Friday, June 29, 2012


Hello, Happy Saturday! I'm still having some moments of feeling overwhelmed from recent events. So I think I'm going to remember these words as those moments reappear until they recede to the point of no return. I hope they help you too if you are looking a new tool to help deal with life's stresses.
Thanks for visiting,
Janet :)

Notice how your feelings come in waves. If you just watch them and don't get caught up in thoughts, they rise, crest, and then slowly recede

Tuesday, June 26, 2012

Daily Dose

Hello, I hope your doing good today. This is a daily dose of positivity that I can appreciate! I hope you do too.
Thanks for visiting,
Janet :)


Saturday, June 23, 2012

Fear And Courage Dance

Hello, I hope your doing good today. I'm hanging in there! As I'm reading this quote, I am asking myself, do I really have to feel my fear, is this really what I have to do to get back to the place of feeling strong, feeling courageous enough to try again. I'm just so done feeling my fears. I thought they were behind me, I thought my life was secure. I'm kinda in survival mode right now, just trying to avoid those feelings, they just hurt too much. But I know me, and I know I'll wind up following this advice, maybe not today, maybe next week. I know I'll get back to courage, I really have no choice.
Thanks for visiting,
Janet :)


Sunday, June 17, 2012

The Most Overlooked Secret

Hello, I hope your all doing good. I was happy to come across this article by Henri Junttila because she reminds us to keep our problems simple by staying in the present. Although I know it can be a real challenge for me to do so, I try a little harder not to worry, not to freak out, each time I do find myself in one of those face slapping experiences in my life!! So as Henri says, just for today, join me in trying to stay in the present and see if it can help you to worry and freak out less. I'm sure it's the tool that will lead to better Mental Health for you and me.
Thanks for visiting,
Janet :)


The Most Overlooked Secret to Dealing with Life’s Problems

How often have you been living life, happy and content, and then suddenly life slaps you in the face with something unexpected? We all have problems, and the truth of the matter is that problems will never go away. They will just change form.

One time you may be struggling with health, the next with money, and still the next with relationships. That is both the curse and blessing of life.

However, you don’t have to suffer because everything isn’t perfect in your life.

Behind the Scenes of Problems
Nothing becomes a problem until you label it so. You’ve probably noticed that different people have different opinions of what problems are, and how much attention should be given to any one thing. This means that problems exist in our heads, and that we create them, define them, and fear them.

I, for example, am great at worrying about problems that do not even exist, and I’m sure you’re no different. But that doesn’t change the fact that problems are made-up.

The Most Overlooked Secret
The secret to dealing with life’s problems is to realize that they are illusions of our imagination. Sure, they feel very real. I’m not denying that.

Let’s say you’re driving your car merrily down the highway, until someone cuts you off. You might fly off the handle, or you might not. It will depend on how you perceive the situation. It’s an excellent example of how some people create something to complain about where others are completely fine.

Life will always have “problems” and the way to deal with them is to let them be. You don’t have to try to analyze, fantasize, or figure out your problems. Let them figure themselves out. The more you try, the more you fuel the problem, and the more miserable you become.

This doesn’t mean you stop solving problems. It means you stop the compulsive worrying and fear-mongering inside your head.

How to Stop the Compulsive Worrying
You can stop the madness by simply staying present, and letting whatever happens be. This can be extremely hard if you bump into a problem that is important to you, but it is through those big problems that the biggest changes occur.

For example, I tend to freak out whenever something threatens my health. I can even go into a cold sweat, which I did a few weeks ago about a possible dental issue. But I remained present. I observed the freak out within my own body and mind without fueling it by thinking and trying to figure it out.

I was the observer of my thoughts, and you know what happened? The thoughts lost momentum and disappeared. The freak out ended within 30 minutes. Some people are so good at freaking out that it goes on for years, or even worse, their whole life.

Why is Life so Hard?
Life can seem tough from time to time, but it is through those tough times that you grow as a human being. It’s uncomfortable, yup, but that’s life.

It’s a rollercoaster with both highs and lows, which we all have to live through, so you might as well learn how to deal with the lows. The more comfortable you become with life’s problems, the more you’ll enjoy life’s gifts.

Life is what it is, and most of life’s problems are created by us. The problems are events in our life, no one is denying that, but the extrapolation that we do freaks us out, and then we wonder why we feel so bad.

It’s a life-long habit most of us have cultivated, which means we can change it. But change starts with awareness.

So, today all I want you to do is be aware of how you worry and freak yourself out, then simply watch your thoughts. You will be pulled back into the drama of your mind, but gently pull your attention back to just watching what goes on.

