Monday, December 24, 2012

Effective Mental Health Care

Hello, Today I received an email update from NAMI. I was so happy to see that Michael J. Fitzpatrick has laid out a plan that may help prevent crisis's like the one that occurred in Newtown Connecticut. The more people that advocate the better. I included the Presidents address if you have something you want to advocate for in the Mental Health system as well.
Thanks for visiting,
Janet :)

December 20, 2012
President Barack Obama
The White House
1600 Pennsylvania Avenue, NW
Washington, DC 20501

Dear Mr. President:
NAMI joins with you and the nation in mourning the senseless and tragic loss of young and innocent lives in Newtown, Conn. We also join the nation in calling for action to address the mental health crisis that exists in this country. It should not have taken a national tragedy to recognize this crisis when one considers how many personal tragedies occur daily for Americans affected by mental illness. NAMI, the National Alliance on Mental Illness, is the nation’s largest grassroots mental health organization dedicated to building better lives for the millions of Americans affected by mental illness. In your remarks in Newtown last Sunday, you pledged to use “whatever power this office holds to engage my fellow citizens, from law enforcement to mental health professionals to parents and educators, in an effort to prevent more tragedies.”

NAMI represents individuals who actually live with mental illness. We represent parents and family members. We have a long track record of working with law enforcement, educators and mental health professionals. We stand ready to work with you.

The following six issues must be addressed in order to improve access to effective mental health care.
1. Improve early identification and intervention in mental health care. Too often, what in hindsight are clear signs of the need for mental health care are not identified until after a crisis happens. It is well documented that timely mental health treatment can prevent crises and foster recovery. The Medicaid Early Periodic Screening, Diagnosis and Treatment (EPSDT) mandate has not been effectively implemented in most states for young people with mental health conditions. Similarly private insurance policies often do not support early identification and intervention services. Routine mental health screening should become part of standard practice so mental health conditions are identified early when they can most effectively be treated

2. Provide training to school personnel, law enforcement, families and members of the community on how to identify and respond to youth and adults experiencing mental health crises. Too often, those in a position to help do not know what to do when a child or adult manifests the early signs and symptoms of mental illness. Education and training for school personnel, law enforcement professionals, families and other community members exist, including Mental Health First Aid, NAMI’s Parents and Teachers as Allies, NAMI’s Family-to-Family, Crisis Intervention Team (CIT) programs for law enforcement and more. Implementing these programs on a national level represents significant progress in promoting increased awareness and capacity to help those living with mental illnesses. The unfortunate reality is that mental illness and how to respond to it remains a taboo subject for many and we need leadership to help change
that. One immediate step that can be taken is enactment of the Mental Health First Aid Higher Education
Act (S. 3325/HR 5966)

3. Implement school based mental health services and supports. Drop-out rates among students classified as Emotionally Disturbed (ED) under the Individuals with Disabilities Education Act (IDEA) are alarmingly high, over 50 percent. We are clearly not addressing the needs of students struggling with mental health
conditions in many of our nation’s schools. With effective school-based mental health services and supports and coordination with the community mental health system, many of these students could stay in school and earn an academic degree and a more promising future. Yet, school-based mental health services continue to be cut in far too many schools. Enactment of the Mental Health in Schools Act (HR751) would represent a positive first step.

4. Increase the qualified mental health workforce. Throughout the nation, there are critical shortages in the availability of qualified mental health professionals. In many communities, children and adults are placed on long waiting lists to access mental health services. Many county and regional mental health agencies have sharply narrowed their criteria for service eligibility because of the lack of qualified mental health professionals. The costs to our nation in increased emergency room use, commitment to inpatient facilities, and incarceration in juvenile and criminal justice facilities are enormous. Strategies for increasing the number of qualified mental health professionals, including providers of peer and family support
services, must be an integral part of fixing our nation’s broken mental health system

5. Fully implement key provisions of the Affordable Care Act, including mental health and addictions parity requirements. Passage of the Affordable Care Act (ACA) was a seminal achievement in improving health and mental health care in this country. We are grateful for your leadership on health care and urge continued leadership in ensuring full and effective implementation of the ACA. One critical step for
improving mental health care in America is to issue final regulations defining the scope of the Wellstone and Domenici Mental Health and Addictions Parity Act. Without final regulations, there is a lack of clarity on the requirements for a number of the most complex provisions included in the mental health parity law which threatens to undermine the intent of the law

6. Protect federal funding of Medicaid. Youth and adults with mental illnesses are among the largest, most important class of Medicaid beneficiaries. Forty-eight percent of all public mental health services in America are funded through Medicaid. Reductions in federal funding of Medicaid would have a devastating impact on people with mental illnesses, many of whom rely on this vital safety net program in
both maintaining and working toward recovery and independence. Mr. President, NAMI appreciates your leadership and stands ready to work with you and your staff on the goal of improving mental health care in America.
Michael J. Fitzpatrick, MSW

Wednesday, December 19, 2012

Petition 26

Hello, I hope you are doing well, Today I am sharing a Petition I started in Memory of the Shooting Victims in Newtown Connecticut. I know it will not solve or stop random acts of violence on it's own, but I feel Mental Health First Aid is an important part of what we need to do to help possibly prevent such tragedies as last Friday. We need to educate the public school system on how to recognize and help someone who is suffering from Mental Illness and is in Crisis . With education, comes awareness and hopefully prevention of self harm or harm to others. I was not able to get an embeded code for the petition, but I included the link below. Please take 30 seconds of your time and sign this petition, you may just help save someone who is in desperate need.
Thank you,
Janet :)

If you mention first aid, most people think of CPR, the Heimlich maneuver, or stopping bleeding. But what about mental crises? One in four adults has a mental disorder. Many Americans are trained in CPR and first aid, but are unprepared for handling a mental health issue. According to Clare Miller of the Partnership for Workplace Mental Health, two thirds of people suffering do not seek help.

Mental Health First Aid hopes to alleviate this. It is coordinated by the National Council for Community Behavioral Healthcare, the Maryland Department of Health and Mental Hygiene, and the Missouri Department of Mental Health. They have training to certify instructors to deliver the 12 hour meal Health First Aid course in communities across the country. Their program teaches people how to respond to emotional emergencies. The course teaches people how to look for signs and symptoms. Mental Health First Aid is for anyone who comes in contact with the general public. Mental Health First Aid doesn’t teach how to diagnose or treat mental illness — like regular first aid, it helps a person until they get professional help

Mental Health First Aid Role Play
They teach the pneumonic ALGEE. A — Assess for the risk of suicide or harm, L — Listen non-judgmentally, G — Give reassurance and information, E — Encourage appropriate action, and E — encourage self-help and other support strategies. They also advise that if someone is behaving dangerously or has a weapon to call 911.

The Mental Health First Aid USA course has provided benefits to a range of professions and audiences to include:
Young people
Faith communities
The general public
Nursing home staff
State policymakers
Mental health authorities
Primary care professionals
Employers and business leaders
School personnel and educators
State police and corrections officers

Check the Mental Health First Aid website for more classes in your area and webinars —

Sunday, December 16, 2012

Distress Helpline

Hello, In light of the recent tragedy in Newtown Connecticut I thought I would share this information for anyone who is in distress by this situation or any situation in their life. Please click on the link below for even more information such as, how to talk to children about these kind of events.
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Disaster Distress Helpline:
Stress, anxiety, and other depression-like symptoms
are common reactions after any natural or human-caused disaster.

Call 1-800-985-5990 It's Free, It's Confidential

Are you experiencing signs of distress as a result of a disaster?

Signs of distress may include any of the following physical and
emotional reactions:
Sleeping too much or too little
Stomachaches or headaches
Anger, feeling edgy or lashing out at others
Overwhelming sadness
Worrying a lot of the time; feeling guilty but not sure why
Feeling like you have to keep busy
Lack of energy or always feeling tired
Drinking alcohol, smoking or using tobacco more than usual; using illegal drugs
Eating too much or too little
Not connecting with others
Feeling like you won't ever be happy again
Rejecting of help.

