Friday, July 29, 2011

Forget It Pill

Hello Everyone, I hope your doing well. The other night on my local news they had a story on this Drug Metyrapone that blocks bad memories. I think it is a good break through for people who suffer severe PTSD, like veterans, but I'm also concerned that if it was marketed again, it may be abused to just forget bad memories instead of working through them. I could not get the code to share the video of the story below, so I found some videos that 60 minutes did on this topic a while ago. Watch the videos if you are curious about this forget it pill and decide for yourself, would you want it or not?
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Janet :)

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From the Boston Channel: Rachel Caesar, a career soldier and mother of two teenage boys, spent nine months in Afghanistan serving her country. When she came home, her experiences still haunted her.

“I was at the hospital one day and I saw a child about my kids' age who was burnt from a land mine. And I kept having dreams about that," said Caesar. “I could only sleep during the day because at nighttime I was having nightmares," said Caesar.

Eventually, Rachel was diagnosed with depression and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), which one in five returning veterans deal with once back at home.

New research out of Canada, however, may hold the key to preventing PTSD before it even begins. Relief could come in the form of a pill that blocks a patient's ability to recall bad memories.

“The goal is really to reduce bad memories that prevent people from living normally,” said Marie-France Marin, the lead author of the study and a doctoral student at the Centre for Studies on Human Stress of Louis-H. Lafontaine Hospital in Quebec, Canada.

When in a stressful environment, such as a war zone, the body releases the stress hormone cortisol. Too much or too little cortisol affects memory function too.

In one study, Canadian researchers gave a group of men the drug metyrapone, known to lower cortisol levels, after showing the men both neutral and negative images.

“What we notice is that people who recalled the story under two doses of metyrapone have lower memory for emotional segments of the story, but the neutral memories are not affected,” said Marin.

The negative memories were gone, even days later when the drug was out of their systems. The neutral memories remained unaffected. To Caesar and other veterans, the research means hope.

“I would love to forget how I was treated, a lot of things that went on,” said Caesar.

One major hurdle to the research, however, is that metyrapone is no longer commercially produced. Even so, researchers said the study's success may motivate pharmaceutical companies to re-invest in the drug.

Above story in video is at this link

Tuesday, July 26, 2011

Know Peace

Hello Everyone, Some words of inspiration for you today. I hope you have a great day!
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Janet :)


Thursday, July 21, 2011


Hello, In my series on Addiction, I have shared information on how to identify what an Addiction is to Co-Dependance. The next step is Intervention, "if and when" a person, and or family, realize the addiction has become unmanageable. The signs of it being unmanageable range from the physical damage to their bodies, to the mental damage that is caused by life altering experiences. I listed some steps to help with an intervention, just as a rough idea of what it should entail. As suggested below, it is best to talk with a counselor or a trained professional first. At first the person will probably be extremely angry and still in denial, but in the long run, you may have just saved their life. And some day, when they are feeling the Grace that comes with recovery, you'll hear the words "Thank You".
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Janet :)


Plan for a direct intervention at the meeting with family members, friends, and anyone else who is concerned about the individual and can attest to the way that his actions have negatively affected his or her own life, and that of others. It is best to involve 3-6 people, and no children.

Communicate openly with one another and take notes of what the loved one is doing that is harmful to himself and others. Gather the facts about the person you are dealing with. Make confidentiality a clear rule for this meeting for all partakers in the meeting and for the offender's mutual protection.

Plan what each person will say and the sequence of events for the intervention. Ensure there is no contradiction or repetition. Repeating the same negative experiences and statements will only cause more stress and resistance.

Predict ways in which you think the offender will respond, and anticipate ways you can address any anticipated denials.

Meet with a professional, such as a therapist or counselor, prior to the intervention. Guidance can be helpful when preparing for the intervention. The last thing you want to to is make the offender feel victimized, abused or belittled.

Rehearse the intervention with the professional to enable you to receive an objective opinion on the expected responses from your loved one, how to stay calm and steadfast both during and after the intervention and how to react to these responses.

Create and discuss a list of actions and behavioural patterns by the loved one that will no longer be tolerated. Next to each activity, write what your action will be if he/she does continue these behaviors.

Present a list of probable and already experienced losses. Present to the addict every possible loss which the family can recount. This can include jobs, possessions, or relationships.

Highlight Consequences and Ultimatums. Prepare a list of consequences to actions and explain any required ultimatums to the loved one. Most important here is the willingness to follow through on consequences you have agreed to implement as a family to aid the loved one. Do not state consequences that you are not willing to enforce!

Follow-through with the consequences or else the plans will turn into empty threats. Refusing to loan money can be a simple consequence, or one can be as painful as threatening to leave a spouse, and to take the children from the home. Make appropriate preparations, just in case. For example, if his wife tells him that she will be leaving him unless he agrees to treatment, have clothes packed and a place to stay.

