Meredith, in which she demands he dump the Beaver at home, leaves him a shaking wreck. He resents her gift of a memory box filled with photos of their past, claiming it's depression he suffers from, not amnesia. All of which leads Walter to potentially tragic alternatives.

It may not be possible to totally disengage Walter's crisis from Gibson's own. If you haven't seen the darkness gnawing at Gibson in the films he's directed, from Braveheart to The Passion of the Christ and Apocalypto, then you haven't been paying attention. Foster has. For all its tonal shifts, The Beaver is a potent provocation about the bruises inflicted from just being human. Foster's film and Gibson's grieving performance bring that point forcefully and feelingly home.

Friday, May 6, 2011

Mother's Day

Hello Everyone, Happy Friday! Here is a little Mother's day humor for you :) May all of you Mom's out there have a great, well-earned, day!
Thanks for visiting my blog,
Have a great weekend,
Janet :)

mothers day Pictures, Images and Photos


Sunday, May 1, 2011

Mental Health Blog Party

Hi Everyone, I hope your doing well. May is Mental Health Month! I think this idea of a blog party day is a great way to spread awareness and help end the Stigma, so please join in and help make a difference:) If there is anything I have learned in the past year, while attending groups and with blogging the past couple of years, is that you might not think that what you have to say or share will make any difference, it's not that important, but it just may be what someone needed read that day, and your story and information you share can truly help heal, comfort, and even empower others! Don't underestimate yourself! When the badge becomes available I will post it on both of my blogs. Some of the links you can just copy and paste, I did not have time to do them all. I look forward to reading all of your posts if you join in.
Thanks for visiting my blog,
Have a great day,
Janet :)


Mental Health Month Blog Party – May 18th

Mental health affects everyone and everything we do. Yet, mental health is a topic many don’t feel comfortable discussing. Join us on May 18, 2011, to spread the importance of good mental health and reduce its stigma.

May is Mental Health Month, and on May 18 bloggers will come together for a Mental Health Month Blog Party to educate the public about mental health, decrease stigma about mental illness, and discuss strategies for making lasting lifestyle and behavior changes that promote overall health and wellness.

You can see some of the great blogs that contributed to the event last year at our 2010 Mental Health Month Blog Day Round Up post.

Event Background
Mental health: it’s the way your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors affect your life. Having good mental health helps you make better decisions and deal with daily stressors at home, at work, and in your family. Sometimes, you may need help from a professional to take care of your mental health, especially if feelings or problems seem beyond your control.

Congress designated May as Mental Health Month in 1949 to illustrate the importance of mental health issues to the overall health and well-being of American citizens.

How can you help people recognize the importance of good mental health, overcome stigma, and seek out professional mental health services when needed?

* Join us on May 18 and publish a post on your blog about mental health’s importance, how we can diminish stigma, or the challenges of making lifestyle and behavior changes. Tell your story. Share your experience. Mental health affects everything we do. No matter what you regularly blog about, there’s a way to incorporate mental health.
* We’ll update this blog throughout the day with highlights of what people are writing about and sharing.
* Share stories, tips, and personal experiences about mental health to reinforce the shared challenges we face when it comes to managing our overall health and wellness.
* Post a video on YouTube, talking about why mental health matters to you. Or maybe you’d like to upload photos to Flickr. Let us know what you’ve done, so we can share it with others.
* Get resources about mental health, mind/body health, and family well-being at:
* Follow @apahelpcenter on Twitter for updates about the blog party and mind/body health. If you want us to easily find your blog or tweet, use the hashtag #mhblogday
* Post an “I’m Blogging for Mental Health” badge on your blog and help proudly spread the word about the importance of mental health. (We’ll be providing this year’s badge in the next few days.)
* Be a fan of the American Psychological Association on Facebook and join in on our series of Facebook chats throughout the month of May.