You may be suffering more than you need to. We can help!
The Disaster Distress Helpline provides 24/7, year-round
crisis counseling and support.

The Helpline is staffed by trained counselors from a network of crisis call centers located across the United States, all of whom provide:
Crisis counseling for those who are in emotional distress related to any natural or human-caused disaster
Information on how to recognize distress and its effects on individuals and families
Tips for healthy coping
Referrals to local crisis call centers or 2-1-1 call centers for additional follow-up care & support.

Thursday, December 13, 2012

New Normal

Hello, I hope your all doing well this Holiday season. As the holiday's are approaching this year I wanted to write about what many people are going through at this time of year. As we all know, depression rises throughout the holidays. The main reason people experience some depression at the Holidays is because they are experiencing the pain of a lost loved one, be it through death, or a broken relationship. The first time I felt any type of depression at the Holiday's was when my Father passed away in 1987. I didn't realize it back then, but through those feelings of depression at the holiday, I was learning to live with what they call a "New Normal". And once again, my normal was shifted three years ago when my mother passed away and my siblings and I began to grow apart. So through my own experiences, I have learned that life has many different types of losses that can affect you on many different levels. Here are some of ways that have helped me to transition to my life's ever changing normal, especially during the holiday season, and hopefully they will help any of you who need it at this time of year as well.
Thanks for visiting,
Janet :)


1) Acknowledge all types of loss

2) Allow yourself to feel the loss, cry if you need
to, simply get it out, it will help you to heal and
move on

3) Allow yourself to go through the stages of
grief when it comes to a death. Don't let anyone
tell you you need to get over it already. We
all grieve in our way and in our own time

4) If you are having problems getting over the
loss of a relationship, it could stem from allowing
that relationship to have power over you. Realize
no one is worth having any power over you

5) Learn that those lost relationships
are not all your fault. Some of the people
we allow to hurt us have their own issues,
and it is really not about us

6) If your left with anger from any relationship,
it can turn into depression. One way to get rid
of that anger is write it out in a letter or a
journal. If it is in a letter, wait before sending
it out to that person to see if the situation changes

7) Exercise to release depression and anger,
even if it is just a short walk each day

8) Keep your focus on the good relationships in your life

9) Cherish the good memories of your loved ones that
have passed on. The happy times that I chose to remember
help keep my love for them alive and ease the pain of
their loss

10) Talk it out with others, find support where you can!

Friday, December 7, 2012

A Generation Of Stress

Hello, I hope your doing well. The issue of Stress On College Campuses was recently featured on a local program in my area. I thought of my son, who will be starting college in a few weeks. It made me think of how much more I have to be aware of then his grades and social life there. Realizing this myself, I had to share this information with any of you out there who may have a child in College, or if you are a student yourself. I feel the stresses of starting their lives are going to be even greater for this generation, with a tough job market they have to come out to, and possibly big student loans to pay. I can't help but wonder too, if there is a link between the stress of college and Schizophrenia. I have read so many stories of a student leaving college and being diagnosed with the disorder. In all the stories I read, they seem to only imply that the onset of the disorder is due to their age, not the stress of college. Schizophrenia is a biological condition, but I also believe it can be an environmental condition, you know like they say, nature or nurture? This article is geared towards students with a Mental Illness as they enter college, but I feel it should be for all students to help cope with such an important and sometimes scary transition in their lives. Being aware and being proactive are always the best keys to preventing mental health issues.
Thanks for visiting,
Janet :)

Certain levels of stress are inherent in the life of a student. Stress can be a good thing when the body reacts by focusing energy to maintain balance, order, and motivation. For many students, however, particularly those living with a mental illness, stress can loom larger and present problems that may threaten to derail recovery and set them up for academic failure.

"Staying disciplined to keep up with my studies, classes, my work schedule, and my social life has been a problem for me," said Jason, who is studying computer animation at a technical school. "The way I have coped with stress this first year of my studies has not always been the best for my grades. I am learning to get better at understanding how overwhelming everything can be and to simplify in the ways that I can, such as keeping a set work schedule from week to week and better managing my bipolar disorder."

Considering the daily difficulties that students living with mental illness often encounter, experts agree that recognizing and responding to early warning signs of overload is the best way to prevent a spiral that may counteract a consumer’s recovery.

What are some ways to manage stress? Students, including those living with mental illness, offer the following suggestions:

Get the right information at the start of the semester or term. Purchase and use a calendar to create a realistic timetable. List the deadlines and exam dates and work backwards. When you receive an assignment, estimate how long it will take and add some extra time to your estimate. Schedule regular, short-term appointments with yourself to review the course or class assignments and to work a little each day or week to keep from procrastinating and creating an impossible deadline that has grown into a monster.

Maintain healthy eating habits. Avoid junk food and too much caffeine, and plan regular times for meals. When you are anxious, particularly during deadline and exam times, preparing your own food may feel like a daunting task. Scheduling meals at easy-to-reach locales, choosing healthier options from fast-food restaurants, and keeping healthy snacks handy will help.

Get organized. Mapping out your workload and integrating it with the rest of your daily life can be very beneficial. Ask for help in this area if you need it. Create a realistic daily schedule that includes time for sleeping, eating, playing, studying, working, and socializing.

Identify and access peer support. Having regular therapy, counselor, and doctor appointments is important, but the informal, easy-to-reach support of a peer can make the difference between managing a particularly stressful time and letting it manage you. If you feel stressed, talking to someone who is in a similar situation—a friend, student, or peer—can be a tremendous help.

Give yourself a break. Plan for and take “mini-breaks,” regardless of the clock. Take a walk, listen to music, or watch the clouds. Taking breaks may distract you from your problems and put potentially negative thinking and overwhelming thoughts into perspective.

Exercise. Develop a regular exercise program to help manage the effects of stress and provide social opportunities. The physical benefits are an added bonus.
Anticipate school problems and build remedies early. If you know you have a hard time concentrating when deadlines and exams near, arrange to have someone from your class take notes for you. In addition, arrange for a study partner or join a study group to help you keep your focus. If you anticipate exam anxiety that may derail your entire semester’s efforts in a class, negotiate flexible testing times and alternative testing venues with your instructor in advance.

Develop a recovery network. In addition to your family, doctor, and counselor, your recovery network can include support and education groups that may be offered through your local NAMI chapter or elsewhere in your community, either on or off campus. Exploring strategies to decrease anxiety and enhance coping skills, securing assistance with financial aid and admission forms, obtaining support for managing financial difficulties, enhancing communication skills, and accessing education about mental illnesses can all help alleviate stress.

Dana Lefko, director of Education and Communication at NAMI Maryland and a graduate student in health administration, agrees that creating a balance between school and other activities is vital. “It is important to be involved in school and in life in ways that you enjoy and to stay involved in some activities that are leisurely to keep your mind clear and to bring perspective,” she says. "As a student, I have come to understand that we all need some stress. Facing a challenge and learning to manage stress is an accomplishment at the end of the day, and we all need those."
by Katrina Gay, Chief of Field Operations, NAMI National

Friday, November 30, 2012

The Opportunity Of Adversity

Hello, Tonight Aimee Mullins was featured as the "Person of the Week" on World news with Diane Sawyer. I was so inspired by her that I had to share her and her story with you. One particular thing she said on the program truly touched me today and I think it will do the same to you. "The only Disability in life is a crushed spirit" Truer words were never spoken in my opinion. Watching this video will be worth your time and leave you in a better place.
Thanks for visiting,
Janet :)

Here is some of the text from her speech:
I'd like to share with you a discovery that I made a few months ago while writing an article for Italian Wired. I always keep my thesaurus handy whenever I'm writing anything, but I'd already finished editing the piece, and I realized that I had never once in my life looked up the word "disabled" to see what I'd find.

