Wednesday, October 31, 2012

Gangnam Halloween

Hello, I hope your enjoying your Halloween, here is a Halloween light show that you will either find amusing, or annoying! But no matter what you think of it, you have to give Kudos to the person who was able to create it. Enjoy!
Thanks for visiting,
Janet :)

Sunday, October 28, 2012

Wednesday, October 24, 2012

Wings

Hello, I love this because it is so true, sometimes when we are at our weakest, it is really just a resting point to gather the strength we need to begin again.
Thanks for visiting,
Janet :)

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Saturday, October 20, 2012

Depression

Hello, October is Depression Awareness month. Here is some information on the signs and symptoms of Depression. There is no need to feel any shame if you or a loved one are suffering from this illness. It is easily treated today, thanks to the advances in medicine and therapy.
Thanks for visiting,
Janet :)

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What is depression?
Everyone occasionally feels blue or sad. But these feelings are usually short-lived and pass within a couple of days. When you have depression, it interferes with daily life and causes pain for both you and those who care about you. Depression is a common but serious illness. Many people with a depressive illness never seek treatment. But the majority, even those with the most severe depression, can get better with treatment. Medications, psychotherapies, and other methods can effectively treat people

What are the different forms of depression?

There are several forms of depressive disorders.
Major depressive disorder, or major depression, is characterized by a combination of symptoms that interfere with a person’s ability to work, sleep, study, eat, and enjoy once pleasurable activities

Major depression is disabling and prevents a person from functioning normally. Some people may experience only a single episode within their lifetime, but more often a person may have multiple episodes

Signs and Symptoms

Persistent sad, anxious, or “empty” feelings

Feelings of hopelessness or pessimism

Feelings of guilt, worthlessness, or helplessness
Irritability, restlessness

Loss of interest in activities or hobbies once
pleasurable, including sex

Fatigue and decreased energy

Difficulty concentrating, remembering details, and
making decisions

Insomnia, early-morning wakefulness, or excessive
sleeping

Overeating, or appetite loss

Thoughts of suicide, suicide attempts

Aches or pains, headaches, cramps, or digestive
problems that do not ease even with treatment

Sunday, October 14, 2012

Coming Around Again

Hello, Happy Music Monday. I love this song by Simon Webbe, it is both an inspirational and spiritual song. We have all had times in our lives where we have gotten to a dark place. We may have been sitting in that dark place due to Depression, other Mental Illnesses, Alcohol or Drug abuse, loss of love and/or loved ones. But in the long run it does not matter how we got to that place, what matters is that we got out of it, and that we came around to life again in a better and stronger way!
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Janet :)



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Lyrics:

I've been sitting in the darkness
But the sunlight's creeping in
Now the ice is slowly melting
In my soul and in my skin
All the good times my friend
Are coming around again
Oh yeah

I been thinking reminiscing
Of better nights and better days
Hiding in a refuge
Of memories I've made
I got a feeling within
It's coming around again

We been so long waiting
For the all time high
We got a damn good reason
To put your troubles aside
And all your winter sorrows
hang 'em out to dry
Throw it away
Gotta throw it away
All the colorful days my friend
Are coming around again

I got someone waiting for me
It's been so long since we met
And I may not be your salvation
but I'll offer nonetheless
And if like me u wanna take that chance
It's coming around again
Ooh yeah

I can feel a change of fortune
No more riding on my love
Feel the weight is off my
shoulders
As my feet become unstuck
And all the good times on which
we do depend
Oh it's coming around again

Saturday, October 6, 2012

The Paradox Of Our Times


Hello, A very insightful look from the Dalai Lama into how many of us are living our lives today.
Thanks for visiting,
Janet :)

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THE PARADOX OF OUR TIMES
Is that we have taller buildings, but shorter tempers
Wider freeways, but narrower viewpoints
We spend more, but we have less.