Be kind to yourself, and enjoy both the highs and the lows.

by Henri Junttila

Thursday, June 14, 2012


Hello, I hope your doing good today, Here are some words to inspire you today from Eileen Caddy. I would have to agree that sometimes our own way of thinking can get in the way of what could be.
Thanks for visiting,
Janet :)


Cease trying to work everything
out with your minds
It will get you nowhere
Live by intuition and inspiration
and let your whole life be Revelation

~ Eileen Caddy ~

Saturday, June 9, 2012

Reconciliation And Restoration

Hello, I hope you are doing good this weekend. I recieved this article in a Nami newsletter and I wanted to share it with any of you who may be in a strained relationship due to a Mental Illness. Dawn Brown lays out some steps to help restore or keep a relationship going, despite all the stresses that are involved when dealing with a Mental Illness. To find local support groups in your area you can click on the link below to Nami. I know from personal experience, the one thing a person does not want when they are suffering is for their loved ones to abandon them or give up. So reach out for help when you need it in order to stay strong, and in the end the results could be that you are strong together!
Have a great weekend,
Janet :)


When mental illness strikes there is always collateral damage that extends beyond the person with the illness to include family and friends. Relationships are often strained to the limit as a person with mental illness struggles to cope with their symptoms and possibly refuses help and lack of resources and support can leave loved ones angry and burnt out. This creates a difficult situation that can result in more hurting than helping, and relationships can be damaged or lost.

Sadly, the most strained relationship is often between a mother and child. Whether your mother has a mental illness or you are the mother of someone with a mental illness, you understand the heartache that exists when the relationship is damaged or lost. Fortunately, even the most difficult situations can be improved, and working towards reconciliation and restoration with your loved one is well worth it

Restoring a relationship that has been damaged by mental illness begins with the acceptance that the relationship will be different. Making adjustments that can restore and sustain the relationship, include:

Realizing that you are not the cause nor do you have the cure for mental illness, realize that you cannot provide all the care needed

Locate resources in your community. Day programs/club houses, NAMI Connection Recovery Support Groups, social services and case management provide social opportunities, support, and professional care that can greatly enrich lives, as well as, lighten the load

Education brings understanding, and understanding brings compassion. Contact your NAMI Affiliate for information about NAMI Family-to-Family and NAMI Peer-to-Peer education programs in your community

Remember to set and respect boundaries. Keep communication clear and concise. Revise your expectations. You should not expect everything or nothing from another individual, be realistic in your expectations

Renegotiate your emotional relationship. Mutual respect will provide equilibrium

Taking care of oneself is essential to having a strong and loving relationship. If you are ill, be willing to receive treatment and manage your illness by cooperating with your medical team and taking prescribed medication. If you are a caregiver, do not ignore your own needs. Providing ongoing, long term support requires you to be at your best

Statistics illustrate the enormous size and economic impact mental illness has on the United States, but they do not reflect the impact it has on our families. We do not have to allow mental illness to damage or destroy our relationships. Do not give up. Forgiveness works to reconcile and love to restore

By Dawn Brown, NAMI HelpLine Information and Referral Specialist

Monday, June 4, 2012



Hello, I hope your doing well today. I am doing good. This is such a serious Mental Illness, but sadly most people are uneducated about this disease. If we were all more educated about this disease, knew the warning signs, earlier treatment and intervention would lead to a better prognosis and life for the person and their family. It is also hard for me to write about this because this is what they first diagnosed my mother with. I now believe she had post partum depression and hallucinations or possibly bipolar disorder because lithium worked well with her. It usually does not work well on people with Schizophrenia. I grew up in fear as a child that I would also become Schizophrenic. I was always told how much I looked liked my mother so therefor I felt I would travel down the same road as her and be in and out of Mental Institutions receiving shock therapy. They kept my mother heavily medicated with Thorazine when she was not in the hospital. How she must of suffered through those horrific treatments back in the 60's. I got so upset once when I watched One who flew over the cuckoo's nest, the reality hit me of what she had to endure. It did take it's toll on her because she did attempt suicide twice. How I hated going into those locked units to visit her, not because I feared it, but it just hurt so much to see her in there. At least today I can say it made me a more compassionate person who appreciates life a little more than others. In 1989 she did go to Pembroke Hospital and got a new Doctor and a new treatment. No more shock therapy, just lithium, she never went into a Mental Hospital again. She stayed on her medicine and we had almost 20 years of good memories as her true self emerged. We had many laughs and in the end she was like my best friend. If you think you know someone who is suffering from this disease and needs help, do not be afraid of them. They are not in their right state of mind, they are not themselves. The only film that showed the true reality of this disease is A Beautiful Mind with Russell Crow and gave me a total understanding of how they see the world, this film would help you to understand their plight too. If you do know someone who has this disease, don't be afraid of them, don't give up on them. Their true self is waiting to be seen, wanting to be loved the way everyone else is, and IMO that is the most important part of their treatment.
Thank you for visiting
Janet :)

What is Schizophrenia?