Let me read you the entry. "Disabled, adjective: crippled, helpless, useless, wrecked, stalled, maimed, wounded, mangled, lame, mutilated, run-down, worn-out, weakened, impotent, castrated, paralyzed, handicapped, senile, decrepit, laid-up, done-up, done-for, done-in cracked-up, counted-out; see also hurt, useless and weak. Antonyms, healthy, strong, capable." I was reading this list out loud to a friend and at first was laughing, it was so ludicrous, but I'd just gotten past "mangled," and my voice broke, and I had to stop and collect myself from the emotional shock and impact that the assault from these words unleashed.

You know, of course, this is my raggedy old thesaurus so I'm thinking this must be an ancient print date, right? But, in fact, the print date was the early 1980s, when I would have been starting primary school and forming an understanding of myself outside the family unit and as related to the other kids and the world around me. And, needless to say, thank God I wasn't using a thesaurus back then. I mean, from this entry, it would seem that I was born into a world that perceived someone like me to have nothing positive whatsoever going for them, when in fact, today I'm celebrated for the opportunities and adventures my life has procured.

So, I immediately went to look up the 2009 online edition, expecting to find a revision worth noting. Here's the updated version of this entry. Unfortunately, it's not much better. I find the last two words under "Near Antonyms," particularly unsettling: "whole" and "wholesome."

So, it's not just about the words. It's what we believe about people when we name them with these words. It's about the values behind the words, and how we construct those values. Our language affects our thinking and how we view the world and how we view other people. In fact, many ancient societies, including the Greeks and the Romans, believed that to utter a curse verbally was so powerful, because to say the thing out loud brought it into existence. So, what reality do we want to call into existence: a person who is limited, or a person who's empowered? By casually doing something as simple as naming a person, a child, we might be putting lids and casting shadows on their power. Wouldn't we want to open doors for them instead?

Tuesday, November 27, 2012

The Culprit Of Fog

Hello, I received this information in a group I once attended. I thought it was important to share with all of you. Reading this article helped me understand the effects Alcohol had on me. I'm sure you have all heard terms such as "Wet Brain" in reference to an Alcoholic. Science now tells us it is true. The brain is eventually effected after years of drinking Alcohol. If someone becomes a chronic drinker, such as daily use, chances are they will eventually cross the line into Alcoholism. T.H.I.Q will build up in a person's brain because physically our bodies are not meant to handle all that Alcohol, it is toxic, it is like a poison. The good news is we all can recover from the effects of THIQ when we abstain from alcohol. This is also why you hear many people in recovery talk about not being in a fog anymore, and the crazy part is that you don't even realize you are in a fog, not seeing everything as clearly as you should, until you go into recovery. I hope this information helps you or someone you may be concerned about in the way that it helped me. Most of all I hope this helps you to be more understanding and compassionate towards an Alcoholic.
Thanks for visiting,
Janet :)

T.H.I.Q. --Biochemical Culprit

T.H.I.Q. was discovered in brains of alcoholics in Houston, Texas by a scientist named Virginia Davis who was doing cancer research. For her study she needed fresh human brains and used bodies of homeless winos who had died during the night and were picked up by Houston police in the morning. She discovered in the brains of those chronic alcoholics a substance that is closely related to Heroin. This substance, known to scientists, is called Tetrahydrolsoqulnoline or THIQ. When a person shoots heroin into their body, some of it breaks down and turns into THIQ. The Alcoholics studied had not been using heroin so how did the THIQ get there? When the normal adult drinker takes in alcohol, it is very rapidly eliminated at the rate of about one drink per hour. The body first converts the alcohol into something called Acetaldehyde. This chemical is VERY TOXIC and if it were to build up inside us, we would get VIOLENTLY SICK AND COULD DIE. But Mother Nature helps us to get rid of acetaldehyde very quickly. She efficiently changes it a couple of more times - into carbon dioxide and water - which is eliminated through kidneys and lungs. That's what happens to normal drinkers. It also happens with alcoholic drinkers, but with alcoholic drinkers something additional happens. What Virginia discovered in Huston has been extensively confirmed since. In alcoholic drinkers, a very small amount of poisonous acetaldehyde is not eliminated. Instead it goes to the brain. There through a very complicated biochemical process, it winds up as THIQ.

Research has found the following:
1. THIQ is manufactured in the brain and only occurs in the brain of the alcoholic drinker. It is not manufactured in the brain of the normal social drinker of alcohol.
2. THIQ has been found to be highly addictive. It was tried in experimental use with
animals during the Second World War when we were looking for a painkiller less addicting than morphine. THIQ was a pretty good pain killer but it couldn't be used on humans. It turned out to be much more addicting than morphine.
3. Experiments have shown that certain kinds of rats cannot be made to drink alcohol. Put in a cage with very weak solution of vodka and water, these rats refuse to touch it. They will literally thirst to death before they agree to drink alcohol. However, if you take the same kind of rat and put a minute quantity of THIQ into the rat's brain -- one quick injection -- the animal will immediately develop a preference for alcohol over water.
4. Studies done with monkeys, our close animal relative in medical terms, show the
A. Once the THIQ is injected into a monkey's brain, it stays there.
B. You can keep the monkey dry, off alcohol, for 7 years. Brain studies show that THIQ remains in place in the brain.
The alcoholic's body, like normal drinkers, changes the alcohol into acetaldehyde and then it changes most of it into carbon dioxide and water, which in the end kicks out through the kidneys and lungs. However, the alcoholic's bodies won't kick all these chemicals out. The Alcoholic's brain holds a few bits back and transforms them into THIQ. As THIQ is accumulated in the brain of an alcoholic, at some point, maybe sooner, maybe later, the alcoholic will cross over a shadowy line into a whole new way of living. It is not known by medical science, at this time, where this line is or how much THIQ an individual brain will pile up before one crosses this line. Some predisposed people cross the line while they're teenagers, or earlier. Others cross in their 30's or 40's and others after retirement. But once this happens the alcoholic will be as hooked on alcohol, as he would have been hooked on heroin, if he'd been shooting that instead. With the loss of control, the complex symptoms have become chronic. All aspects of physiology have become progressive and incurable. Now it is clearly a disease.

1. Alcoholism is a disease.
2. Alcoholism is not the alcoholic's fault.
3. Alcoholics can get proper treatment for the disease,
which begins with telling them these facts.
4. The alcoholic can be relieved of guilt.
5. The alcoholic can take on responsibility for
arresting their disease.
6. The alcoholic can refuse to put more THIQ in their
brains and refuse to activate the THIQ that is already there.
7. Alcoholics can and do recover!

Thursday, November 22, 2012

Black Friday

Hello, Well it's that day after Thanksgiving! Here is a little history and facts about the big day. I would prefer to shop online for deals, I have no patience for shopping and crowds! I hope all of you had a wonderful Thanksgiving and if you are heading out today, Good Luck!
Thanks for visiting,
Janet :)

Black Friday Infographic

Sunday, November 18, 2012

Silly Sunday

Hello, I decided to change my Silly Sunday post. I love Vintage Funny, I hope you do too.
Thanks for visiting,
Janet :)

Visit Sandee's blog
and join in!




