Monday, July 22, 2019


Detachment and Being Detached
By Remez Sasson

Detachment is an inner state of calmness and being uninvolved on the emotional and mental planes. It is definitely not indifference. People who are indifferent do not care about anything, and are not active and initiative. On the other hand, people who possess emotional and mental detachment can be very active and caring, though they accept calmly whatever happens. Such people accept the good and the bad equally, because they enjoy inner balance and peace.

If they cannot do or change something, it does not disturb their peace of mind. If they are convinced of the importance of some action, they will pursue it whole-heartedly, and can ignore distractions easily. If they succeed with what they do, that is fine, and if they don't, they will either try again or forget the matter and move to something else.

Count the number of times you got emotionally involved in something against your will and better judgment. How many times have you got angry, frustrated or disappointed? How many times have your moods swung high and low? Each time you tell yourself that next time you will stay cool and calm, and yet each time you forget what you said.

When it comes to personal affairs, it is hard to stay emotionally uninvolved. You get involved, and this is quite natural, otherwise life would have been boring. Involvement makes life ticking and active. Yet, it advisable to develop at least some detachment, as this will help you in many situations.

Detachment is important in daily life, in the pursuit of ambitions and on the spiritual path. It is of great importance to everyone, whether pursuing spirituality or material success. Every spiritual tradition speaks about detachment, but detachment cannot be confined only to spirituality.

Let me give you some examples of detachment. Suppose you meditate, but thoughts keep coming into your mind. You get emotionally involved with your thoughts, follow them and forget about your meditation and concentration. If you were able to manifest detachment it would have been easier to ignore the disturbing thoughts. Detachment would have helped you to stay collected and concentrated.

What happens when somebody says to you something that you do not like? You will probably become angry, unhappy or insulted. Why is this so? Because you value other's people words and opinions more than you value your own thoughts and opinions of yourself. You let other's people thoughts, words and actions influence your happiness, actions and reactions. Your happiness and actions depend on them.

On the other hand, if you are able to stay detached, you will not be disturbed. You will stay calm. You will even be able to benefit from what they say. You will not waste hours thinking about their words.

Have you ever thought how much time and energy is wasted every day brooding on useless thoughts and feelings because of the lack of detachment? Much of the anger, frustration, unhappiness, disappointments and fights are due to lack of detachment.

One of the ways to develop detachment is through meditation. It is a gradual and automatic process. In meditation one endeavors not to follow the thoughts and feelings that rise. It is a time of a mental and emotional vacation. Meditating day after day develops the habit of staying cool and calm, not only during meditation, but also in all daily life.

If you practice any kind of meditation, sooner or later you will start to experience detachment. You will find that you feel and behave in a different way under circumstances that previously raised anger or agitation. You will find that you handle your daily affairs of life in a calm and relaxed way.

Real detachment means inner strength, and the ability to function calmly and with full inner control under all circumstances. A detached person is not harassed and hurried, and can do everything with concentration and attention, thus insuring a successful outcome of his actions.

Thursday, August 14, 2014

How I Wish

Hello My Friends, Long time no Blog! I think I'm ready to come back to it. With the recent event of Robin Williams Suicide, I can't help but feel the need to start talking about Mental Illness again. I started this blog in Memory of my mother who suffered for 50 years with Mental Illness. Looking back now, I realize that her suffering was not only from the Mental Illness. She suffered from Stigma, Discrimination, and Abandonment, from society, some family and all of her friends. The pain of watching what she endured has never left me, and probably never will. So my hope has always been to stop that from happening to another person, in any way I could, big or small. Then the world of blogging came along and I decided this would be my opportunity to help educate people on Mental Illness. I feel that through the education of Mental Illness people will come to understand it as a disease, like Cancer, Diabetes, etc, and that it can be treated. Knowing the different Mental Illnesses and their treatments should lead to less fear, and with less fear, no more Stigma. So having said that, I want to share with you that like the rest of the world, I am heart broken to hear of Robin's Suicide. I always loved his Comedy and Acting. I had the opportunity once to tell him in person. I was riding home on a train from Disneyland in Florida in 1988. I got off the train in Washington DC to switch trains when someone told me Robin Williams is here! They showed me where he was and My husband, daughter and I ran over to meet him. He was just sitting there, so quiet, with his wife reading a newspaper. I approached him and said "I just love you Robin!" With that he just smiled a little smile and graciously signed my pocketbook, because I had no paper on me! Now I treasure that memory even more so. I feel that he must of been at the point of no return, he must of hit the depths of despair. How I wish, as all of you and his family do, that he could have been stopped or saved somehow. How I wish there was a cure for all of the Mental Disorders. I know how easy it is to give up the fight against the mental illness that is plaguing you, my mother attempted suicide twice, and only for the Grace of God, she survived. My Mother had had enough, she did not want any more Shock Therapy, she did not want any more Thorazine, and not that I'm justifying it, it's just that I can understand it. It's a world that most of us will thankfully never know. Remember to have compassion for those who do. We should all remember Robin for the Genius that he was, and not the way his life ended. He fought for a long time and the world was blessed for having him for 63 yrs. If your visiting for the first time, and want to know more about any Mental Illnesses, like Depression, Bipolar Disorder, Schizophrenia, just search for it in the search bar above. Hopefully I will be able to update on these illnesses with new information as breakthroughs are being researched. Until next post, take care and remember to have compassion towards everyone, you don't know what battle they may be fighting in private.
Thank for visiting my blog.
Janet