Schizophrenia is a chronic, severe, and disabling brain disorder that has affected people throughout history. About 1 percent of Americans have this illness.

People with the disorder may hear voices other people don't hear. They may believe other people are reading their minds, controlling their thoughts, or plotting to harm them. This can terrify people with the illness and make them withdrawn or extremely agitated.

People with schizophrenia may not make sense when they talk. They may sit for hours without moving or talking. Sometimes people with schizophrenia seem perfectly fine until they talk about what they are really thinking.

Families and society are affected by schizophrenia too. Many people with schizophrenia have difficulty holding a job or caring for themselves, so they rely on others for help.

Treatment helps relieve many symptoms of schizophrenia, but most people who have the disorder cope with symptoms throughout their lives. However, many people with schizophrenia can lead rewarding and meaningful lives in their communities. Researchers are developing more effective medications and using new research tools to understand the causes of schizophrenia. In the years to come, this work may help prevent and better treat the illness.

What are the symptoms of schizophrenia?

The symptoms of schizophrenia fall into three broad categories: positive symptoms, negative symptoms, and cognitive symptoms.

Positive symptoms
Positive symptoms are psychotic behaviors not seen in healthy people. People with positive symptoms often "lose touch" with reality. These symptoms can come and go. Sometimes they are severe and at other times hardly noticeable, depending on whether the individual is receiving treatment. They include the following:
Hallucinations are things a person sees, hears, smells, or feels that no one else can see, hear, smell, or feel. "Voices" are the most common type of hallucination in schizophrenia. Many people with the disorder hear voices. The voices may talk to the person about his or her behavior, order the person to do things, or warn the person of danger. Sometimes the voices talk to each other. People with schizophrenia may hear voices for a long time before family and friends notice the problem.

Other types of hallucinations include seeing people or objects that are not there, smelling odors that no one else detects, and feeling things like invisible fingers touching their bodies when no one is near.

Delusions are false beliefs that are not part of the person's culture and do not change. The person believes delusions even after other people prove that the beliefs are not true or logical. People with schizophrenia can have delusions that seem bizarre, such as believing that neighbors can control their behavior with magnetic waves. They may also believe that people on television are directing special messages to them, or that radio stations are broadcasting their thoughts aloud to others. Sometimes they believe they are someone else, such as a famous historical figure. They may have paranoid delusions and believe that others are trying to harm them, such as by cheating, harassing, poisoning, spying on, or plotting against them or the people they care about. These beliefs are called "delusions of persecution."

Thought disorders are unusual or dysfunctional ways of thinking. One form of thought disorder is called "disorganized thinking." This is when a person has trouble organizing his or her thoughts or connecting them logically. They may talk in a garbled way that is hard to understand. Another form is called "thought blocking." This is when a person stops speaking abruptly in the middle of a thought. When asked why he or she stopped talking, the person may say that it felt as if the thought had been taken out of his or her head. Finally, a person with a thought disorder might make up meaningless words, or "neologisms."

Movement disorders may appear as agitated body movements. A person with a movement disorder may repeat certain motions over and over. In the other extreme, a person may become catatonic. Catatonia is a state in which a person does not move and does not respond to others. Catatonia is rare today, but it was more common when treatment for schizophrenia was not available.
"Voices" are the most common type of hallucination in schizophrenia.

Negative symptoms
Negative symptoms are associated with disruptions to normal emotions and behaviors. These symptoms are harder to recognize as part of the disorder and can be mistaken for depression or other conditions. These symptoms include the following:

* "Flat affect" (a person's face does not move or he or she talks in a dull or monotonous voice)
* Lack of pleasure in everyday life
* Lack of ability to begin and sustain planned activities
* Speaking little, even when forced to interact.

People with negative symptoms need help with everyday tasks. They often neglect basic personal hygiene. This may make them seem lazy or unwilling to help themselves, but the problems are symptoms caused by the schizophrenia.
Cognitive symptoms

Cognitive symptoms are subtle. Like negative symptoms, cognitive symptoms may be difficult to recognize as part of the disorder. Often, they are detected only when other tests are performed. Cognitive symptoms include the following:

* Poor "executive functioning" (the ability to understand information and use it to make decisions)
* Trouble focusing or paying attention
* Problems with "working memory" (the ability to use information immediately after learning it).

Cognitive symptoms often make it hard to lead a normal life and earn a living. They can cause great emotional distress.

Learn more about RAISE (Recovery After an Initial Schizophrenia Episode), an NIMH research project designed to improve treatment approaches in the earliest stages of the illness at

Learn more about the Clinical Antipsychotic Trials of Intervention Effectiveness
(CATIE), a clinical trial that studied treatment choices for schizophrenia at