Sunday, June 17, 2012

The Most Overlooked Secret

Hello, I hope your all doing good. I was happy to come across this article by Henri Junttila because she reminds us to keep our problems simple by staying in the present. Although I know it can be a real challenge for me to do so, I try a little harder not to worry, not to freak out, each time I do find myself in one of those face slapping experiences in my life!! So as Henri says, just for today, join me in trying to stay in the present and see if it can help you to worry and freak out less. I'm sure it's the tool that will lead to better Mental Health for you and me.
Thanks for visiting,
Janet :)


The Most Overlooked Secret to Dealing with Life’s Problems

How often have you been living life, happy and content, and then suddenly life slaps you in the face with something unexpected? We all have problems, and the truth of the matter is that problems will never go away. They will just change form.

One time you may be struggling with health, the next with money, and still the next with relationships. That is both the curse and blessing of life.

However, you don’t have to suffer because everything isn’t perfect in your life.

Behind the Scenes of Problems
Nothing becomes a problem until you label it so. You’ve probably noticed that different people have different opinions of what problems are, and how much attention should be given to any one thing. This means that problems exist in our heads, and that we create them, define them, and fear them.

I, for example, am great at worrying about problems that do not even exist, and I’m sure you’re no different. But that doesn’t change the fact that problems are made-up.

The Most Overlooked Secret
The secret to dealing with life’s problems is to realize that they are illusions of our imagination. Sure, they feel very real. I’m not denying that.

Let’s say you’re driving your car merrily down the highway, until someone cuts you off. You might fly off the handle, or you might not. It will depend on how you perceive the situation. It’s an excellent example of how some people create something to complain about where others are completely fine.

Life will always have “problems” and the way to deal with them is to let them be. You don’t have to try to analyze, fantasize, or figure out your problems. Let them figure themselves out. The more you try, the more you fuel the problem, and the more miserable you become.

This doesn’t mean you stop solving problems. It means you stop the compulsive worrying and fear-mongering inside your head.

How to Stop the Compulsive Worrying
You can stop the madness by simply staying present, and letting whatever happens be. This can be extremely hard if you bump into a problem that is important to you, but it is through those big problems that the biggest changes occur.

For example, I tend to freak out whenever something threatens my health. I can even go into a cold sweat, which I did a few weeks ago about a possible dental issue. But I remained present. I observed the freak out within my own body and mind without fueling it by thinking and trying to figure it out.

I was the observer of my thoughts, and you know what happened? The thoughts lost momentum and disappeared. The freak out ended within 30 minutes. Some people are so good at freaking out that it goes on for years, or even worse, their whole life.

Why is Life so Hard?
Life can seem tough from time to time, but it is through those tough times that you grow as a human being. It’s uncomfortable, yup, but that’s life.

It’s a rollercoaster with both highs and lows, which we all have to live through, so you might as well learn how to deal with the lows. The more comfortable you become with life’s problems, the more you’ll enjoy life’s gifts.

Life is what it is, and most of life’s problems are created by us. The problems are events in our life, no one is denying that, but the extrapolation that we do freaks us out, and then we wonder why we feel so bad.

It’s a life-long habit most of us have cultivated, which means we can change it. But change starts with awareness.

So, today all I want you to do is be aware of how you worry and freak yourself out, then simply watch your thoughts. You will be pulled back into the drama of your mind, but gently pull your attention back to just watching what goes on.

Be kind to yourself, and enjoy both the highs and the lows.

by Henri Junttila


  1. Hello, dear Janet.
    Such a wonderful article! It came right on time as I am just starting to over dramatize some issues in my life that might not be that big, after all. I'll try to live in the present more, I know it's good for health, both mental and physical.

    Have a wonderful week and less worries at work :)

    1. I'm so glad it helped you, funny isn't how sometimes when you post something it was just what someone else needed too!

  2. in A.A. I kearned this simple phrase K.I.S.S. (Keep It Simple Stupid) that has worked for me for a long time now.

  3. When little annoyances happen, I try to ask myself if it will matter next week or even tomorrow. Most the times these things don't. As far as worry, I can spend my vacation worrying about all of the stress that will be upon me come August or choose not to focus on it. I'd rather not focus.

    1. Good and healthy way of thinking things out Joyce! Thanks for the comment :)

  4. Dear Janet, this post couldn't have come at a better time for me. Very interesting and very true. I hope you are well my dear. Blessings to you, your friend, Catherine xo

    1. It really makes me happy to share something that someone else needs as well. All is going pretty good. I hope the same for you,
      Hugs to you :)

  5. Your personal advice to me on my blog also fits this article as well. One day, one moment, even one minute at a time when you need to. If you can "get through this day", you can tackle the issue again tomorrow if you need to. Oh Janet..I remember the drunk ignorant days, and sometimes I do miss the numbness. I enjoyed enlightenment, but with knowledge, one still has to deal with chaos and conflict. I have been trying my best to keep it together, and believe it or not, Entrecard, and a show called Private Practice has been keeping me going. I can't even sit still for youtube or music at the moment. So whatever anyone can do to let the moment pass without anger, or getting frustrated, is a win! Love you!!

    1. You are so wise though Kim, your truly are! You have such a gift of insight to yourself and your life around you and with that gift, I know it will always help you to get through what you need to. You are stronger than you think, so don't be so hard on yourself for feeling tired. Your entitled to feel the way you feel, that's what life does to us, it gives us times of tiredness I guess you would say, just like it gives us times of joy, sadness. I use to watch Private Practice too, I got behind on it though and like they say, whatever get's you through, your in survival mode, and that's a good sign to me!
      Love ya, hang in there!