Make arrangements for treatment. Make plans and organize any necessary treatments that should immediately follow the intervention. The professional that you meet with should be able to recommend appropriate treatment given the nature and severity of the problem at hand. Choose the facility and make prior arrangements, considering all elements including location, quality of treatment , good fit for the offender and financial implications of the treatment.

Arrange for seating, so that each person has a place to sit. This should all be in place before you begin, as you don't want people moving around once the intervention commences.

Confront the individual with everyone present in a private room. Ensure the safety and security of the environment beforehand ie. no disruptions etc. Do all you can to begin with your loved one in a calm state, and if the issue is drug addiction or alcoholism, he should be sober. Gently explain to him that you are all there because you are concerned for his well-being.

Monday, July 18, 2011


Hi Everyone, Here is a fun classic song to help perk you up this Monday Morning. I hope you all have a great week :)
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Janet :)

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Wednesday, July 13, 2011

Sacred Instructions To Live By

Hello Everyone, I find the teachings and prayers of the Native Americans to be some of the most Beautiful and truly Spiritual reads I have ever come across. If all of us were to live by these simple, sacred instructions, imagine what a better world it would be :)
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Janet :)


"Native American Ten Commandments"
Sacred Instructions Given By The Creator To
the Native People At The Time Of Creation

Treat the Earth and all that dwell thereon with respect
Remain close to the Great Spirit
Show great respect for your fellow beings
Work together for the benefit of all Mankind
Give assistance and kindness wherever needed
Do what you know to be right
Look after the well being of mind and body
Dedicate a share of your efforts to the greater good
Be truthful and honest at all times
Take full responsibility for your actions

Saturday, July 9, 2011

Grace Under Fire

Hello Everyone, Yesterday the world lost a great women who demonstrated to all of us how to have "Grace Under Fire". Although her legacy included advocating for many causes. I will always be grateful to her for her advocacy for recovery. By having the courage to speak out about her story, she helped pave the way for women like me and so many others who suffered with addiction to Alcohol and drugs. She gave us all back our Grace and Dignity! Thank you Betty, Thank you.
Have a Great Saturday,
Janet :)

Betty Ford proved to be a very atypical First Lady. She wore a mood ring and spoke openly about very controversial issues such as premarital sex, experimentation with drugs and alcohol, the Equal Rights Amendment and feminism, and gun control. She openly supported a woman's right to choose, and raised awareness about breast cancer when she had a mastectomy in 1974.

When the Fords retired to Rancho Mirage, a golf community. Gerald Ford spent much of his time away, giving speeches and playing in golf tournaments. Home alone, deprived of her exciting and purposeful life in the White House, Mrs. Ford drank.

By 1978 her secret was obvious to those closest to her. "As I got sicker," she recalled, "I gradually stopped going to lunch. I wouldn't see friends. I was putting everyone out of my life." Her children recalled her living in a stupor, shuffling around in her bathrobe, refusing meals in favor of a drink.

Her family finally confronted her and insisted she seek treatment. "I was stunned at what they were trying to tell me about how I disappointed them and let them down," she said in a 1994 Associated Press interview. "I was terribly hurt – after I had spent all those years trying to be the best mother, wife I could be. ... Luckily, I was able to hear them saying that I needed help and they cared too much about me to let it go on."

She credited their "intervention" with saving her life.

Mrs. Ford entered Long Beach Naval Hospital and, alongside alcoholic young sailors and officers, underwent a grim detoxification that became the model for therapy at the Betty Ford Center. In her book "A Glad Awakening," she described her recovery as a second chance at life. And in that second chance, she found a new purpose.

"There is joy in recovery," she wrote, "and in helping others discover that joy."

In her elder years Betty continued to lobby for the issues she cared about, which included the ERA, the feminist movement. In 1991, President George H. R. Bush presented Ford with the Presidential Medal of Freedom, and she also received a Congressional Gold Medal in 1998. In 2003, Betty Ford received the Woodrow Wilson Award for public service

Wednesday, July 6, 2011

Sociopathic Mother

Hello, I truly do not like to be anyone's Judge or Jury, but when it comes to a Murder of an innocent little child like Caylee, I can't help but have judgments. This girl was Murdered IMO, I mean really, think about it, who throws a child away like trash, in the case of an accident?? It is just common sense! Common sense that was lost on this jury. Circumstantial evidence is evidence. Casey Anthony demonstrated most of these Sociopathic traits listed below throughout the past 3 years. I couldn't believe she didn't even mouth Thank You to the Jury, at least OJ did that! I think she was even surprised she got off by the look on her face, another sure sign of guilt, like I said IMO! And even if I am wrong, and all the others that think she is guilty, and it comes out to be an accident, what Mother would still be able to go out and Party and carry on by getting a Bella Vita tattoo, like nothing happened to her child?? The answer to that is a Sociopathic Mother! No doubt about it in my mind. Soon this will all be forgotten and life will go on without any Justice for Caylee, sad, truly sad.
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Janet :)

Dr. Hare's Checklist (Sociopathic Traits)

1. GLIB and SUPERFICIAL CHARM -- the tendency to be smooth, engaging, charming, slick, and verbally facile. Sociopathic charm is not in the least shy, self-conscious, or afraid to say anything. A sociopath never gets tongue-tied. They have freed themselves from the social conventions about taking turns in talking, for example.