Friday, November 16, 2012

Small Portions

Hello, I am so excited for the launch of "Small Portions" by Dieter Moitzi that I had to post about it on this blog, as I did on my D.D.D blog. I consider myself very fortunate to have met Dieter through the world of blogging. Having met Dieter, I have not only met a gifted writer who inspires me to get back to writing myself, I have also made a dear friend who always makes me smile and laugh. When I first read his blog, I was immediately drawn back to it time and time again. Dieter's stories seem to draw me in effortlessly and before I know it, I feel I have really experienced the story, and that does not happen to me very often. That is why I am excited to buy Small Portions myself, and I highly recommend you do so as well, I know you will be glad you did. While your ordering your book remember Christmas is right around the corner too! At this introductory price you can afford to give the gift of a good read, the gift of escaping in "Small Portions" at a time! I thank you ahead of time for supporting Dieter with a purchase and feel free to share this wonderful book on your blog or social media as well.
Janet :)

About the Book:
“Small Portions” is a story that comes in… small portions. In precisely 111 little parts – AND a recipe. To explore the many facets of modern life, the author has chosen the literary form of vignettes, those short impressionistic scenes that focus on one moment or give a trenchant impression about a character, idea, setting, object.

Dieter Moitzi tells his own story in poignant scenes that vary from a snapshot of his christening in the early 70s to his father’s death in a skiing accident at the beginning of the 2000s. It’s small things he talks about, those many small things that compose a life – his life. He recalls the painful process of coming out of the closet, relates in funny detail the first encounters and love stories of his happy-go-lucky twenties, delves with analytical distance into aspects and turning points of two long-time relationships. He takes you by the hand and guides you through the streets of Paris, the city he lives in. He writes about food and the internet and his travel experiences in Greece, Morocco, Vienna, Tunisia, London…
In just so many carefully chosen words, sometimes poetic, sometimes blunt, but always with a good deal of wry and self-deprecating humour, the author succeeds in creating little universes with each story. Each one stands alone, yet when you link them together, another story takes shape. The story of a life, the sketch of a person, the mirror of a time. Our time.

You can purchase the book on – – and on your local amazon-online-store (e.g.,,…) The Book Launch Promotional price is only for only $0.99 (price excluding tax) until the end of the year. The book is also available in a French version (“Petites portions” – and a German version (“Kleine Portionen” – for €0.99 (price excluding tax).

About the Author:
Born in 1972 in Austria, Dieter Moitzi moved to Paris, France, in the early 1990s. He is working as a graphic designer and writing in his spare time, mainly in English. He loves to share his passion for words, which is the reason why he has launched a literature blog in 2010. Ever since, he has published a collection of poems (“and somewhere under”) as well as a collection of short stories (“Miss Otis regrets”), both available on amazon. Moreover, his poetry has been published in the “Vine Leaves Literary Journal” in 2012. He is currently working on two novels that he hopes to publish in 2013.

Sunday, November 11, 2012

Never Alone

Hello, Happy Music Monday, This is a beautiful song by Lady Antebellum to remind us that we are never truly alone.
Have a great day,
Janet :)

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PS: Because of spamming purposes, the linky will be closed on Thursday of each week at midnight, Malaysian Time. Thank you!

Tuesday, November 6, 2012

Your Perfect

Hello, I hope you are doing good, Some words of encouragement for you today!
Thanks for visiting,
Janet :)


Sunday, November 4, 2012

Called Home

Hello, Once again it seems I'm writing about loss. First I want to say Thank you to everyone who did really pray for my Brother in law who had the open heart surgery a couple of weeks ago. His heart was just not strong enough for him to recover from the surgery. He went into the surgery with a weak heart to begin with. Bob was young, only 59, he was a love, a very gentle, jolly type of person, with sort of a sixties hippie personality mixed in. Every time I hear the Allman brothers I think of him. What I loved most about Bob was that he would tell my sister to leave me alone when she would nag at me to do this or do that! He married my sister when I was 11, so having been a part of my life for so long, this goodbye is going to be hard, but I will think of him always and always he will be with me.
Thanks for visiting,
Janet :)


Wednesday, October 31, 2012

Gangnam Halloween

Hello, I hope your enjoying your Halloween, here is a Halloween light show that you will either find amusing, or annoying! But no matter what you think of it, you have to give Kudos to the person who was able to create it. Enjoy!
Thanks for visiting,
Janet :)

Sunday, October 28, 2012

Wednesday, October 24, 2012


Hello, I love this because it is so true, sometimes when we are at our weakest, it is really just a resting point to gather the strength we need to begin again.
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Janet :)


Saturday, October 20, 2012


Hello, October is Depression Awareness month. Here is some information on the signs and symptoms of Depression. There is no need to feel any shame if you or a loved one are suffering from this illness. It is easily treated today, thanks to the advances in medicine and therapy.
Thanks for visiting,
Janet :)


What is depression?
Everyone occasionally feels blue or sad. But these feelings are usually short-lived and pass within a couple of days. When you have depression, it interferes with daily life and causes pain for both you and those who care about you. Depression is a common but serious illness. Many people with a depressive illness never seek treatment. But the majority, even those with the most severe depression, can get better with treatment. Medications, psychotherapies, and other methods can effectively treat people

What are the different forms of depression?

There are several forms of depressive disorders.
Major depressive disorder, or major depression, is characterized by a combination of symptoms that interfere with a person’s ability to work, sleep, study, eat, and enjoy once pleasurable activities

Major depression is disabling and prevents a person from functioning normally. Some people may experience only a single episode within their lifetime, but more often a person may have multiple episodes

Signs and Symptoms

Persistent sad, anxious, or “empty” feelings

Feelings of hopelessness or pessimism

Feelings of guilt, worthlessness, or helplessness
Irritability, restlessness

Loss of interest in activities or hobbies once
pleasurable, including sex

Fatigue and decreased energy

Difficulty concentrating, remembering details, and
making decisions

Insomnia, early-morning wakefulness, or excessive

Overeating, or appetite loss

Thoughts of suicide, suicide attempts

Aches or pains, headaches, cramps, or digestive
problems that do not ease even with treatment

Sunday, October 14, 2012

Coming Around Again

Hello, Happy Music Monday. I love this song by Simon Webbe, it is both an inspirational and spiritual song. We have all had times in our lives where we have gotten to a dark place. We may have been sitting in that dark place due to Depression, other Mental Illnesses, Alcohol or Drug abuse, loss of love and/or loved ones. But in the long run it does not matter how we got to that place, what matters is that we got out of it, and that we came around to life again in a better and stronger way!
Thanks for visiting,
Janet :)

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I've been sitting in the darkness
But the sunlight's creeping in
Now the ice is slowly melting
In my soul and in my skin
All the good times my friend
Are coming around again
Oh yeah

I been thinking reminiscing
Of better nights and better days
Hiding in a refuge
Of memories I've made
I got a feeling within
It's coming around again

We been so long waiting
For the all time high
We got a damn good reason
To put your troubles aside
And all your winter sorrows
hang 'em out to dry
Throw it away
Gotta throw it away
All the colorful days my friend
Are coming around again

I got someone waiting for me
It's been so long since we met
And I may not be your salvation
but I'll offer nonetheless
And if like me u wanna take that chance
It's coming around again
Ooh yeah

I can feel a change of fortune
No more riding on my love
Feel the weight is off my
As my feet become unstuck
And all the good times on which
we do depend
Oh it's coming around again

Saturday, October 6, 2012

The Paradox Of Our Times

Hello, A very insightful look from the Dalai Lama into how many of us are living our lives today.
Thanks for visiting,
Janet :)


Is that we have taller buildings, but shorter tempers
Wider freeways, but narrower viewpoints
We spend more, but we have less.

We have bigger houses, but smaller families
More conveniences, but less time.
We have more degrees, but less sense
More knowledge, but less judgement
More experts, but more problems
More medicines, but less wellness.

We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values.
We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often
We have learnt how to make a living, but not a life.
We have added years to life, but not life to years.
We've been all the way to the moon and back
But have trouble crossing the street to meet the new neighbour.
We have conquered outer space, but not inner space.
We've cleaned up the air, but polluted our soul.
We've split the atom, but not our prejudice.
We've higher incomes, but lower morals.
We've become long on quantity but short on quality.