Saturday, March 9, 2013

Love And Kisses

Hello, How are you? I am doing good, busy, but good! I have been thinking over the past week on how to write this post, because it is hard for me, but it is something I have to do. I have decided to stop blogging for a while, maybe permanently, I'm not sure yet. Reasons for this decision range from a bit of blogging burnout, to just being busy with work and family. I feel truly sad as I write this, because I have loved blogging and in the process made connections to so many people. I will still be in touch on Facebook and if we are not friends on Facebook, I will visit your blogs as often as I can to keep in touch. Thank you for always supporting me on this blog. You helped me so much when I wrote about the harder times in my life with your kind words and thoughts and really carried me through those hard times. You also delighted in my happy and joyful times, and for all of those reasons, you will always be in my heart. Take care and I'm not going to really say goodbye, because goodbye seems like a permanent end to knowing each other, and I hope that is not the case. Think of it as "So Long" from here-for now!
Janet :)

Love And Kisses to you!
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Friday, February 8, 2013

Special Message

Hello, I came across this special message that John F. Kennedy wrote to Congress 50 yrs ago this month. We have come a long way since this message, but I feel we still have to stay proactive in finding better preventative measures and treatments for issues of Mental Health. As most people know, the Kennedy family was affected by Rosemary's prefrontal lobotomy at age 23, which left her permanently incapacitated. I'm sure that is where his incentive for this message came from. I'm touched and grateful to read this 50 years later, knowing that he cared enough to advocate for the Mentally Disabled.
Thanks for visiting,
Janet :)


Special Message to the Congress on Mental Illness and Mental Retardation

To the Congress of the United States:
From the earliest days of the Public Health Service to the latest research of the National Institutes of Health, the Federal Government has recognized its responsibilities to assist, stimulate and channel public energies in attacking health problems. Infectious epidemics are now largely under control. Most of the major diseases of the body are beginning to give ground in man's increasing struggle to find their cause and cure. But the public understanding, treatment and prevention of mental disabilities have not made comparable progress since the earliest days of modern history.

Yet mental illness and mental retardation are among our most critical health problems. They occur more frequently, affect more people, require more prolonged treatment, cause more suffering by the families of the afflicted, waste more of our human resources, and constitute more financial drain upon both the public treasury and the personal finances of the individual families than any other single condition.

There are now about 800,000 such patients in this Nation's institutions--600,000 for mental illness and over 200,000 for mental retardation. Every year nearly 1,500,000 people receive treatment in institutions for the mentally ill and mentally retarded. Most of them are confined and compressed within an antiquated, vastly overcrowded, chain of custodial State institutions. The average amount expended on their care is only $4 a day--too little to do much good for the individual, but too much if measured in terms of efficient use of our mental health dollars. In some States the average is less than $2 a day.

The total cost to the taxpayers is over $2.4 billion a year in direct public outlays for services--about $ 1.8 billion for mental illness and $600 million for mental retardation. Indirect public outlays--in welfare costs and in the waste of human resources--are even higher. But the anguish suffered both by those afflicted and by their families transcends financial statistics--particularly in view of the fact that both mental illness and mental retardation strike so often in childhood, leading in most cases to a lifetime of disablement for the patient and a lifetime of hardship for his family.

This situation has been tolerated far too long. It has troubled our national conscience--but only as a problem unpleasant to mention, easy to postpone, and despairing of solution. The Federal Government, despite the nation-wide impact of the problem, has largely left the solutions up to the States. The States have depended on custodial hospitals and homes. Many such hospitals and homes have been shamefully understaffed, overcrowded, unpleasant institutions from which death too often provided the only firm hope of release.

The time has come for a bold new approach. New medical, scientific, and social tools and insights are now available. A series of comprehensive studies initiated by the Congress, the Executive Branch and interested private groups have been completed and all point in the same direction.

Governments at every level--Federal, State, and local--private foundations and individual citizens must all face up to their responsibilities in this area. Our attack must be focused on three major objectives:

First, we must seek out the causes of mental illness and of mental retardation and eradicate them. Here, more than in any other area, "an ounce of prevention is worth more than a pound of cure." For prevention is far more desirable for all concerned. It is far more economical and it is far more likely to be successful. Prevention will require both selected specific programs directed especially at known causes, and the general strengthening of our fundamental community, social welfare, and educational programs which can do much to eliminate or correct the harsh environmental conditions which often are associated with mental retardation and mental illness. The proposals contained in my earlier Message to the Congress on Education and those which will be contained in a later message I will send on the Nation's Health will also help achieve this objective.

Second, we must strengthen the underlying resources of knowledge and, above all, of skilled manpower which are necessary to mount and sustain our attack on mental disability for many years to come. Personnel from many of the same professions serve both the mentally ill and the mentally retarded. We must increase our existing training programs and launch new ones; for our efforts cannot succeed unless we increase by several-fold in the next decade the number of professional and subprofessional personnel who work in these fields. My proposals on the Health Professions and Aid for Higher Education are essential to this goal; and both the proposed Youth Employment program and a national service corps can be of immense help. We must also expand our research efforts, if we are to learn more about how to prevent and treat the crippling or malfunction of the mind.

Third, we must strengthen and improve the programs and facilities serving the mentally ill and the mentally retarded. The emphasis should be upon timely and intensive diagnosis, treatment, training, and rehabilitation so that the mentally afflicted can be cured or their functions restored to the extent possible. Services to both the mentally ill and to the mentally retarded must be community based and provide a range of services to meet community needs.

For the full message click the link below
http://www.presidency.ucsb.edu/ws/?pid=9546

Monday, February 4, 2013

It Takes

Hello, I hope your doing well. I'm doing good. I haven't had the time to research any new articles lately for this blog, so I've gotten a bit behind. As soon as I get adjusted to my new routine, I'll begin researching again, and post new articles relating to mental health issues. Until then here is a few words of encouragement.
Thanks for visiting,
Janet :)

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