2. GRANDIOSE SELF-WORTH -- a grossly inflated view of one's abilities and self-worth, self-assured, opinionated, cocky, a braggart. Sociopaths are arrogant people who believe they are superior human beings.

3. NEED FOR STIMULATION or PRONENESS TO BOREDOM -- an excessive need for novel, thrilling, and exciting stimulation; taking chances and doing things that are risky. Sociopaths often have low self-discipline in carrying tasks through to completion because they get bored easily. They fail to work at the same job for any length of time, for example, or to finish tasks that they consider dull or routine.

4. PATHOLOGICAL LYING -- can be moderate or high; in moderate form, they will be shrewd, crafty, cunning, sly, and clever; in extreme form, they will be deceptive, deceitful, underhanded, unscrupulous, manipulative, and dishonest.

5. CONNING AND MANIPULATIVENESS- the use of deceit and deception to cheat, con, or defraud others for personal gain; distinguished from Item #4 in the degree to which exploitation and callous ruthlessness is present, as reflected in a lack of concern for the feelings and suffering of one's victims.

6. LACK OF REMORSE OR GUILT -- a lack of feelings or concern for the losses, pain, and suffering of victims; a tendency to be unconcerned, dispassionate, coldhearted, and un empathic. This item is usually demonstrated by a disdain for one's victims.

7. SHALLOW AFFECT -- emotional poverty or a limited range or depth of feelings; interpersonal coldness in spite of signs of open gregariousness.

8. CALLOUSNESS and LACK OF EMPATHY -- a lack of feelings toward people in general; cold, contemptuous, inconsiderate, and tactless.

9. PARASITIC LIFESTYLE -- an intentional, manipulative, selfish, and exploitative financial dependence on others as reflected in a lack of motivation, low self-discipline, and inability to begin or complete responsibilities.

10. POOR BEHAVIORAL CONTROLS -- expressions of irritability, annoyance, impatience, threats, aggression, and verbal abuse; inadequate control of anger and temper; acting hastily.

11. PROMISCUOUS SEXUAL BEHAVIOR -- a variety of brief, superficial relations, numerous affairs, and an indiscriminate selection of sexual partners; the maintenance of several relationships at the same time; a history of attempts to sexually coerce others into sexual activity or taking great pride at discussing sexual exploits or conquests.

12. EARLY BEHAVIOR PROBLEMS -- a variety of behaviors prior to age 13, including lying, theft, cheating, vandalism, bullying, sexual activity, fire-setting, glue-sniffing, alcohol use, and running away from home.

13. LACK OF REALISTIC, LONG-TERM GOALS -- an inability or persistent failure to develop and execute long-term plans and goals; a nomadic existence, aimless, lacking direction in life.

14. IMPULSIVITY -- the occurrence of behaviors that are unpremeditated and lack reflection or planning; inability to resist temptation, frustrations, and urges; a lack of deliberation without considering the consequences; foolhardy, rash, unpredictable, erratic, and reckless.

15. IRRESPONSIBILITY -- repeated failure to fulfill or honor obligations and commitments; such as not paying bills, defaulting on loans, performing sloppy work, being absent or late to work, failing to honor contractual agreements.

16. FAILURE TO ACCEPT RESPONSIBILITY FOR OWN ACTIONS -- a failure to accept responsibility for one's actions reflected in low conscientiousness, an absence of dutifulness, antagonistic manipulation, denial of responsibility, and an effort to manipulate others through this denial.

17. MANY SHORT-TERM MARITAL RELATIONSHIPS -- a lack of commitment to a long-term relationship reflected in inconsistent, undependable, and unreliable commitments in life, including marital.

18. JUVENILE DELINQUENCY -- behavior problems between the ages of 13-18; mostly behaviors that are crimes or clearly involve aspects of antagonism, exploitation, aggression, manipulation, or a callous, ruthless tough-mindedness.

19. REVOCATION OF CONDITION RELEASE -- a revocation of probation or other conditional release due to technical violations, such as carelessness, low deliberation, or failing to appear.

20. CRIMINAL VERSATILITY -- a diversity of types of criminal offenses, regardless if the person has been arrested or convicted for them; taking great pride at getting away with crimes

Monday, July 4, 2011

Happy 4th Of July

Hello Everyone, Happy 4th of July! I am so grateful for my freedom even more so this year. Last year I was in a rehab going through a terrible time and in a lot of pain. A place I will never be again. Have gratitude for your freedom today no matter what your life circumstances are, and remember those who have fought so hard for all us to have it!
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Janet :)

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This Independence Day, Remember: "The American flag does not fly because the wind moves past it. The American flag flies from the last breath of each military member who has died protecting it. American soldiers don't fight because they hate what's in front of them, they fight because they love what's behind them"