These are the times of tall men, and short character;
Steep profits, and shallow relationships.
These are the times of world peace, but domestic warfare,
More leisure, but less fun; more kinds of food, but less nutrition.

These are the days of two incomes, but more divorces;
Of fancier houses, but broken homes.
It is a time when there is much in the show window, and
nothing in the stockroom.

Dalai Lama

Wednesday, October 3, 2012

Feelings,They Will Wait

Hello, I came across these words by an unknown author and it's as if they were speaking to me. It's just what I needed to hear at this time in my life. Since my brother in law, who is 56 yrs young was diagnosed with Terminal Cancer, I have had a hard time expressing my thoughts and feelings like I use to. I think I'm sort of in numb mode. Then just a couple of days ago, my sister called to tell me her husband who is 59 yrs young is having serious issues with his heart and it does not look good. Both of these guys have been my brother in laws for over 25 yrs, so they are more like my brothers. Death has been a part of my life since I was 23, losing my Father at the age of 53, but there seems to be a little too much of it since 2008 and up until 2 yrs ago, I didn't deal with it the way I should have. I use to drink the pain of loss away. Since 2008 the people that I lost were mostly young in age too, one of the best friends I ever had, gone at 59, a close family member at age 52, and along with them two, I lost my Mother and Mother in law 5 months apart, now it's coming around again, only this time I don't want to run, or turn to that old behavior, because they are so right when they say, you can waste years running from them, but your feelings, they will wait! I do know one thing about myself now though, I know I am a stronger person than before, so I'm sure I'll get to the same place as this person did with their feelings, I will learn to feel them and not be afraid. I hope this helps any of you who are learning to face your feelings in a new way as well.
Thanks for visiting,


Are there feelings you're afraid to feel? Are there feelings you'd go to just about any length to avoid feeling? Feelings you'd use substances or have meaningless sex or binge and purge or injure yourself to avoid feeling? For me the answer is about 99% no. I say 99% because every now and then, my anxiety or stress will become intolerable and I'll purge or restrict or whatever because I can't or don't want to deal with it head on. We all have those days when we just can't DEAL. But what if that's every day? What if it's all day, every day? Certainly, that's a problem. I have certainly been there. What I learned over the course of many years of trial and error and therapy is that no matter what you do to avoid those things you don't want to feel, whenever you stop with your avoidance behaviors, those feelings are still right there where they always were. Damn it. DAMN IT. You can waste years running from feelings you're sure will go away, if you just avoid them long enough, but I can assure you, they will wait as long as you can run. It's really frustrating. I wish I had figured that out a lot sooner than I did. I learned, through therapy, that the feelings I was so terrified of-- grief, panic, rage, loss, pain, joy, hope-- those feelings I thought had the power to take me down psychologically where I would go irretrievably mad, were actually tolerable. Unpleasant as hell, but survivable. And I came out better on the other side. I just didn't trust that my brain wouldn't overwhelm me, but instead would release those feelings in manageable bursts. And now, I actually relish every feeling that I have. I don't mind crying, I'm not afraid of hurting or looking stupid or being afraid. I faced the worst feelings inside myself and came out stronger. My physical self has nearly died, and I now welcome any feeling that reminds me I'm still here, still alive, still human. So please, try not to be afraid of the intensity of your feelings, and try not run from them through self-destruction. Remember that our emotions are what make us human and fully alive, and that no feeling lasts forever! You will survive. ♥

Thursday, September 27, 2012

With A Dream

Hello, I hope you are doing well. An inspirational saying that I think lays out some simple steps we can use to achieve a dream just perfectly!
Thanks for visiting,
Janet :)


Saturday, September 22, 2012

Go Crazy

Hello, I love this because it is so true, the people who go through life always worrying about being perfectly normal never truly enjoy their lives. It is "insane" IMO to never let go of societies expectations of "normal" and just be. Going so called "crazy" every once in a while will only do your soul good!
Thanks for visiting,
Janet :)


Saturday, September 15, 2012

What Is Beautiful

Hello, Meet Lizzie, a very sweet person who was dubbed the 'World's Ugliest Woman' by Internet Bullies. I couldn't help but feel inspired after her appearance on the Dr. Drew show. I think she is an incredibly brave and courageous women who is sending a message to all of us, just what is Beautiful anyway?? We have all been so conditioned to what "Beautiful" is through TV and print. I hope her story inspires you as well, and helps you to view yourself and others around you in a whole new light.
Thanks for visiting,
Janet :)

Lizzie Velazquez was born with a medical condition so rare that there are only three known cases in the world.

The “Lizzie Beautiful” author says she's used to standing out. Yet, in our beauty-obsessed culture, Velazquez always finds a way to thrive and inspire.

“I'm human … of course these things are going to hurt ... [but] I'm not going to let those things define me," she told HLN’s Dr. Drew Tuesday night.

She added, “The stares are kind of what I'm really dealing with in public right now … I'm starting to want to go up to these people and introduce myself or give them my card and say, ‘Hi, I'm Lizzie -- Maybe you should stop staring and start learning’.”

Watch the full interview in the video player above. Velazquez also has a new book out, "Be Beautiful, Be You."

When an Internet video calling her, The World's Ugliest Woman, went viral, Lizzie Velasquez set out to discover what truly makes us beautiful. Now she shares what she learned on that faith-filled journey. In Be Beautiful, Be You, Lizzie uses anecdotes and exercises to teach readers to recognize their own unique gifts and blessings, talk to God in their own words, deal with disappointment, make and maintain healthy friendships, and set realistic goals.

Saturday, September 8, 2012

Suicide Prevention Day 2012

Hello, it feels good to be back here blogging. I could not let this very important day go by without getting involved. On September 10th you can help spread awareness of this condition that effects so many people and the one's who love them by sharing information on prevention. You can join in on Facebook or Twitter, and if your a blogger like me, dedicate a post to this cause. You may just share some information that can save a life, share something that someone really needed, share resoures they did not know were available to them. I was personally affected by suicide when I was a child, as my Mother suffered with Bi- Polar disorder she attempted suicide twice. I am so grateful that she was not successful because with the right treatment that came to her a few years later, she never attempted it again. That help enabled her to come back to us in way's we never thought she would, and for the rest of our lives with her we had many good and happy years, not always perfect, but greatly improved, for which I will always treasure and have an immense amount of gratitude for. That is what the power of someone caring enough to share did for us. It can do it for you too or someone you love, beginning on this day, and lasting a lifetime.
Thanks for visiting,
Janet :)

Every day 3,000 people end their own lives, and for every person who dies, there are 20 more people who unsuccessfully attempt a suicide, according to the World Health Organization (WHO). In the United States alone, that amounts to one death by suicide every 16 minutes, says the National Council for Suicide Prevention (NCSP)



Please visit these websites for more information on how to get involved
International Suicide Prevention Day 2012

Saturday, August 4, 2012

Precious Time

Hello, I hope your doing good. I am doing pretty good. I've decided with all that is going on right now in my life, especially after what I shared with you on my other blog, to take a break from this blog for a little while. Between working full time until the end of August, and taking care of all my other responsibilities, it was already getting hard to keep up with two blogs. Now I want to be able to help my brother in law through this difficult time and spend as much quality time with him as I can. Now more than ever, I'm learning how precious our time is, each and every day. I will be back to blogging here as soon as I can because I love doing this blog in honor of my Mother, it is very, very dear to me and I feel I still have more advocating for the Mentally Ill to do. So thank you to all of my regular visitors for your understanding and I hope you'll continue to support this blog when I do return. until then, I leave you with this thought.
Thanks for visiting,
xoxo to all of you,
Janet :)


Tuesday, July 31, 2012


Hello, I hope you are all doing well. I am doing good, I've just been so busy the past two weeks between work and taking care of things here around the home and watching the grand kids last weekend that I haven't had much time for blogging! So until I can get back to some more topics for this blog, here are some words of inspiration for you today. Know that I truly do feel that each and every one of my visitors here are amazing in their own way!
Thanks for visiting,
Janet :)


Feel that pulse within you the one thing that keeps you hanging on, that's purpose, that's love, that's all the good things inside of you that you deserve. You deserve happiness, you deserve to feel good about yourself always. Remember it, feel it, live it, breathe it, soak it all up...YOU are Amazing!