We have bigger houses, but smaller families
More conveniences, but less time.
We have more degrees, but less sense
More knowledge, but less judgement
More experts, but more problems
More medicines, but less wellness.

We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values.
We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often
We have learnt how to make a living, but not a life.
We have added years to life, but not life to years.
We've been all the way to the moon and back
But have trouble crossing the street to meet the new neighbour.
We have conquered outer space, but not inner space.
We've cleaned up the air, but polluted our soul.
We've split the atom, but not our prejudice.
We've higher incomes, but lower morals.
We've become long on quantity but short on quality.

These are the times of tall men, and short character;
Steep profits, and shallow relationships.
These are the times of world peace, but domestic warfare,
More leisure, but less fun; more kinds of food, but less nutrition.

These are the days of two incomes, but more divorces;
Of fancier houses, but broken homes.
It is a time when there is much in the show window, and
nothing in the stockroom.

Dalai Lama

Wednesday, October 3, 2012

Feelings,They Will Wait

Hello, I came across these words by an unknown author and it's as if they were speaking to me. It's just what I needed to hear at this time in my life. Since my brother in law, who is 56 yrs young was diagnosed with Terminal Cancer, I have had a hard time expressing my thoughts and feelings like I use to. I think I'm sort of in numb mode. Then just a couple of days ago, my sister called to tell me her husband who is 59 yrs young is having serious issues with his heart and it does not look good. Both of these guys have been my brother in laws for over 25 yrs, so they are more like my brothers. Death has been a part of my life since I was 23, losing my Father at the age of 53, but there seems to be a little too much of it since 2008 and up until 2 yrs ago, I didn't deal with it the way I should have. I use to drink the pain of loss away. Since 2008 the people that I lost were mostly young in age too, one of the best friends I ever had, gone at 59, a close family member at age 52, and along with them two, I lost my Mother and Mother in law 5 months apart, now it's coming around again, only this time I don't want to run, or turn to that old behavior, because they are so right when they say, you can waste years running from them, but your feelings, they will wait! I do know one thing about myself now though, I know I am a stronger person than before, so I'm sure I'll get to the same place as this person did with their feelings, I will learn to feel them and not be afraid. I hope this helps any of you who are learning to face your feelings in a new way as well.
Thanks for visiting,
Janet

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Are there feelings you're afraid to feel? Are there feelings you'd go to just about any length to avoid feeling? Feelings you'd use substances or have meaningless sex or binge and purge or injure yourself to avoid feeling? For me the answer is about 99% no. I say 99% because every now and then, my anxiety or stress will become intolerable and I'll purge or restrict or whatever because I can't or don't want to deal with it head on. We all have those days when we just can't DEAL. But what if that's every day? What if it's all day, every day? Certainly, that's a problem. I have certainly been there. What I learned over the course of many years of trial and error and therapy is that no matter what you do to avoid those things you don't want to feel, whenever you stop with your avoidance behaviors, those feelings are still right there where they always were. Damn it. DAMN IT. You can waste years running from feelings you're sure will go away, if you just avoid them long enough, but I can assure you, they will wait as long as you can run. It's really frustrating. I wish I had figured that out a lot sooner than I did. I learned, through therapy, that the feelings I was so terrified of-- grief, panic, rage, loss, pain, joy, hope-- those feelings I thought had the power to take me down psychologically where I would go irretrievably mad, were actually tolerable. Unpleasant as hell, but survivable. And I came out better on the other side. I just didn't trust that my brain wouldn't overwhelm me, but instead would release those feelings in manageable bursts. And now, I actually relish every feeling that I have. I don't mind crying, I'm not afraid of hurting or looking stupid or being afraid. I faced the worst feelings inside myself and came out stronger. My physical self has nearly died, and I now welcome any feeling that reminds me I'm still here, still alive, still human. So please, try not to be afraid of the intensity of your feelings, and try not run from them through self-destruction. Remember that our emotions are what make us human and fully alive, and that no feeling lasts forever! You will survive. ♥