Sunday, July 22, 2012


Hello, Like all of us, I was devastated to see the Tragedy that unfolded in Aurora, Colorado this week. I started this blog to educate people about the various forms of Mental Illness in the hopes that it will help end the Stigma that still surrounds it. So when I want to educate about a man like this, who obviously has some Mental Health issues, I'm at a loss. I suppose I could look back through my posts, put some peices together, but I don't think I'll ever find an understanding of his actions here. This man had a deep, deep anger that we have not seen to often. Yet I can't help but feel sorry for this man, I feel somehow he was failed. I kept hearing all the commentators on the news talk about the Heroes in this tragedy, and as much as I agree with all of them, I could not help but think to myself there should have been a hero or heroes out there that could have saved him first. Then this could have been avoided. This is just my perspective because I have seen it more than I care to, people abandon people when they are in need, when they are sick, when they fear them. I am saying a prayer for all the victims and their families and my hope is that something is really learned from this Tragedy so that it does not ever happen again.
Thanks for visiting,


Wednesday, July 18, 2012

Change A Life

Hello, This Bring Change 2 Mind campain commercial has been playing a lot on the T.V. lately, and I could not be happier. I love it! The video of Glenn Close and her sister Jesse is so touching to me, it brings tears to my eyes. Glenn speaks the words I have felt all these years about my Mother and for everyone who suffers from a Mental Illness. The days of shame that burden people with a Mental Illness should be long gone by now. I encourage you to take the time to watch the videos and share them with others. You will be inspired by their strength as much as I am. I couldn't agree more with Glenn Close when she says "the fact that her sister is still here is a testament to her strength as a human being". I can honestly say the same about my Mother, with all her suffering, shock therapy and bouts in the Mental Hospital, she endured, and she never took the easy way out, she fought everyday against her illness and the Stigma. That is why when I need strength to get through certain things in life, I reflect on my Mothers strength and it carries me through. I'm also learning as I go through this life, that "Heroes" as we know them to be, are not the perfect people, they are the imperfect people.
Thanks for visiting,
Janet :)

Saturday, July 14, 2012

You Are So Loved

Hello, I'm sending out these words of encouragement today to all of my friends who need to hear them.
Thanks for visiting,
Janet :)

Don't lose yourself in the fear that entwines your mind. Everything will be ok, storms don't last forever, there's always sunshine just waiting around the corner, if you choose there to be. Don't give up, you are good enough, you're worth it and YOU are so LOVED!

Wednesday, July 11, 2012

Wordless Wednesday

Hello, I don't have anything to post about today, so I thought I would join in on Wordless Wednesday with some amazing art created from the Earth!
Thanks for visiting,
Janet :)




Tuesday, July 3, 2012

Rainy or Sunny?

Hello, Is your brain Rainy or Sunny? In other words are you an optimist or a pessimist? I have noticed that my son and I like to look on the bright side of things, while my husband looks at the darker or negative side of things. I have always wonder why this is with all of us. So when I found this article and I thought it would be a good read for any of you who wonder too. I may even get the book.It seems neuologists have developed some insight to the reasons why we are either one way or the other. The best part of the article to me is when I read that there are now "several techniques based on solid scientific evidence that allow us to begin the journey from pessimism to a more optimistic take on life" All in all a good thing I would say. This is not the full article, believe it or not, I actually cut some of it out! For the full article click on the link below.
Thanks for visiting,
Janet :)


Why do some people flourish, seemingly resilient to all that life throws at them, while others are vulnerable and at risk of serious problems like anxiety and depression?

My approach to unraveling this mystery has been to probe the minds of both the vulnerable and the resilient with the traditional tools of cognitive psychology.

Flashing positive and negative images on a computer screen so fast that they duck beneath the radar of consciousness gives us a momentary glimpse of what captivates the unconscious mind. And what have we learned?

Techniques like this tell us that the mind of the pessimist is drawn imperceptibly toward the negative while the upbeat and positive is a magnet for the optimist.

Crucially, these differences -- whether we turn toward the bright side of life or the dark -- can be traced to specific patterns of activity within the brain itself. Bundles of nerve fibers connecting our "thinking" brain with ancient regions that control our primeval "feeling" brain make up two sides of our emotional mind.

The "rainy" brain part highlights the negative, while our "sunny" brain draws us toward the positive. Of course, both elements are essential to a healthy and successful life, and it's the checks and balances between these two systems that ultimately make you you and me me. In short, it's our emotional mind that gives meaning to our lives by tuning us in to what really matters.

At the very root of what captivates our emotional mind are two polar opposite constructs: fear and pleasure.

These biological motivators kick-start our rainy and sunny brain circuits, which, in turn, underlie our pessimistic and optimistic mindsets. These brain systems infuse our mind with meaning, make us aware of what might harm us, alert us to what might go wrong, draw us toward what's good for us and highlight the sheer joys and pleasures of living.

Take the following: You are rushing for a meeting and miss your train. You hurry to the office, finally arriving a few minutes late. When you enter the room, everybody looks up, and your boss smiles and says, "Glad you could make it."

Question: Is she being sarcastic? Or is she happy to see you? The truth is, how you interpret this situation can set the tone for the rest of your day. Cutting-edge science tells us that these ways of interpreting and analyzing the world around us can become habitual and that it is these habits of mind that make us who we are.

The good news is that the human brain has a startling capacity to change. For years, neuroscientists believed that from a young age, our brains became inflexible and neurologically set in their ways. The burgeoning field of neuroplasticity, however, has completely overturned this notion and shown us that our brains are far more flexible than we ever dared to imagine.

And I'm not just talking about superficial changes at the level of "thinking." Instead, I'm talking about real concrete change in physical structure.

Our relationship with our neurons is organic: Sure, we respond to our neurons, but our neurons respond to us, to the things we do and even the things we think, resulting in observable changes in our brain. This exquisite malleability ensures that our unique, personal experiences provide us with a customized brain with its own highly individualized sets of circuits, switches and connections.

The bottom line is that if we change our cognition, we can also reshape our brains.

In other words, if we train our brains to be optimistic or pessimistic -- to navigate, intentionally or not, the streets and avenues of positive or negative feelings -- we change the emotional circuits in our brains that determine how we respond to the things that happen around us.

In my book "Rainy Brain, Sunny Brain," I discuss how genes and environments work together to influence how emotional circuits develop. Rather than being hard-wired, our social relationships and how we live play a huge role in shaping and reshaping our brains. In fact, there are now several techniques based on solid scientific evidence that allow us to begin the journey from pessimism to a more optimistic take on life.

While we need both aspects of our emotional mind -- rainy and sunny -- to live life to the full, there is abundant evidence that an optimistic take on the world, especially when linked with realism, is associated with better health, more success and a deeper sense of well-being.
By Elaine Fox

Friday, June 29, 2012


Hello, Happy Saturday! I'm still having some moments of feeling overwhelmed from recent events. So I think I'm going to remember these words as those moments reappear until they recede to the point of no return. I hope they help you too if you are looking a new tool to help deal with life's stresses.
Thanks for visiting,
Janet :)

Notice how your feelings come in waves. If you just watch them and don't get caught up in thoughts, they rise, crest, and then slowly recede

Tuesday, June 26, 2012

Daily Dose

Hello, I hope your doing good today. This is a daily dose of positivity that I can appreciate! I hope you do too.
Thanks for visiting,
Janet :)


Saturday, June 23, 2012

Fear And Courage Dance

Hello, I hope your doing good today. I'm hanging in there! As I'm reading this quote, I am asking myself, do I really have to feel my fear, is this really what I have to do to get back to the place of feeling strong, feeling courageous enough to try again. I'm just so done feeling my fears. I thought they were behind me, I thought my life was secure. I'm kinda in survival mode right now, just trying to avoid those feelings, they just hurt too much. But I know me, and I know I'll wind up following this advice, maybe not today, maybe next week. I know I'll get back to courage, I really have no choice.
Thanks for visiting,
Janet :)


Sunday, June 17, 2012

The Most Overlooked Secret

Hello, I hope your all doing good. I was happy to come across this article by Henri Junttila because she reminds us to keep our problems simple by staying in the present. Although I know it can be a real challenge for me to do so, I try a little harder not to worry, not to freak out, each time I do find myself in one of those face slapping experiences in my life!! So as Henri says, just for today, join me in trying to stay in the present and see if it can help you to worry and freak out less. I'm sure it's the tool that will lead to better Mental Health for you and me.
Thanks for visiting,
Janet :)


The Most Overlooked Secret to Dealing with Life’s Problems

How often have you been living life, happy and content, and then suddenly life slaps you in the face with something unexpected? We all have problems, and the truth of the matter is that problems will never go away. They will just change form.

One time you may be struggling with health, the next with money, and still the next with relationships. That is both the curse and blessing of life.

However, you don’t have to suffer because everything isn’t perfect in your life.

Behind the Scenes of Problems
Nothing becomes a problem until you label it so. You’ve probably noticed that different people have different opinions of what problems are, and how much attention should be given to any one thing. This means that problems exist in our heads, and that we create them, define them, and fear them.

I, for example, am great at worrying about problems that do not even exist, and I’m sure you’re no different. But that doesn’t change the fact that problems are made-up.

The Most Overlooked Secret
The secret to dealing with life’s problems is to realize that they are illusions of our imagination. Sure, they feel very real. I’m not denying that.

Let’s say you’re driving your car merrily down the highway, until someone cuts you off. You might fly off the handle, or you might not. It will depend on how you perceive the situation. It’s an excellent example of how some people create something to complain about where others are completely fine.

Life will always have “problems” and the way to deal with them is to let them be. You don’t have to try to analyze, fantasize, or figure out your problems. Let them figure themselves out. The more you try, the more you fuel the problem, and the more miserable you become.

This doesn’t mean you stop solving problems. It means you stop the compulsive worrying and fear-mongering inside your head.

How to Stop the Compulsive Worrying
You can stop the madness by simply staying present, and letting whatever happens be. This can be extremely hard if you bump into a problem that is important to you, but it is through those big problems that the biggest changes occur.

For example, I tend to freak out whenever something threatens my health. I can even go into a cold sweat, which I did a few weeks ago about a possible dental issue. But I remained present. I observed the freak out within my own body and mind without fueling it by thinking and trying to figure it out.

I was the observer of my thoughts, and you know what happened? The thoughts lost momentum and disappeared. The freak out ended within 30 minutes. Some people are so good at freaking out that it goes on for years, or even worse, their whole life.

Why is Life so Hard?
Life can seem tough from time to time, but it is through those tough times that you grow as a human being. It’s uncomfortable, yup, but that’s life.

It’s a rollercoaster with both highs and lows, which we all have to live through, so you might as well learn how to deal with the lows. The more comfortable you become with life’s problems, the more you’ll enjoy life’s gifts.

Life is what it is, and most of life’s problems are created by us. The problems are events in our life, no one is denying that, but the extrapolation that we do freaks us out, and then we wonder why we feel so bad.

It’s a life-long habit most of us have cultivated, which means we can change it. But change starts with awareness.

So, today all I want you to do is be aware of how you worry and freak yourself out, then simply watch your thoughts. You will be pulled back into the drama of your mind, but gently pull your attention back to just watching what goes on.

Be kind to yourself, and enjoy both the highs and the lows.

by Henri Junttila

Thursday, June 14, 2012


Hello, I hope your doing good today, Here are some words to inspire you today from Eileen Caddy. I would have to agree that sometimes our own way of thinking can get in the way of what could be.
Thanks for visiting,
Janet :)


Cease trying to work everything
out with your minds
It will get you nowhere
Live by intuition and inspiration
and let your whole life be Revelation

~ Eileen Caddy ~

Saturday, June 9, 2012

Reconciliation And Restoration

Hello, I hope you are doing good this weekend. I recieved this article in a Nami newsletter and I wanted to share it with any of you who may be in a strained relationship due to a Mental Illness. Dawn Brown lays out some steps to help restore or keep a relationship going, despite all the stresses that are involved when dealing with a Mental Illness. To find local support groups in your area you can click on the link below to Nami. I know from personal experience, the one thing a person does not want when they are suffering is for their loved ones to abandon them or give up. So reach out for help when you need it in order to stay strong, and in the end the results could be that you are strong together!
Have a great weekend,
Janet :)


When mental illness strikes there is always collateral damage that extends beyond the person with the illness to include family and friends. Relationships are often strained to the limit as a person with mental illness struggles to cope with their symptoms and possibly refuses help and lack of resources and support can leave loved ones angry and burnt out. This creates a difficult situation that can result in more hurting than helping, and relationships can be damaged or lost.

Sadly, the most strained relationship is often between a mother and child. Whether your mother has a mental illness or you are the mother of someone with a mental illness, you understand the heartache that exists when the relationship is damaged or lost. Fortunately, even the most difficult situations can be improved, and working towards reconciliation and restoration with your loved one is well worth it

Restoring a relationship that has been damaged by mental illness begins with the acceptance that the relationship will be different. Making adjustments that can restore and sustain the relationship, include:

Realizing that you are not the cause nor do you have the cure for mental illness, realize that you cannot provide all the care needed

Locate resources in your community. Day programs/club houses, NAMI Connection Recovery Support Groups, social services and case management provide social opportunities, support, and professional care that can greatly enrich lives, as well as, lighten the load

Education brings understanding, and understanding brings compassion. Contact your NAMI Affiliate for information about NAMI Family-to-Family and NAMI Peer-to-Peer education programs in your community

Remember to set and respect boundaries. Keep communication clear and concise. Revise your expectations. You should not expect everything or nothing from another individual, be realistic in your expectations

Renegotiate your emotional relationship. Mutual respect will provide equilibrium

Taking care of oneself is essential to having a strong and loving relationship. If you are ill, be willing to receive treatment and manage your illness by cooperating with your medical team and taking prescribed medication. If you are a caregiver, do not ignore your own needs. Providing ongoing, long term support requires you to be at your best

Statistics illustrate the enormous size and economic impact mental illness has on the United States, but they do not reflect the impact it has on our families. We do not have to allow mental illness to damage or destroy our relationships. Do not give up. Forgiveness works to reconcile and love to restore

By Dawn Brown, NAMI HelpLine Information and Referral Specialist

Monday, June 4, 2012



Hello, I hope your doing well today. I am doing good. This is such a serious Mental Illness, but sadly most people are uneducated about this disease. If we were all more educated about this disease, knew the warning signs, earlier treatment and intervention would lead to a better prognosis and life for the person and their family. It is also hard for me to write about this because this is what they first diagnosed my mother with. I now believe she had post partum depression and hallucinations or possibly bipolar disorder because lithium worked well with her. It usually does not work well on people with Schizophrenia. I grew up in fear as a child that I would also become Schizophrenic. I was always told how much I looked liked my mother so therefor I felt I would travel down the same road as her and be in and out of Mental Institutions receiving shock therapy. They kept my mother heavily medicated with Thorazine when she was not in the hospital. How she must of suffered through those horrific treatments back in the 60's. I got so upset once when I watched One who flew over the cuckoo's nest, the reality hit me of what she had to endure. It did take it's toll on her because she did attempt suicide twice. How I hated going into those locked units to visit her, not because I feared it, but it just hurt so much to see her in there. At least today I can say it made me a more compassionate person who appreciates life a little more than others. In 1989 she did go to Pembroke Hospital and got a new Doctor and a new treatment. No more shock therapy, just lithium, she never went into a Mental Hospital again. She stayed on her medicine and we had almost 20 years of good memories as her true self emerged. We had many laughs and in the end she was like my best friend. If you think you know someone who is suffering from this disease and needs help, do not be afraid of them. They are not in their right state of mind, they are not themselves. The only film that showed the true reality of this disease is A Beautiful Mind with Russell Crow and gave me a total understanding of how they see the world, this film would help you to understand their plight too. If you do know someone who has this disease, don't be afraid of them, don't give up on them. Their true self is waiting to be seen, wanting to be loved the way everyone else is, and IMO that is the most important part of their treatment.
Thank you for visiting
Janet :)

What is Schizophrenia?

Schizophrenia is a chronic, severe, and disabling brain disorder that has affected people throughout history. About 1 percent of Americans have this illness.

People with the disorder may hear voices other people don't hear. They may believe other people are reading their minds, controlling their thoughts, or plotting to harm them. This can terrify people with the illness and make them withdrawn or extremely agitated.

People with schizophrenia may not make sense when they talk. They may sit for hours without moving or talking. Sometimes people with schizophrenia seem perfectly fine until they talk about what they are really thinking.

Families and society are affected by schizophrenia too. Many people with schizophrenia have difficulty holding a job or caring for themselves, so they rely on others for help.

Treatment helps relieve many symptoms of schizophrenia, but most people who have the disorder cope with symptoms throughout their lives. However, many people with schizophrenia can lead rewarding and meaningful lives in their communities. Researchers are developing more effective medications and using new research tools to understand the causes of schizophrenia. In the years to come, this work may help prevent and better treat the illness.

What are the symptoms of schizophrenia?

The symptoms of schizophrenia fall into three broad categories: positive symptoms, negative symptoms, and cognitive symptoms.

Positive symptoms
Positive symptoms are psychotic behaviors not seen in healthy people. People with positive symptoms often "lose touch" with reality. These symptoms can come and go. Sometimes they are severe and at other times hardly noticeable, depending on whether the individual is receiving treatment. They include the following:
Hallucinations are things a person sees, hears, smells, or feels that no one else can see, hear, smell, or feel. "Voices" are the most common type of hallucination in schizophrenia. Many people with the disorder hear voices. The voices may talk to the person about his or her behavior, order the person to do things, or warn the person of danger. Sometimes the voices talk to each other. People with schizophrenia may hear voices for a long time before family and friends notice the problem.

Other types of hallucinations include seeing people or objects that are not there, smelling odors that no one else detects, and feeling things like invisible fingers touching their bodies when no one is near.

Delusions are false beliefs that are not part of the person's culture and do not change. The person believes delusions even after other people prove that the beliefs are not true or logical. People with schizophrenia can have delusions that seem bizarre, such as believing that neighbors can control their behavior with magnetic waves. They may also believe that people on television are directing special messages to them, or that radio stations are broadcasting their thoughts aloud to others. Sometimes they believe they are someone else, such as a famous historical figure. They may have paranoid delusions and believe that others are trying to harm them, such as by cheating, harassing, poisoning, spying on, or plotting against them or the people they care about. These beliefs are called "delusions of persecution."

Thought disorders are unusual or dysfunctional ways of thinking. One form of thought disorder is called "disorganized thinking." This is when a person has trouble organizing his or her thoughts or connecting them logically. They may talk in a garbled way that is hard to understand. Another form is called "thought blocking." This is when a person stops speaking abruptly in the middle of a thought. When asked why he or she stopped talking, the person may say that it felt as if the thought had been taken out of his or her head. Finally, a person with a thought disorder might make up meaningless words, or "neologisms."

Movement disorders may appear as agitated body movements. A person with a movement disorder may repeat certain motions over and over. In the other extreme, a person may become catatonic. Catatonia is a state in which a person does not move and does not respond to others. Catatonia is rare today, but it was more common when treatment for schizophrenia was not available.
"Voices" are the most common type of hallucination in schizophrenia.

Negative symptoms
Negative symptoms are associated with disruptions to normal emotions and behaviors. These symptoms are harder to recognize as part of the disorder and can be mistaken for depression or other conditions. These symptoms include the following:

* "Flat affect" (a person's face does not move or he or she talks in a dull or monotonous voice)
* Lack of pleasure in everyday life
* Lack of ability to begin and sustain planned activities
* Speaking little, even when forced to interact.

People with negative symptoms need help with everyday tasks. They often neglect basic personal hygiene. This may make them seem lazy or unwilling to help themselves, but the problems are symptoms caused by the schizophrenia.
Cognitive symptoms

Cognitive symptoms are subtle. Like negative symptoms, cognitive symptoms may be difficult to recognize as part of the disorder. Often, they are detected only when other tests are performed. Cognitive symptoms include the following:

* Poor "executive functioning" (the ability to understand information and use it to make decisions)
* Trouble focusing or paying attention
* Problems with "working memory" (the ability to use information immediately after learning it).

Cognitive symptoms often make it hard to lead a normal life and earn a living. They can cause great emotional distress.

Learn more about RAISE (Recovery After an Initial Schizophrenia Episode), an NIMH research project designed to improve treatment approaches in the earliest stages of the illness at

Learn more about the Clinical Antipsychotic Trials of Intervention Effectiveness
(CATIE), a clinical trial that studied treatment choices for schizophrenia at

Wednesday, May 30, 2012

Highest Aspirations

Hello, A reminder for you and me to keep looking up when life seems to be keeping us down!
Thanks for visiting,
Janet :)

"Far away, there in the sunshine, are my highest aspirations. I may not reach them, but I can look up and see their beauty, believe in them, and try to follow where they lead"
Louisa May Alcott

Sunday, May 27, 2012

Meridian Tapping

Hello, I hope you are all enjoying your weekend. I was researching the internet for new advances in treatments for Mental Health as I usually do for this blog. I came across the Meridian Tapping Technique. I thought it would be a good follow up to my last post on Anxiety Attacks. This can be used for so many Mental Health issues, either on it's own or with other therapies. Some of you may have heard of it before, I personally never have, but if not you may want to check out this method. The basic principle is to release the negative energy that builds up in us, through past traumatic events, or general stressors in life. I am going to learn more about this and try it. I will share any new information I learn and my results with you, if any!
Thanks for visiting,
Janet :)

Points on the body to apply
the Tapping Technique

Meridian Tapping Techniques repair blockages or disturbances in the body's energy system created by negative emotions. A person chooses a specific emotion such as feeling anger, frustration, embarrassment, insult, or belittlement to focus on prior to the tapping session. During the tapping sequence the person focuses on the emotion to be reduced or cleared while also making positive statements to offset the negative emotions. The tapping of fingers tips on various points on the body release pent up energies

Meridian Tapping Founder:
George Goodheart, a chiropractic doctor, is noted for first discovering that tapping the meridians (acupuncture points) was beneficial in the treatment of physical issues. Tapping was done with the finger tips as an alternative to using acupuncture needles. Australian psychiatrist, John Diamond, implemented verbal affirmations to coincide with Goodheart's tapping sequences. A third doctor, psychologist Dr. Roger Callahan who developed TFT added a third component: "focusing" on a negative emotion to clear away

Benefits of MTT:
Stress Relief
Peace of Mind
Calms Anxiety
Pain Management
Helps Resolve Emotional Issues